We started bickering, and then we quarreled. Why on earth?

Couples in the middle and late stages of love always quarrel over trifles? In fact, when arguing, the IQ of both sides is almost zero, and they will not calm down and consider the nature of the argument. At the moment of quarrel, it was like playing a game. I won't bow to you unless you allow me!

Sometimes we yell at our partners. We want her to spend more time with me and less time with my best friend! But calm down and think. Because I love her and want to be with her? Or because I want to control her?

The reason why we quarrel repeatedly on the same topic is not because of this topic, but because neither side will calm down and think about another meaning contained in this topic.

Through quarreling, we can know more clearly that our thoughts and starting points may be wrong from the beginning, and many of us regard our needs and feelings as love! It's like I need someone to give me unique care, and at this time, someone just gave me this care. You think this is love! In fact, it's just that this person is boring and gives you a unique love for the time being!

Most people also believe that one side is right and the other side is wrong when arguing! Therefore, when describing this dispute to a third party, the essence of this quarrel will always be polished and distorted to prove that you feel at ease that you are right and the other party is wrong!

For example, you will argue because she wants to see your mobile phone in her spare time and you don't give it to her?

The next day, you told someone this question: she went too far last night and wanted to see my mobile phone. Although there is nothing shameful in my mobile phone, her behavior makes me very angry!

The next day, she told her best friend this question: there were too many last night. I owe money for my mobile phone and want to charge it to him, but he won't give it to me. I didn't mean to look. There must be something hidden in his mobile phone!

The essence of this problem is the feeling that women need to be valued and men need to be respected, which leads to disputes! The woman satisfies her sense of being valued by looking at her boyfriend's mobile phone. I just want to see your mobile phone and see if you can give it to me. Did you notice me? The man feels that he is not respected and chooses a stalemate! These two people quarrel for their own needs and feelings, for the need that women are valued, and for the feeling that men are respected!

When we quarrel, it is basically when our relationship is mature, and the love spark in the early stage of love can't stand the toss of quarrel! So when arguing, we all forget the reason why we are attracted to the other half, and only notice the shortcomings of the other side!

It's funny to say, in the early days of love, you magnified each other's advantages because you were attracted to each other (the other party just pulled you in across the street, so you thought he was considerate, and the other party just hugged you in the dark, so you thought he was very manly), but when it came to quarreling, because you were tired after being together for a long time, you magnified each other's shortcomings (he just wouldn't let you look at your mobile phone, making you feel ashamed of having an affair, or she just had menstruation). )