Excessive frugality is "hurting" your child, and the child is silently suffering. Please don't take it seriously

Thrift is China's traditional virtue, but frugality does not mean that you care about everything, but that you should save what you should. Some families instill the idea of excessive thrift in their children from an early age, which will limit their life pattern to a certain extent and affect their friends and future growth.

I hope parents can create a good environment for their children, let them learn what is real saving, and shape a correct concept of saving for them.

Lili is a junior, but she is always so out of place with her surroundings and friends. She always refuses every dormitory dinner for various reasons, thinking it is a waste of money. After a long time, my dormitory friends began to be reluctant to call her when they went to dinner, because they thought she would never go anyway.

Lily's frugality actually comes from her family. In fact, Lili's family conditions are ok, but her parents often tell Lili that she is poor and can't afford anything. Lily's mother always buys seasonal clothes during sales promotion, and haggles with others every time she buys something.

Influenced by her parents' thoughts for a long time, Lili naturally developed the habit of being very stingy with all kinds of things. Compare the prices before you buy something, or go when there is a discount, but the clothes you want to buy at that time are long gone.

There is nothing wrong with thrift itself, but it is wrong to haggle over everything. Parents should help their children to establish a correct concept of consumption and values. This blind frugality has no real meaning. More importantly, this frugality of parents is likely to affect children's outlook on life and values.

So what bad effects may blind thrift have on children?

1, make children haggle over every ounce.

Generally speaking, children who grow up in blind and thrifty families will become very stingy and will be especially stingy with money. In the long run, it will be difficult for children to make real friends. Because of parents who are blind and frugal, children will become very stingy. Children who grow up in this environment generally don't treat others sincerely, and sometimes they may be selfish. They only see petty profits and care about every little thing.

Therefore, parents must cultivate a correct concept of thrift for their children, tell them when to be frugal and when not to be frugal, and let them form a correct three views.

2. Destroy children's health

A thrifty family may ruin children's health because of a small matter. Thrift doesn't mean saving money in everything. For example, in terms of diet, the quality of diet is very important. Some parents buy discounted food every time for petty gain. This will do great harm to children's health for a long time. Influenced by parents' idea, children will never buy good things, but only those inferior foods, which may cause unimaginable harm to children's health, although it seems to save a little on the surface.

I hope parents will abandon this blind frugality and consider the health of their children and their families.

The child has a sense of inferiority.

Under normal circumstances, children who grow up in such a blind and thrifty family will feel inferior. They may have learned to suppress their true thoughts from an early age. When you see something you like, you won't fight for it because you know your parents won't buy it. At this rate, they may feel useless.

When they grow up, this kind of blind frugality is more likely to cause children's inferiority, which makes them always feel that they are not as good as others and that their family environment is not as good as others. Under the influence of this concept, children will become insecure when doing many things, and may eventually accomplish nothing.

I hope that every parent can make their children form a correct concept of thrift, and don't let their children get hurt because of blind thrift, and don't just see the immediate interests, but cultivate a cheerful, open-minded and brave child.