My heart is like a rock, unmoved!

What should we do when faced with accusations, questions, and censure from others? Should we choose tit-for-tat or choose to ignore it?

No matter what you choose, you will definitely feel unhappy. Of course, different choices may produce different results.

? Chinese people mostly like to resolve things, turn big things into small things, turn small things into small things, and keep a balance in everything. Therefore, in most cases I will choose to ignore it to prevent the incident from escalating and becoming more complicated.

In fact, choosing to ignore it is not a wise approach. I think the smart approach is to put aside prejudices and unpleasant emotions, and treat others' accusations, questions, and censures differently. If there are any, correct them and encourage them if they are not, so that you can improve and grow in different voices, and at the same time make yourself more broad-minded.

? This world is like this, the same thing will have different views in different eyes. Some say it is good, some say it is bad, and some say it is neither good nor bad. In short, everyone has their own opinions. When there are different voices on something, it means that the matter has attracted the attention of others, which should be a good thing. We can look at this matter from multiple perspectives with different voices, and then find out and fill in the gaps to make things better.

? We don’t have to seek common ground in everything. We can seek common ground while reserving minor differences.

? How to choose depends on your heart. As long as you have a fixed mind, your heart will be as solid as a rock and unmoved.

What I am afraid of is that when faced with accusations, questions, and censures from others, I will not be able to distinguish right from wrong, and will not be able to see the essence, but will blindly cater to and deny myself or fight for the sake of conflict of temperament. It's actually quite scary to let yourself live in other people's words. The story of how many people speak and three people become tigers can let people know the power of words. Facing such a scene, how difficult it is for you to remain unmoved!

? Rumors stop at the wise, and the truth is sometimes in the hands of a few people, so inner perseverance is particularly important!

? It doesn’t necessarily mean that you are good when others say you are good, and it doesn’t necessarily mean that you are bad when others say that you are bad. Good or bad is not as simple as what others say. We can never lose ourselves in order to please others. Others' words can change at any time, but what about yourself? Can it become that fast? Even if things change again, some people will say that you have no backbone as you act according to the prevailing circumstances.

? Sticking to oneself may make oneself not flexible enough and give people a feeling of stubbornness; catering to others may make oneself not stable enough and give people a feeling of tact. What should we do in the face of such a situation? Stick to it when it’s time to stick to it, and cater to it when it’s time to cater. So what should be done and what should not be done? We must stick to principles, truth, right and wrong; when faced with meaningless discussions, we can cater to them. Make sure your mind is determined, round on the outside and square on the inside.

? This degree is difficult to grasp. To grasp this degree well, you need a certain philosophy of life and life wisdom. There are some unclear meanings here, and various relationship choices can only be understood but not expressed in words.

? But there will be some emphasis on different people. For people like me, it’s hard to be calm in the face of different voices. Even if you smile and laugh in the face of other people's accusations and doubts, your smile will still be bitter. It is very difficult for me to quickly forget and let go.

? I cannot change others, nor can I stop others from talking. So what I have to do is to keep my heart like a rock and not be moved. I found that if I just cater to others, I will not be happy. Instead, I will even despise myself. If I do too many things against my will, happiness will become farther and farther away from me!

? I should be more persistent instead of catering. Because there are enough people to cater to, but there is less persistence. This may be related to your own personality.

? Therefore, I hope that I will not be afraid of hardships and dangers in the future and insist on being myself!

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