I wore earrings and my parents said I was a bad boy.

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On the first day my sister was admitted to college, she went to get her ears pierced and put on a type of earring that she had long admired.

In college, we all have had this situation: those things that we dare not do in front of our parents at home can be done to our heart's content after we get to college.

Before this, my sister didn’t dare to wear earrings at all. If she was found not studying well at home, she would be scolded by her aunt, let alone wearing earrings, which looked so rebellious. Something happened.

When she was in high school, she once saw a girl in the class wearing a very beautiful earring. After she shared this with my aunt, she just said: "I I think those earrings are pretty,” and she was scolded by her aunt.

"Whatever looks good, you must not imitate that kind of girl. Only bad girls wear earrings."

My sister heard that my aunt's tone was not right, so she hurriedly laughed He explained: "Let me just say this, I will definitely not do that kind of thing."

The aunt nodded with satisfaction.

There is a saying that "Only bad girls will do rebellious things like wearing earrings, and good girls will not wear earrings."

It was just at that time Girls don’t know that a few years later, earrings will be just a kind of daily jewelry for them, no big deal.

Then why rebel?

No one knows, and no one will ask, that at that age, saying one more undesirable word is considered "talking back".

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But my sister couldn’t bear to wear earrings after all.

When her senior year of high school was approaching the college entrance examination, she sent me photos of three earrings on WeChat and asked me quietly: "Which one do you think looks better?"

I was still in my first year of high school at that time, and there were no girls wearing earrings in my class. I didn’t even have any idea about earrings. I asked my sister out of curiosity: “Sister, what are these?”

My sister sent me a proud emoticon: "You haven't seen it before, these are called earrings, they are very trendy."

If my sister didn't tell me this Well, I probably didn’t know that wearing earrings was such a cool thing during my three years in high school.

Later, my sister secretly wore earrings for herself. When she went home on weekends, she would ride her bike back alone. She would hide in her room on the excuse of studying, whether she was eating or watching TV. Here, I was afraid that my aunt would see my pierced ears.

But the fire cannot be contained in the paper. Once, my aunt went to school to deliver dinner to my sister without telling her in advance, so my aunt saw my sister wearing earrings in the classroom.

That day, my sister was scolded severely by her aunt in front of the whole class.

Pointing to her earrings, her aunt asked loudly: "Look at you. You are the only one in the class wearing such a mess. It's really outrageous. You also have a high school student. "My sister didn't dare to say a word the whole time. After that day, she silently took off her earrings. She was afraid that she would be labeled as a "bad boy".

Except for my sister, most of us in real life are like this. Because we are afraid of being labeled as a "bad boy", we don't dare to do things that seem rebellious. To do or even to think about.

But when we grow up, we will find that these things are really normal and have nothing to do with rebellion.

A large part of the reason is just that a group of adults are afraid that we should come into contact too early, but those adults actually don’t know why we can’t come into contact too early or what the dangers of early contact are.

Most of the time, they just impose their own emotions on us, and then call it relationship care.

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But do we deserve to be scolded?

I am actually very disgusted with the statement from my parents that "rebellion is a bad boy", and I am also disgusted with the fact that as long as we make a slightly different voice, our parents will be very hostile to our ideas.

In my senior year of high school, something like this happened.

At that time, there were still two months left before the college entrance examination.

The classrooms in our school do not have air conditioning, and it is really hot in Guangdong in the summer. Even if I stay in the classroom for an hour, I will be so hot that I will sweat profusely. I have to take a shower at least three times a day.

I really had no intention of studying in such an environment, so I told the class teacher, "I want to go home and review for two months. The school is really too hot and I can't review anymore."< /p>

But when I said this, the head teacher’s face changed.

I still remember what she said to me: "I can understand your thinking, but everyone is insisting. It's impossible to say that you just go home because you can't stand it alone. This will be harmful to others." It’s not fair.”

Such an idea must be very rebellious in the eyes of the head teacher.

I retorted a little angrily: "Do we deserve to have to sweat and review every day?"

But she still said "Such an idea shouldn't exist". , rejected my request.

Although in the end, under my strong request, I finally went home to review, but during the whole process, I could feel that everyone seemed to think that my idea was very rebellious.

In other words, everyone thinks that I shouldn’t have such rebellious thoughts. In those few months, I became a bad boy in everyone’s eyes. Everyone thought that why should I return? Home review.

After I got home, I thought about it for a long time, but I couldn’t figure out what happened to my rebellious thoughts. Why can’t there be a little different voice?

Just like my sister wearing earrings, how can she become a bad boy in the eyes of her aunt if she does something different?

What’s more terrifying is not that we are rebellious, but that there is a powerful and terrifying logic behind it. If you don’t listen to me, you are making a mistake. If you still go against it, you will be punished.

Does this look like a simplified version of "slave" education?

You want to have your own hobbies, but you can’t because your parents don’t agree.

You want to take the initiative to choose which major and university, but you can’t because your elders don’t agree.

You want to choose to stay in a certain city after graduation, but that won’t work, because you never have the final say.

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In fact, when we do some rebellious things, we are really not as bad as our parents imagined.

And can it be said that if we do something that seems rebellious, are we really rebellious?

I have been in college for more than a year, and I have failed at least three classes. In the eyes of my teachers and parents, there is only one possibility for this outcome, and that is that I did not study hard and must have played games again. .

But am I really spending my time playing games?

No, because I want to do something I like, learn some skills I like, and even say that I don’t even have time to play games.

As for the subjects that I have failed, I have already planned them. Anyway, I just need to pass all the subjects before graduation. Why do I have to worry about whether I failed or not? Did you pass it?

We all know that those things that seem rebellious are not really rebellious. They are just saying that some of the things we do may not be understood by our parents, so they labeled us "Rebellious" label, so we think we have learned bad things.

My sister will not become a bad girl in the eyes of my aunt just because she wears earrings.

I won’t fail college because I usually spend my time playing games.

I don’t want to fail a class, but now I’ll be rebellious, fail a few classes, spend some time doing some things I want to do, and arrange my time properly, and put away the things I failed before graduation. I passed the class, so what’s the problem with this?

But our parents always use their own theories and cannot see us doing anything rebellious, and even use force to correct our behavior.

They will also explain to you: "This is all for your own good. I think you don't want to be a bad boy.

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But is being rebellious the same as being a bad boy? Is it correct that we have to follow the theories of our parents?

There are so many rebellious things in the world , even some behaviors of our parents are "rebellious" in our eyes, but have we ever said something wrong?

If being rebellious is not a good child, then I would rather be one in the eyes of my parents. Bad boy.

At least my life still belongs to me. It is not terrible to take detours and suffer hardships. The terrible thing is that you have no chance to choose.

In the end

We, the post-95 generation, are often the most rebellious generation in the eyes of our parents.

But it is precisely because of this rebellion that we, the post-95 generation, have more possibilities and choices. Sex makes the world in our eyes colorful, rather than just being a good child.

It seems that everyone has forgotten why we should be "rebellious" and what our reasons are for rebellion. .

It’s not about rebellion for the sake of rebellion, but for our own growth. This is something that our generation has been misunderstood for too long.

Maybe. There is no word "rebellion" in the world. It's just that some people regard "rebellion" as a mistake in order to realize a certain absolute behavior they say.

But this is wrong in itself, so. I would rather be a "bad boy".

We born after 1995 never agree that rebellion is equal to being a bad boy.

However, our rebellious behavior in the eyes of our parents. It is precisely those of us born after 1995 who have the least regrets about being rebellious.

When you grow up, you will find that the boys who love talking back to the teacher in junior high school are often more aggressive than others when they grow up. The girl who knows how to wear makeup in high school will be more diligent and hardworking in the same group.

That girl in college often doesn't follow the rules. , A person who runs around has a richer life and has experienced more than others.

Instead of being a person who has experienced thorns, don't be an obedient person with no choice.

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