Someone who talks at midnight every day.

Once in a circle of friends, I saw this passage:

"Don't brush your phone frequently at night. The more you brush your mobile phone, the more lonely it becomes. People who really love you won't just look for you in the middle of the night. "

Deeply moved.

Late at night, people tend to become emotional. And at this time. If you meet someone who comes to talk to you, you will inevitably have some good feelings.

But in fact, people who really love you don't always talk to you in the middle of the night.

If he loves you, even insomnia will not disturb you in the middle of the night, because he wants you to have a good sleep.

Maybe, you may lose sleep at that time, but you won't do it every day.

Occasionally, he may send you a word of concern because of his circle of friends in the middle of the night, so this is no problem.

However, if he often chats with you in the middle of the night, even if you are too sleepy to open your eyes, he still doesn't know what to do and bothers you, then he certainly doesn't really love you.

0 1: You are not important, but you are just there when you need it. It seems that many girls have a common problem, that is, it is easy to fall in love with someone who always chats with her in the middle of the night.

My friend Lily recently met a boy on the Internet. She said that she especially appreciates the humorous cells in boys.

Every time we chat, Lily is made to laugh.

However, one thing Lily doesn't understand is why this boy is always so busy and always has time to chat with Lily in the middle of the night.

In the first few days of adding friends, Lily just couldn't sleep after drinking milk tea. After she made a dynamic in the circle of friends, the boys came to chat with her.

Later, the more we talked, the more energetic we became, and we became a regular chat object every night.

In order to tell the boy more new things, Lily even changed the habit of going to bed early and getting up early. She often chats in the middle of the night and takes panda eyes to work the next day.

Later, the two became more and more congenial and became boyfriend and girlfriend.

However, what puzzles Lily is that even if they become boyfriend and girlfriend, boys are still free only at midnight.

Lily is not angry either, and plans to wait until the boys have a holiday before meeting and dating.

However, a month later, Lily not only didn't wait for the boy's date invitation, but also couldn't get in touch. He hasn't heard from Lily for several days, and he hasn't updated the news.

Lily is a little worried. I wonder if anything happened to that boy. In desperation, Lily and some friends inquired about the boy.

As a result, the news came as a bolt from the blue and gave Lily a blow.

It turns out that boys already have girlfriends, and they are particularly loving. I just quarreled with my girlfriend a few days after chatting with Lily. I was in a bad mood in the middle of the night and happened to see Lily online.

In later stories, it is conceivable that Lily became a spare tire.

After the boy coaxed his first girlfriend, he naturally dumped Lily.

It turns out that he always looks for you in the middle of the night, not because Lily is important, but because Lily happens to be by his side when he needs company.

Never important, occasionally needed.

We are all over the age of listening to love, and talking about love is not sincere enough.

What's more, it is love across the screen, which is even more unrealistic.

If a person really loves you, he will appear when you need him, not when he needs you.

02: To him, you are just a dispensable pastime. I once saw such a question on Zhihu:

"Do people who talk to you in the middle of the night like you?"

The comments of the following netizens are very uniform and all give negative answers.

One of the netizens' answers impressed me deeply.

He said, "If you like it, why not in the morning, not at noon, not in the afternoon, but in the middle of the night? Probably because midnight is the point where he feels bored and wants to pass the time. "

Deeply moved.

I remember I once read a story that a Neptune always chats with others in the middle of the night. Because he is bored and can't sleep, he looks for a chat object among his friends.

He can talk with others, and he is willing to share with others the new things that have happened to him.

Gradually, more and more girls secretly promised him, and they naively thought that they were the one who was loved.

Of course, the boy is not interested in these girls, he is just bored.

Even, some people enjoy this pastime.

Once the girl gets used to his existence, he will find a way to go out.

The ocean is the king of the sea, casting a net for fishing.

You think you are his true love, but in fact you are just a small fish in his fish pond.

So, once in a while, you can try to love the man who watches you stay up at midnight and chats with you. Maybe he is the only thrill for you.

But if this person is like this every day, not occasionally, then you really don't need to love him, because his real purpose is just recreation.

Hemingway once said:

"It is extremely easy to be indifferent to anything during the day, but at night it is another matter."

You are too emotional in the middle of the night to distinguish between sincerity and recreation.

So you are likely to mistake the other person's momentary interest impulse for love.

Through the screen, we can't see through a person's real mind.

We are all adults and understand this truth.

Therefore, if a person really loves you and really has you in his heart, he will want to keep in touch with you and see you.

If it's only a specific time and a specific point, it's probably just because he was bored and wanted to kill time during that time.

03: Love is restraint, but it's all for each other. what is love ?

In my opinion, love is restraint, sacrifice and getting better.

Know that a person who really loves you will definitely think of you from your point of view.

My friend Xiao Li is a very gentle and considerate boy, and is also very kind to his girlfriend.

Xiao Li and his girlfriend are long-distance lovers, and they don't see each other several times throughout the year. Usually, the communication between two people is basically through chat software, and even the expression of missing and love can only be online.

However, Xiao Li has a principle that there will be no news of his girlfriend after eleven o'clock.

He said: "Staying up late is not good for the girl's health, and it also affects her work and life the next day. Although I also want her to spend more time with me and talk to me more. But since I love you, I don't have to worry about some words all night. "

I quite agree with Xiao Li on this point.

Always chatting in the middle of the night is a very harmful thing.

Since it is true love, there is no need to rush some words.

People who love you want you to be healthy and happy more than chatting. He will resist the desire to chat with you and choose to let you go to bed early.

Of course, so do men.

If a woman always chats with you in the middle of the night, it is estimated that she just treats you as a pastime.

So, instead of falling in love with someone who always chats with you in the middle of the night, find someone who goes to bed early and gets up early to plan the future with you.

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