When people reach middle age, what kind of people should they learn to be cruel?

In middle age, people have experienced the ups and downs of life, tasted the ups and downs of life, understood the warmth and coldness of human feelings, experienced the ups and downs of love, understood many things, and understood that many people should learn to choose life.

In life, it is better to please yourself than to please anyone. In the future, be kind to yourself. Learn to be cruel in the future, don't wronged yourself, love yourself.

Learn to treat these five kinds of people for the rest of your life? Cruel? Only when you are cruel can you have time to think about life and do something more meaningful, live high, and live an easy life.

First, for your children, let go when it is time to let go.

Children are always cared for by their parents. No matter how old they are, parents don't trust them to do things alone. In fact, the more they don't let go, the more they grow. If they are always afraid of melting in their mouths and falling into their palms, they will never be able to cultivate independent children in an overindulgent life.

When people reach middle age, they should understand that the parents' meeting of children is a kind of fate that is gradually drifting away. Let go, let go slowly with your eyes, and cultivate your child's independence with distance. If you can't bear to see his helpless panic after entering the society, you must let go and let the children stumble forward independently in order to make a smooth transition to society.

Let children eat the pain they deserve, experience the pain they have experienced, bear the harm they deserve, endure the grievances they have to endure, and stop imposing their own consciousness. It is to cultivate children to have their own thoughts, opinions and perseverance, so that you can be more assured that children are independent of the world and strong and indestructible.

Second, cherish the present and be cruel to the past. That's all in the past.

When people reach middle age, if they still have lovers who miss each other so much and old love that they can't forget, they are still looking forward to meeting in this life, meeting one day, and even asking for being together in this life, it is better to persuade themselves to let go of those unrealistic expectations as soon as possible.

The human heart is limited, and there are always too many pasts in it to accommodate the present. Love should continue, so should life. In this world, there are no two people who are naturally suitable, only two hearts that meet for each other.

The so-called true love is someone who will always be with you and never give up. Those old loves and lovers are just passers-by in your life. If you still can't let them go and try something, your life will be very tired. You can't get the past, love the present and grasp the future.

When you reach middle age, you should tell yourself to let go, don't miss your old love, don't expect your lover, don't think, don't read, don't touch, let go of the emotional entanglements that affect your marriage, treat people around you wholeheartedly, don't owe anyone who will accompany you to see the scenery of life, and don't owe you a lifetime.

Third, be hard on yourself and don't relax your pursuit of life ideals.

It is said that everything rests in middle age.

In fact, as long as you have a heart that loves life, life will have unlimited possibilities.

When people reach middle age, they should be hard on themselves. Life has ups and downs, sweet and bitter. Don't forget at any time that you are the protagonist of your life. No matter how hard the road is, you must have your own persistence, your own dreams and your own life.

Don't give up your ideal and life, and don't be discouraged. Middle-aged life is like autumn harvest. After several seasons, it's time to harvest. So you should keep a firm heart for yourself, stick to your dreams and pay more attention to your work.

Only by living a sweaty life can we truly have no regrets, and the sweat and efforts behind it can accumulate into a life that will not be bad.

Fourth, be hard on insincere villains, and cut them if you should.

Life needs circles, but you need to be careful when choosing circles. Since ancient times, we are all villains who are close to the gentleman, because the villain is profit and the gentleman is righteousness.

A dishonest person is often a wolf in sheep's clothing. In order to achieve their goals, they often duplicity, unscrupulous, face to face behind the scenes, warm in their hearts, calculating. They will be caring and attentive to you when they use you, and ignore you when they don't use you.

Never expect to change a hypocritical person with your sincerity. People's hearts are not so easy to change. Even if you have exhausted all sincerity, a hypocritical heart will think that you are pretending. You know that you are considerate of others and think from their perspective, but a hypocritical person will always only consider his own interests according to his own ideas.

You should stay away from hypocritical people. It's no use being sincere. Leave your heart to yourself and to those who are sincere to you.

Fifth, useless wine field dinner, cruel to say no.

When people reach middle age, it is their greatest responsibility and happiness to go home for dinner, study with their children, cook with their wives, chat with their parents and do their work with peace of mind. If you make a choice with your friends, you must weigh the pros and cons.

As the saying goes, birds of a feather flock together. What kind of person you are, you will be with what kind of person. A true friend is no worse than a few meals. True friendship cannot be witnessed in a few meals. You should learn to be cruel to those meaningless wineries and dinners. If you make others unhappy or turn against you, you won't be moved.

When people reach middle age, they should understand that partying all night and eating and drinking with meaningless people can't expand the so-called contacts, but are just wasting their lives.

Really powerful people, people who know how to rely on themselves, are far away from the wine field dinner.

People are forced to be strong and live strong. When people reach middle age, life will be wonderful only if they are hard on themselves.