The 62-year-old mother was scolded and cried by her daughter late at night: Why don't you be a free nanny in marriage?

"Aunt, please come to my house to advise my mother. I cried in the middle of the night and didn't care about her. "

At midnight 1 1:30, the big cousin's voice was helpless and impatient.

You don't have to guess, it must be that the big cousin and the big sister and mother had another quarrel.

My mother and I went to my aunt's house, my cousin sat on the sofa and sighed angrily, and my aunt sobbed in the room.

My aunt's 62-year-old face is full of wrinkles, tears and red eyes. She got up to meet us, her figure wobbled and her pace was slow. If I didn't know the truth, I really thought she was over 80.

And all this is caused by her "nanny marriage"

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My mother and I sat down, and my aunt and cousin began to complain separately.

It turned out that the reason for this dispute was that menstruation turned off the lights and watched TV to save electricity, which angered her cousin.

After a busy day's work and children, my eldest cousin was not at ease with her aunt who lived alone, so she sent her a WeChat video invitation.

After my sister took the video, my cousin saw that it was dark, and just wanted to ask what was going on, the video hung up.

Send the video again, no one answered, and no one answered the phone.

Thinking that aunt had high blood pressure and worried that something would happen to her, the eldest cousin immediately got dressed, drove out and rushed to aunt's house.

An enter a door, found menstruation a person, covered with a blanket, nestled in a corner of the sofa, watching TV with the light on.

"Why don't you turn on the light?" The eldest cousin knew that she knew perfectly well past ask, but she couldn't restrain her anger.

"In order to save electricity." My sister replied timidly.

"Why didn't you answer the phone?" Big cousin's voice is very loud, keep asking.

"There is no electricity. I'll say goodbye to you after I connect the video. Didn't you hear? " My aunt began to feel wronged.

"What do you say? Are you sure I heard you? Did I reply to you? Why didn't you answer the phone later? " My brother is getting more and more angry.

"The phone is dead, and the ringtone is always too small for me to hear." Say that finish, aunt began to cry.

"Why did your eyes spend less than 40? Why are you deaf before you are 50? Don't you know it yourself? " Big cousin herself cried with anger.

It turns out that in order to save electricity, when my aunt was a child in the countryside, she made shoes and clothes for her children at night, never reluctant to wax, turn on the light to watch TV, even more reluctant to turn on the light, and even often used the dim light from TV as a light to squint at work.

As a result, I was in my thirties and lost my eyes.

In those difficult years, my aunt bought snacks on the construction site to supplement her family. In order to save money on earmuffs, she endured noise all the year round. She is in her early forties, and her ears are not working well.

Because of the cold weather in winter, I get up early and get greedy for the dark, and I am reluctant to buy good down jackets and warm supplies. Less than 50 years old, he was tortured by rheumatoid arthritis.

In order to sell more snacks, one stop is a few hours, and varicose veins also come to your door. After forty, a big pimple on her leg prevented her from wearing a skirt.

In a word, in order to save money, menstruation is really aging before he gets old, and he has accumulated a whole set of problems.

But what about my aunt's frugal habit of being stingy with herself in the eyes of her family?

Uncle once hated the iron and scolded aunt: "shabby!" " Dog meat buns can't be served on the table. "

When the first cousin and the second cousin were at school, they refused to attend the parent-teacher conference. The reason is: "shame, old face, others thought it was grandma."

"Who can we help? Just to make her husband less tired and save more money for her children, how could she do anything wrong? Why do you attract so much hatred? " It's my aunt's incomprehension and injustice.

"It's hard to say now. I bought her a new dress, which is too expensive for her. Bought delicious food, she said it was a waste; Take her to travel, she is too extravagant to spend money; Even taking medicine is too expensive, and I often stop taking it myself. You said that we don't treat ourselves as old people, how can we be filial to her? " It is the helplessness and anger of the big cousin.

02, bear, bear, bear.

In addition to "saving", my aunt's "forbearance" is also first-class in my impression.

Menstruation's marriage is a typical mode in which the man is the master and the woman is the master.

Because my aunt doesn't earn money, she not only has no right to speak at home, but also is responsible for the daily life of the whole family.

I remember one visit to menstruation's house, and menstruation said to pack me jiaozi at noon.

After that, she went shopping. One of her in-laws went out to play mahjong and the other went out for a walk.

After my aunt came back, she went to the kitchen to work alone.

My uncle is sitting in the living room, watching TV while drinking tea.

I want to help, but my aunt won't let me play with my cousin.

I insisted on helping, and my aunt smiled with relief, touched my head and praised me for being sensible. I don't know why I cried again.

In this way, my aunt and I packed jiaozi for seven people, and we didn't even have time to drink a mouthful of water for two and a half hours.

It's time for lunch. People of all ages are waiting for jiaozi.

My sister cooks jiaozi and peels garlic for the whole family.

My hand trembled and fell to the ground because it was tight and the garlic was slippery. Aunt picked it up, blew it, and peeled another flap. This scene was seen by her mother-in-law. She gave her aunt a white look and said disdainfully, "I fell to the ground and didn't wash it. It' s so embarrassing to work. "

My sister didn't refute, and went to stir the pot again. Jiaozi and jiaozi cooked and began to fish them out.

Because it is too hot, I feel that everyone is in a hurry. When my sister was in jiaozi, her hands were shaking, as if she had Parkinson's disease.

I remember, I was in my early forties in menstruation.

I asked my aunt why her hand was shaking, and she gave a wry smile and said nothing.

My uncle sarcastically said, "No way. You can't hide too many people. With more people, you work like someone is urging you to die. You are useless when you are only forty years old! "

Jiaozi went to the table and saw everyone taking a bite. Menstruation immediately smiled and asked, "Is it delicious?" Is sweet and salty suitable? "

Someone said, "Delicious!" She smiled at once; Someone said, "It's too light and tasteless!" Her smile froze on her face at once. She went back to the kitchen and immediately put a plate of salted vinegar on the table.

Seeing that everyone was almost finished eating, before everyone got up, my sister gave everyone a bowl of soup and put it on the table.

When everyone finished eating, my sister cooked all the jiaozi.

While fiddling with a pot of jiaozi to prevent adhesion, he picked up jiaozi with a broken skin and put it in a bowl.

As a result, my aunt, who was busy all morning, ate a plate of rotten stuffing and got a few criticisms.

If we look at marriage from the table culture, decades have passed, and menstruation's 40-year marriage is really not as good as a nanny.

Poached eggs are available to children, the elderly and husbands, and she is reluctant to make one for herself;

Eating shabu-shabu will always cost less money, and she is reluctant to spend that money on herself;

When you add new clothes during the Spring Festival, she always loses one. She doesn't think she deserves to wear new and expensive clothes. ...

Even so, she has to endure the contempt and disdain of the whole family, old and young.

03, cry, cry, cry.

The third impression that menstruation gave me was that she loved to cry.

No matter how big or small, it seems that crying makes others feel sorry for her.

When she was a child, her in-laws wronged her and she would cry;

When she has a child, no one will help her, and her uncle will not care. If the child is ill, she will cry.

And her uncle's infidelity almost made her cry blind. ...

When menstruation was in her twenties, she found her uncle cheating and cried. She was advised to divorce. She said, "What about the children?" Say that finish or cry;

When menstruation was in her forties, her uncle began to live with others outside, and others advised her to stop her loss in time. She said, "I'm divorced. I have no money and no house. It's no better to find another one." Cry when you finish;

Now that my aunt is over 60 years old, my uncle often joins hands with women outside to annoy her. She just cried and begged her uncle to go back to her mother's house, tearfully accused her husband of disrespecting the elderly, and earnestly advised her husband to think of his children and give himself a posterior approach. ...

In short, in my sister's marriage:

She saves money for her children and her husband, but she never treats herself as a person. What she got was the contempt of her husband and the contempt of her children.

She forbeares for her family and face, and never knows how to be kind to herself. As a result, her in-laws and husband were disgusted and the children were puzzled.

She cried for helplessness and injustice, and never knew how to stop loss in time. As a result, her husband pushed his luck and her children stayed away.

My aunt's life has also sounded the alarm for all people and all women.

In marriage, the most important thing is to be kind to yourself, and a free nanny can't do it.

Because everyone needs a free nanny, but few people are willing to give high-quality unconditional respect to the nanny and provide for the elderly.