Refuse the man's family to urge marriage

Refuse to urge the husband's family to marry

How about this euphemism? After both parties have met their parents, I don't want to get married early and I am urged to get married by the man's family. What should I do? I sorted out the articles that refused the man's family to urge marriage, hoping to help everyone.

Refuse the man's family to urge him to get married. 1

My boyfriend joined the army in a different place and promised to be transferred back next year, but he expects to get a marriage certificate and get married with me before he is transferred back. My relatives and I are always urging marriage, but what should I do if I don't get married? Is it because I don't love her enough to get married?

I am 165cm, 45kg, 25 years old, with an appearance of 8 points. I graduated from university and now I am a teacher of etiquette knowledge in a higher vocational college. My boyfriend is 175cm, 7kg, 24 years old and looks 6 points. He dropped out of school to join the army when he was a senior. My home is in the same big city, and it is very close. He joined the army in a different place now, and said that he would be transferred back in the next year.

we have been in love for over a year. At that time, I felt that I could do anything except my own idealized stature. People are similar in nature, although they often quarrel, but then they can get back together. I think it's not a problem that temperament can gradually run in.

He takes two vacations a year, so every time he goes out for a holiday or meets at ordinary times, I am used to his time. Go to play and save money. He is never stingy. It was great to meet each other's parents during the period. His relatives also love me very much and often ask me to have dinner. Although he is not at home, he is also very happy to associate with his parents.

People prepare for the New Year's engagement in advance, but now the problem is that I don't even get married, but my boyfriend says I have to get my certificate before I transfer back, or I will wait until I am 28 years old if I return to the region to get married. Not to mention marriage, I don't think there is any problem. But when it comes to marriage, I am also very painful and upset.

I don't think I will get married, because he can go home twice in seven days after marriage, so marriage is not attractive to us. Moreover, her house is now open to the public for lease, and it didn't expire until April of 28 and just started interior decoration. The two of us discussed how to earn pocket money to buy a car, and we haven't saved enough yet. Therefore, I don't want to get married in such a hurry. Although we have been in love for more than a year, there is not much time to meet each other, which makes me feel insecure.

and my boyfriend belongs to the kind of person who is not easy to dress up at all. He doesn't want to wear his own clothes and pants in the army. Therefore, I bought them all the clothes and boots he is wearing now. I often despise him for not dressing up, but he doesn't care and can wear anything. Actually, I have a headache.

At that time, I was still wondering if I didn't love her enough, so I didn't get married. How should I deal with my boyfriend and relatives' urging marriage next?

Emotional counselor responded coldly:

I don't know the real reason why you don't want to get married, but I can assure you that if you don't get married, you don't have to get married. All true love is clear and mutually recognized, and it is clear about each other's reflection on each other.

But what I can understand is that people are willing to forcibly promote these connections, but they have no forecast for their marriage life, and you are very painful and upset. It can be said that these married lives are not attractive to you.

in that case, why get married? Getting married at that time of uncertainty always puts you in a general attack situation. It should be understood that marriage cannot be simple in order to get married, but also represents the change of all the shapes of food, clothing, housing and transportation.

and, if you get married, you will find that: from the beginning of urging marriage, it has become a child who is forced to give birth. If you have a baby, it is always more difficult to change anything.

Therefore, I should first do a good job in the work of my relatives, find out my own worries and your consideration for these connections, and then strive for the application of my relatives.

in this case, no matter how hard your boyfriend urges you, he can't tie you away to worship heaven and earth. When you and he are transferred back, we will meet again. If everyone agrees with each other at that time and meets each other's requirements for married life, it is not too late to choose marriage again. Reject the man's family's urging marriage 2

1. How to deal with the parents' urging marriage

1. First of all, have a good attitude

You must have a very good attitude towards your parents, bearing in mind that they may be angry with you, anxious, or even cry at you. You need to be fully prepared and maintain a good attitude.

2. Maintain recognition of their views first

Just like "playing ball", you have to let them "play" first, and then "play" back, instead of always "attacking". So the first thing you have to do is to recognize and understand their love and worry about you: "mom, if I were you, I would be particularly worried if my children didn't get married." I especially understand you. You must be under great pressure. " Mom will feel warm.

3. Analyze the demand

The biggest reason why parents rush to get married is that you didn't solve it at the right time. Your demand is that I should find someone I like to marry. In fact, the biggest difference between us and our parents is the point in time.

4. Think about what you want to say and sufficient reasons

Why you haven't got married yet, and even some topics about "life". You should let your parents know that you have a plan and consideration for your life, and you are treating your life with an adult and mature attitude. If you live like a child and ask your parents for advice on what friends to make and what clothes to wear, you will never listen to you when you discuss marriage with your parents.

you need to be very well prepared, both in language and behavior. The behavioral preparation is that from now on, you should do everything maturely, instead of suddenly maturing only when communicating with them about whether to get married, which parents can't accept.

5. Seek common ground while reserving differences

First, I will definitely get married, and then I will talk about many benefits of getting married. Mom and dad listened very well, which is equivalent to giving them a reassurance. Then I talked about my plans for my future life. Doing what one likes is the most effective way to start negotiations. If you start quarreling, they won't listen to a word you say later.

6. Give a negative example

The times we live in are different from theirs, and they are changing very fast, so we are faced with much more uncertainty, so the pace is much slower. Look at that, and that, after a year of marriage, they divorced. You don't want me to get divorced in the future, and you also want me to be happy. If you want me to be happy, let me find my happiness slowly, and I believe I can find the happiness I want. Actually, in the eyes of parents, their children are excellent, so they will trust you. )

7. Fight against an army

I said that I am an adult, and getting married is my own business. I should be responsible for choosing who and when to get married. If you are in a hurry, I'll find someone to get married at once, but we can't live any longer in the future. If we divorce and split up, you should bear the responsibility. If I choose it myself, I won't blame you in the future anyway. (Divorce is a taboo word for parents. No one wants their children to be unhappy in marriage, so they will think about it when they tell the consequences. )

8. Explain the recent situation

Parents have no right to decide on our marriage, but they must have the right to participate. It is hard for parents to accept that they refuse to communicate, so that they can't see hope. In my opinion, we need to communicate more with our parents about our feelings. For example, when I said who I met, the girl was fine, and then my parents' chatterboxes suddenly opened. Don't be too serious, just kidding. As long as you let your parents know that you have been paying attention to this matter.

2. What should parents do to urge marriage?

1. Try to understand

Parents urge marriage in the hope that their children can find their own home as soon as possible, and that their children will get married first, and then start a career. Urging marriage contains parents' selfless love. If you respond to them impatiently because your parents have been urging you to get married, it will not only hurt your parents' hearts, but even distance you from each other. Therefore, I suggest that when you are urged to get married, don't get excited first, put yourself in another's shoes and you won't feel bored.

2. Listen carefully

You should know that parents always have more experience in marriage. Otherwise, how can it be said that parents have traveled more than you have eaten salt? When facing parents' urging marriage, you should calm down and listen carefully to parents' inner thoughts and views on marriage. Parents' experience for so many years can not only provide some help for later love, but also enhance the relationship and distance with parents.

3. Speak your mind

There may be a generation gap between some people and their parents, which makes them not understand their true thoughts. Therefore, I suggest that you find an appropriate occasion to have a serious communication with your parents and speak your true thoughts. Whatever the reason, as long as you speak out, I believe your parents will understand.

4, divert attention

Children who usually work outside rarely go home, so parents are more worried. When the weather is cold, parents will worry about whether they are warm or not, what the working environment is like, whether they will be bullied by their leaders, and whether they are worried about their marriage. After all, they are their own children, and they will always think about their children. They can often make phone calls with their parents.

5. Make a guarantee

You can make a guarantee with your parents, stating that you must bring a girlfriend or boyfriend back next year, on the one hand, to excuse yourself, and on the other hand, to give your parents a reassurance.

I don't know when I started to be a member of the marriage-urging army, and I was repeatedly told by my parents all winter vacation. I don't know whether I got married for myself or for my parents. Talking too much feels that there is still no such thing as empathy in this world.

2. At the same time, I just want to tell my wedding story. At the age of 3, I met you at the age of 4. We didn't meet at the best age, but with you, I realized what beauty is! We were urged by our parents to get married and arrange blind dates, and we didn't understand the meaning of marriage, but we didn't understand the meaning of happiness in traditional values until we met you! I also thank myself for the courage to chase you at that time.

3. At this age when my parents urged me to get married, maybe I grew up too fast. .

4. Being in such a hurry to get married is not because everyone around you is getting married when you are old, but because Mr. Jing is really too good and must be taken down quickly

5. Being urged to get married by parents and family when you go home, and being urged to get married by colleagues when you go back to the company. . .

6. nature makes people! Nowadays, tens of thousands of unmarried young people of school age are forced to get married by their parents! Me! I want to get married at the age of 1 (although I dare not! The older you are, the more you want to get married, and the older you are, the more you dare not get married. My dad told me that it doesn't matter whether I get married or not in my life. If I think marriage is a burden, he will be happy if I am happy all my life.

7. There are still 48 hours left before I take the job. I know my reasons. There are two reasons: First, I don't want to take the exam again, because I am too tired; Second, I need economic independence, and I can't be urged to get married by my parents. It's horrible, and I want to pursue freedom. But it's so difficult, too difficult, or how so difficult? It's just that, the pressure and persecution of life, alas.

8, 27 years old. Being urged to get married by parents every day is always the words "how old", "what do you want", "what kind of good" and "what's wrong with finding one?" Every day, I have calluses in my ears, which makes me physically and mentally tired and uncomfortable.

9. It's ok to be urged to get married by parents these days. How can you be urged to get married by students? How tired the heart is.

1. I was urged to get married by my parents, so I couldn't sleep at night, and I was about to collapse and wanted to move out.