The first official meeting with my parents

From February 18 to September 17, 2018, we have been together for about half a year. Some people say that this half year is a sweet period. They both appreciate and love each other, but a truly good relationship does not rely on time. Evaluated by length. Some people have been together for several years, and it's still like meeting them for the first time; some people meet once, and it's as if they've seen each other before, and they feel like they've met each other too late. My boyfriend and I belong to the latter group. From the first time we met, there was not much unfamiliarity. From the first meeting and dating, everything felt so natural. After more than half a year of being together, our understanding became even deeper. Like my dad said, it’s fair to both of us to get to know each other more, because we are choosing a person to spend the rest of our lives together, and we will live together for decades. Falling in love is easy now, but living with daily necessities will be easy in the future. Stumbling is the most satisfying thing. My great-aunt is the middle man between our two families. Recently, she often calls my parents to ask about our engagement. Although my boyfriend’s family is anxious about our engagement, my father is not familiar with my boyfriend yet and has never met him in person, so he doesn’t dare I hurriedly replied to my aunt, and after careful consideration, I decided to meet my boyfriend to see if this young man was worthy of my girl's trust for life, so this was the official meeting.

Yesterday, I made an appointment with my boyfriend to come home to meet my parents today. In the afternoon, my boyfriend went to a nearby supermarket to check out and shop. What kind of gifts should I bring to my home for the first time? , asked me again, although we didn’t have much experience, but we finally made a decision in the evening. I went to the supermarket early this morning to buy some, and took a car to come to my house. I said I would arrive at 11 o’clock, because my boyfriend does everything in advance. It’s my habit to arrive at my house at 10:30, and because I tend to do things with ink, I knew that I must not have packed up yet, so before I entered the house, I called me and asked if I had packed up. Sure enough, I didn’t. Unsurprisingly, I was still cleaning in my pajamas. . . My boyfriend said he would wait in the alley for a while until I finished cleaning up before going home. After hanging up the phone, I hurriedly changed my clothes. My hair was messy, like a little lunatic, so I hurried out to pick up my boyfriend. I made a call, and sure enough I saw my boyfriend waiting in an alley dozens of meters away, with his hands full of things (roast duck, moon cakes, liquor, milk). I hurried forward to greet him and took him inside to meet his parents. My parents also entertained my boyfriend very enthusiastically. Ever since it was decided yesterday that my boyfriend would come to the house today, they have been thinking about how to entertain her boyfriend. Early this morning, for my dad who never goes to the market to buy vegetables and cook. , I am really very active today to go shopping with my mother and prepare food. Due to my father’s health, he has not been in a good mood recently, but today I am in a surprisingly good mood, and I am very positive in everything I do. I also talked more and smiled more. While arranging for me to sweep this and wipe that, I also rummaged through the boxes and cabinets to find out a few sets of tea sets that I didn’t usually use to see which set was better. It's embarrassing again. I'm really happy to see my dad like this. I feel like the sunny, cute and somewhat stubborn dad is back again. After I got home, although my hair was unfamiliar and still messy, I had no time to care about it because my boyfriend told me yesterday that meeting my parents for the first time might be a bit overwhelming, so he asked me to do it within 3 steps. Follow him at a safe distance to avoid any awkward moments. I quickly asked my mother what kind of jobs we could do. My mother said we could pick leeks, so we moved a small bench to the side and sat down to pick leeks. Even though neither of us knew how to do it, I always picked leeks. It took one or two times, but I finished picking the handful of leeks in a decent manner. During the process, the two of us were chatting leisurely. Gradually, my boyfriend became familiar with his parents, and his father greeted him for a drink. We chatted over tea, and I saw that we were all having a good time, so I went to wash my hair and groom myself beautifully, until they all had half eaten, and I hadn’t finished putting on makeup yet, hehe... Fortunately, everyone who knows me is used to me like this, so they won't find it strange. After finishing my work, I went to the dining table to eat together, eating and chatting. It was very happy and comfortable, and the atmosphere was quite harmonious. I didn’t expect that my father and boyfriend would have so many *** colleagues while watching the news. It was quite interesting to talk about the focus. During the dinner, I heard my dad laughing heartily and showing a cute smile from time to time.

Around 16:30 in the afternoon, the conversation was almost finished. My boyfriend wanted to get up and go back. My dad stayed for a while and said a few words. I had a hunch that we should talk about our relationship. It happened, so I kept listening in an inconspicuous position near the door. Even if I had any deep feelings, no one would notice. General Secretary Xi Jinping made three points:

First, tolerate each other. "You have been together for so long, you both appreciate each other, like each other, and you see each other's strengths. But in the future, the daily necessities and trivial matters in life are the most harmonious. I hope that no matter what happens to you in the future, They can tolerate each other in everything and consider issues from each other's point of view. Although Katsuo is sometimes willful, he is very simple-minded and has no big ideas. He is the kind of person who can give his heart to anyone he gets along well with. If she doesn't get along well, she has a bad temper. If there is a quarrel in the future, you must calm down and resolve it properly, and don't let it get worse and become difficult to deal with. If she does something wrong, you or yours will. If the family can be more tolerant, her mother and I will be very grateful to you and your parents."

Second, be filial to the elderly and love your children. "Filial piety is the first thing you must do, whether it is to your parents or your elders. This is what each of us must do. Without parents, there would be no us. You must have the elderly in your eyes. Treat children the same way, love and care for them. Educate the next generation well, set good rules for them from a young age, and receive a good education. The cultural level and development level of your parents' generation are limited, and what they can give you is also limited. I have tried my best to give you everything I can, and the rest depends on You go and work hard." Indeed, my father did a very good job in this regard. He treated every elder in the family without saying anything. Only between the elders, brothers and sisters in the family, there is nothing to worry about. If I need help, my dad won't say a word, never refuse, and will help if he can. The same goes for borrowing money. No matter whether you are short of money or not, as long as your family members ask, they will definitely help you. Even if you are a little harder and tired, you still want your brothers and sisters to live a better life, for fear that they will be offended because dad is the eldest brother. , he always remembered this responsibility, so he really did this. During the holidays, I can definitely take good care of every elder in the family and show no lack of etiquette. Sometimes when I work hard outside, I will take a few hundred dollars home with me during the holidays. Dad is really our role model!

Third, freedom of love. "As long as you like each other, appreciate each other, and think they're suitable, we as parents have no objection. Her mother and I don't ask for high status, fame, wealth, or family conditions. What's important is that you can talk to each other. After all, you are going to live a lifetime together. You two should tolerate each other and grow together. There are many of you born in the 90s who can’t cook and have poor ability to live independently. It doesn’t matter if you can’t do it now. You don’t need to cook for yourself. It’s for parents to eat, but when you have children in the future, you have to cook for your children, so you have to learn what you need to learn.”

After saying these points, I don’t know how many paper towels I have used. , I feel that this is a kind of entrustment and an explanation from my father. Really, the only request parents have for their children is that they be happy. I usually quarrel and quarrel with my dad constantly at home. I just feel that my dad has a bad temper and likes to lose his temper. However, my dad’s love for me is really the kind of love that is not good at words, buried deep in my heart, and deep. In the past, I always felt that my brother was the one who worried me the most. It wasn’t until the year I enrolled in college that I realized that it was me who worried him the most. My brother started school two days later than me. I went to Qingdao and my brother went to Hainan— —The southernmost tip of China. We left home almost at the same time. My father had to see me off and waited for me to settle down at school before leaving after a day or two. My brother, on the other hand, carried his luggage alone and sat down. It took thirty or forty hours to report to Hainan.

Due to the previous surgery, my father’s voice has always been very low. Every time he speaks, he has to put in a lot of effort for fear that others will not hear him. He really said a lot today, a lot of things. Look. When it comes to the back part, it is already very laborious. This is really a big difference for my father who used to have a loud voice, speak effortlessly, and has always been more arrogant. Until now, I am 26 years old. , only then did I realize my father’s love for me. My father has become old, really old, and I haven’t grown up yet...