The main reason for the generation gap is the lack of adequate communication between parents and children.

Different times, different growth backgrounds, different experiences, different tempers and different ways of dealing with people. In fact, apart from blood relationship, those two people have little to do with you!

Both sides should bear the responsibility of mutual understanding. Also, parents should raise children and children should support their parents.

Examples. . . For example, my mother and my father quarreled this morning, and then we went out to play without my father. After we came back, through my efforts, they made up. I quarreled with my mother again in the afternoon, and then my father left it alone. Quarrel is because of language barriers and different ideas. (Between my mother and me) It's understandable if you try your best to understand.

The generation gap is mainly reflected in the fact that one party cannot integrate into the other's world, or both parties cannot integrate into the other's world. If the main responsibility lies with who, I think it is parents, because they are adults and there are more solutions than our children. Of course, children should not be ungrateful.

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What is the generation gap?

The generation gap is simply the psychological distance between people of different ages due to the gap of ideas. Just like a ditch, it separates several generations and affects the understanding and communication between two generations. However, in the new century, the generation gap not only exists between the previous generation and the next generation, but also exists between people in 10 and 8 years, and even between the senior and junior grades of universities, there will be amazing and obvious differences. People often say that the generation gap is the trace of time and the pace of change. From this perspective, it is natural to have a generation gap, and it is unnatural to have no generation gap, so the generation gap phenomenon is also easy to understand. However, after all, the generation gap is a difficult point that puzzles communication and easily increases the possibility of prejudice and discrimination. People on both sides of the generation gap don't understand each other, but they are hostile. Therefore, we should make various efforts to bridge and fill the generation gap through various channels. Actually, the generation gap is not a physical existence, but a psychological existence. Contact can connect the broken psychological connection between generations, so as to achieve smooth communication and harmonious coexistence. The word "generation gap" appeared in recent years. Due to the rapid progress of the times, people's understanding of society is constantly changing. Young people accept new things quickly, while older people always stick to their own habits, which has caused some unnecessary frictions and troubles between the two generations in many families. This kind of antagonistic emotion has been crowned with the fashionable term "generation gap". Many old people don't admit that there is a "generation gap" between themselves and the younger generation, but they think their ideas are 100% correct. They always complain that young people are old-fashioned and even complain that society is going downhill. The generation gap is an insurmountable boundary between two people of different ages in mind and thought. Some people say: the generation gap is when you are chatting with an unknown netizen in a chat room, your parents come and see you and your computer screen flushed with excitement, and then shake their heads anxiously and whisper, "What's the matter?" ! "The generation gap is when you are fascinated by star performances, martial arts films and funny dramas on TV, but they are telling you about your low tastes. The generation gap is when you clamor for a concert or a meeting, they just refuse with a straight face. The generation gap is when you shout after reading the new issue of Germination, and they pick up the book and turn over a few pages and say, "Alas, the articles written by young people nowadays just don't understand". The generation gap is when you tell them about your good friends of the opposite sex in your class, and they look nervous and seriously ask if you and (her) have a tendency to puppy love. After you explain clearly, they will warn you, "You can't hide anything from adults." The generation gap is when you lock the drawer, they ask you intentionally or unintentionally, "What's the secret? Why lock the drawer? " The generation gap is that they try their best to read your diary, although they know it's wrong. The generation gap is when you answer the phone of the opposite sex, and they pretend as if nothing has happened and say, "It was a boy (girl) just now, but now it seems that you have a good relationship with them." If you explain, they will say, "I am not very feudal." By the way, what are you nervous about? " The generation gap means that when you say you want to go out to play with your classmates, they must ask you to give out your classmates' names and find out their gender, study situation, personality characteristics and so on. "If you were not a fish, would you know the happiness of fish?" When the ancients stood by the fish pond and sighed with emotion, the consciousness of "generation gap" quietly came into being. From ancient times to the present, there is a "generation gap" which is an improvement, because at that time, the monarch told the ministers to die, and the ministers had to die; The father told his son to die, and his son had to die. Where there is a generation gap, don't listen, look up! So we can't find the word "generation gap" in Sikuquanshu. When people have self-awareness, a generation gap appears, because everyone is independent, so no one can dominate others' thoughts. The scope of the generation gap is so wide that not only generations, but even everyone will feel that there is a generation gap with others, but some people have good communication skills. This generation gap is just a small gap or does not exist at all; In the eyes of people with poor communication skills, this generation gap is tantamount to a gap.

Solve the generation gap

The problem of the generation gap is to point out that people born in different times have great differences in thinking. I remember that this topic was also discussed hotly in high school (late 1980s), but it seems that it has been a long time since anyone mentioned it. So we can't help asking: has this problem been solved? It can be said that it is really solved, or it can be said that it is not solved at all.

First of all, why is it not solved at all? Because the root cause of the generation gap is the age difference of people in different times, and because the age difference will always exist, the generation gap problem will never be solved. But why do modern people no longer seem to mention the concept of generation gap? There may be two reasons: first, everyone has acquiesced that this is an unsolved problem, so they are unwilling to discuss it again; Secondly, there is a way to avoid this problem. The author's view on this tends to the second one. In fact, solving the generation gap problem is similar to market segmentation in the field of commodity competition. The so-called market segmentation refers to dividing the consumer groups in the market into small groups, and then manufacturing goods according to the consumption characteristics of small groups, so as to realize the competition between similar goods. Although the market as a whole is small, commodities are more acceptable in market segments. The ranks of daily necessities are typical examples. For example, the clothing industry can be divided into men's wear, women's wear, children's wear and old-age wear. And the consumption grade can be divided into high-end, mid-end, low-end and so on. The clothing market can be divided into 12 parts immediately. If it is subdivided into jackets, suits and sportswear according to clothing styles, the market will be divided into infinitely small pieces.

By the same token, today's dazzling array of goods and services also divides people of different ages into various consumer groups. Therefore, people of all ages enjoy all-round services in their own consumption fields. Whether you are a baby, a child, a teenager, a youth, a middle-aged person or an elderly person, there are foods, clothes, entertainment programs, amusement places and various reading materials tailored for you. It is precisely because the intersection of life between different age groups is getting less and less, so the conflict of interest is getting smaller and smaller, so the disputes of different views are naturally getting less and less. From this, we find that the so-called generation gap problem was actually the cause of material shortage. When a family has only one TV, the broadcast time of TV programs is short and there is little room for choice, the choice of TV programs will inevitably become an inevitable contradiction in the family. When the consumption power is low and only one or two new clothes can be bought a year, parents will naturally interfere too much with their children's clothes; When the news content is poor, there are not many topics that a family can talk about, so it is not uncommon to argue with each other. In short, many phenomena that we called the generation gap in those years are not social problems such as the loss of values and traditions at all, but the core essence is material problems.

The significance of raising this question is to help us understand today's generation gap phenomenon. Today, when no one mentions the generation gap, it can only show that the generation gap related to material values has disappeared after the material is extremely rich, and the real generation gap between mind and thought has become a gap. In this regard, we are used to using post-80 s and post-90 s representatives. If the word generation gap can be interpreted as the distance or difference between people of the same kind through semantic analysis, but when people of different generations face great value contrast today, they no longer use the word generation gap, it can only prove that people of different generations have gradually regarded each other as heterogeneous. Of course, on the bright side, it is also possible that we generally have more respect and tolerance for the diversity of values.

In short, with the deepening of economic marketization, the estrangement and strangeness between people have intensified. In the era of mechanized mass production, there are fewer and fewer opportunities for people to face difficulties with Qi Xin, and there will be fewer and fewer cooperation. In fact, this may also be the most practical problem that management will face in the future. Because understanding the feelings and values of people of different ages is no longer a simple ability, but a kind of learning.

generation gap

It refers to the differences in ideas and behavior habits caused by children abandoning their parents' original views and gaining new ones in the process of going to society.

Analysis of the causes of generation gap;

The generation gap usually appears in adolescence. The influence of the environment makes contemporary teenagers seldom consider problems from the standpoint of others, and think that their parents' thoughts are outdated and can't keep up with the times. Therefore, one view holds that the main responsibility of the generation gap lies with their children.

First, no parents want to have a generation gap with their children. Children don't worry about their livelihood since childhood, and they rarely experience human suffering. Over time, they tend to be self-centered. Parents have been suffering and suffering, but they can't get the understanding of their children. Who can understand this painful mood? Although parents are willing to bridge the generation gap subjectively and objectively, how many children have really given their parents a chance?

Secondly, we often say, "There is no scenery in familiar places." Children who have been educated by their parents for a long time are prone to resistance, and a generation gap is formed.

Third, parents will have a certain influence on a person's growth. But the so-called external cause cannot determine the internal cause, and the fundamental problem lies in the child. Influenced by various social thoughts, children are immature, it is difficult to grasp themselves correctly, and it is the main reason for the generation gap to disagree with their parents.

Therefore, the main responsibility of the generation gap lies with children. It is precisely because the generation gap is uncertain with the growth of age that it is inappropriate for parents to adapt to and eliminate it.

We often say that we should keep pace with the times. In fact, it is not only us who really do this, but also our parents! It's just that they always have to go through some careful screening before accepting new ideas, but this is not wrong!

Generation gap:

It is precisely because parents and children have different knowledge structures that their thoughts are different, but parents and we are people of the same era, and the main force of this society is our parents. So we can say that our self-righteousness makes us feel that our parents know too little about new things. Is it fair to judge our parents from our immature perspective?

How did the generation gap come into being?

The first is the drastic change of teenagers' physical and mental state. The drastic change urges us to discover ourselves, pursue independence, subvert the concept of childhood, and begin to choose and pursue the values of career, friendship, love and life. However, in today's one-child families, parents' lack of knowledge and experience makes them unprepared for their children's changes, so they can only cope in the previous way. Only by letting parents know about this mutation can teenagers bring about corresponding changes in their concepts and consciousness and eliminate misunderstandings and estrangements.

The second is the brand of the times. Parents born in 1950s and 1960s need a process of gradually knowing, understanding and accepting the concept of great integration in today's world. In the family, of course, children's ideological and cultural updates are the fastest. Therefore, it is the unshirkable responsibility of children to guide their parents to approach, know, understand and accept the tasks of the times.

Third, the rapid development of the times has brought parents nervous, tired and anxious emotional attitudes. Tension, fatigue and anxiety are the important reasons why children don't like their parents and form a generation gap. Don't let parents make decisions when they are in a bad mood. It is the child's duty to help parents eliminate bad emotions.

Fourth, children are impetuous, irritable and self-righteous. Well-informed parents certainly don't buy it.

The solution to the generation gap lies in both sides. Parents should study cultural knowledge hard, know the characteristics of their children in advance, and strive to grasp the characteristics and concepts of the times; Continuous learning and progress; At the same time, adjust your physical and mental state and try to treat your children with an optimistic, cheerful and trusting attitude; Children should be considerate and care about their parents, and adopt appropriate methods to guide parents to understand themselves and the concept of the times; At the same time, we should have a clear and profound understanding of our young and superficial needs. However, the primary responsibility of parents is to support their families; And children's social task is to learn. Both parents and children are responsible for the generation gap; Children have not done enough in caring for their parents, respecting and caring for their parents, and taking on family responsibilities. Therefore, we believe that the responsibility for the generation gap lies mainly with children.

Contrary view: the main responsibility of the generation gap lies with parents.

As far as the generation gap is concerned, it is because of inequality, incomprehension and disrespect. Although the old concept that the monarch is the minister and the father is the son has long been denied, it is still deeply rooted in the hearts of parents.

Zhang Ailing once said: "Children are not as confused as adults, and most parents don't understand the characteristics of children and young people, so they forget, which makes us forget the psychology of childhood." Zhang ailing's words show that parents don't understand their children's psychology. Parents are the makers of that generation gap, which distorts the greatest love in the world and makes the most selfless love wander in the generation gap.

Our parents were born in the fifties and sixties and grew up in the seventies and eighties. Their world was formed in a completely different era from ours. Marxism teaches us to look at problems from the perspective of development, so how can we look at today's problems from the perspective of yesterday?

Due to the traditional concept of the Chinese nation and the weakness of human nature, predecessors and present people have failed to leave written materials that can fully explain our views, but facts speak louder than words. Many living examples mercilessly refute the opposing debater, but the opposing debater takes a few teenagers with moral defects and bad behavior as evidence to deny our views, which makes the opposing debater's defense enter a sophistry situation of partially denying the whole and unilaterally denying the whole.

Sparks are inevitable in the friction between the secular and the avant-garde. Can we say that avant-garde thinking is wrong? The truth will only become clearer and clearer, and gorgeous language can't cover up the absurdity of the other party's defense.

Parents' indiscriminate reprimand and neglect of the essence of teaching have gradually distanced the hearts of two generations and their love. This is the generation gap. We might as well calm down and think about it, feel it with our hearts and feel it with our lives. Then we can easily find that the main responsibility for the generation gap between the two generations lies with parents.

When parents talk to their children and teach them, the attitude of absolute leadership and absolute rule is obvious. This makes the relationship between parents and children form a master-slave relationship. The development of this master-slave relationship will inevitably lead to a generation gap.

1. Compared with children, parents are mature individuals and children are immature individuals. Therefore, if there is a generation gap between parents and children, the responsibility must be on parents.

2. Compared with children, parents are in a dominant position in the family, both economically and spiritually. Therefore, parents are also in a dominant position in dealing with their children. There is a generation gap between them, and parents should also bear the main responsibility.

Compared with children, parents have rich life experience, so they should choose good ways to communicate with their children and try their best to bridge the generation gap with them. If they don't work hard to bridge this generation gap, they have an unshirkable responsibility.

Compared with children, parents have stronger thinking ability and wider knowledge, and should be more tolerant than children. Therefore, they should be mainly responsible for the generation gap.

Nowadays, children are very nervous about their studies and don't have much time to accept interpersonal skills. In contrast, their parents have more time to relax. They should use this relaxing time to learn some adolescent psychology, understand children's psychology, understand children's thoughts and needs, and don't create a generation gap.

6. Both parents are mature people, and their temperament should be milder than that of their children. Once children and parents get angry, parents should hold back the fire, adopt circuitous tactics or treat them coldly, instead of causing serious confrontation between the two sides, which will increase the psychological distance between the two generations and eventually lead to the failure of timely and calm communication between the two sides, thus creating a generation gap.

7. Children before junior high school graduation belong to minors, and parents have the obligation to support them. They should not only care about children's health, food and clothing, but also educate children to ensure that they have a healthy mind. If parents can't do this, there will be a generation gap between children and themselves, and the responsibility should of course be borne by parents.

1. Physically speaking, parents are older than us, so they are more mature than us both physically and psychologically. My parents' experience and experience are also richer than ours, more cautious and thorough than ours. So they have the ability to take appropriate measures to communicate with their children. If parents fail to do this, resulting in a "generation gap" between themselves and their children, then the main responsibility lies with parents.

Second, ideologically, parents don't understand their children, and they don't know what their children think and want. Parents just use their unique parental status to force their children to do things they don't want to do, thus suppressing all kinds of ideas in their children's minds. Think that what you say or do is reasonable and correct, which will create a "generation gap" between parents and children.

Thirdly, in terms of family status, parents are the head of the family and hold the economic power. As an example for children to learn, they can't let go of their airs and faces and can't communicate with children on an equal footing. In order to maintain their parents' prestige and dignity, they are unwilling to accept their children's various suggestions and always like their children's obedience. This "supreme" status of parents will create a "generation gap" between parents and children.

Fourth, from the perspective of modern education, children have to receive a lot of education, and family education is one of the most important educational contents for children. When it comes to family education, we should talk about the relationship between parents and children. We know that a good family environment will inevitably form a harmonious and warm family. If there is a gap between family members, it will inevitably have a certain impact on the growth of children. Parents' words and deeds and morality will have an impact on their children. Since the birth of a child, parents have become the child's first teacher. From then on, they have the responsibility and obligation to educate their children, which is also a social responsibility. Parents' dereliction of duty may cast a shadow over the family, resulting in family indifference and disharmony, as well as children's pessimism and negative thoughts.

In terms of the development of the times, parents' life experiences are mostly in the 1980s. The past experience gave them a taste of the hardships of life. They don't want their children to make the same mistakes, so they repeatedly ask them to accept their ideas. With the development of the times and the progress of society, children in the new century have formed different ways of thinking and principles from their parents, which will inevitably lead to a "generation gap" between parents and children, while parents do not actively communicate with their children. Comrade Jiang Zemin said: Our thoughts should keep pace with the times. But they just didn't do it.