What should I do if I fall into a low mood?

Lead: In feelings, people are afraid that their sincerity will disappoint them, and they are even more afraid that they will meet a bloody "baiwenhang". Especially in love, you pay more and hurt deeply. An emotional injury will keep you from coming out for a long time and deeply fall into the lowest valley of feelings. The following is what I have carefully arranged for you to do when you are in a low mood. Welcome to refer to!

Don't hate each other yet.

People who fall into the emotional trough will definitely be because of a man or a woman. Even if it is because of the end of a relationship or the failure of marriage, it is also a relationship between men and women. Since the relationship is broken or terminated, the other party will leave himself with pain and a lot of resentment. But the more I hate each other, the more I can't get out of that emotional trough. There is a saying that you hate only when you love, and you still hate. How can you put it down easily? So you have to remember that since you have paid and been hurt, this relationship is doomed to fail. What's the use of resentment? Just add pressure and sadness to yourself.

Analyze this relationship by yourself.

All emotional failures will not be just a trivial matter or a small contradiction, but will definitely be caused by day-to-day injuries. I don't know whether these injuries are entirely the fault of one person. Even if you think it's the other person's fault, you should think about it. Was the other person like this when you married him (her)? Definitely not, otherwise you wouldn't choose ta, would you? Then there must be a reason for each other's later. So, don't be too resentful or wronged, and analyze your feelings. Only when you understand it can you let go of your resentment.

Don't deny that emotion yourself.

No matter what you are separating for now, it may be because of each other's betrayal, selfishness, laziness, too many bad habits that can't be changed, and so on. No matter why you break up, you have to admit that there must be something you like about the other person, and this feeling must be necessary. Even if this feeling hurts you deeply, I can say that it is because of this injury that you have learned how to love yourself and how to choose a person who really loves you. So, you can deny that ta, but don't deny that feeling, because you have paid wholeheartedly, right?

Don't "pick" your memories.

No matter whether the other person is cold to you or not, you will have a good time. Strangely enough. No matter how ruthless and cruel the other person was to you at that time, once you are separated for a period of time, you will involuntarily think of each other's goodness. Especially when you encounter difficulties after separation, you will automatically ignore the time when that person is not good to you and only think about the scene when the other person is good to you, so that you can't get out of that emotional trough anyway. So Dudu suggests that you cut off your memory as much as possible. Even if you can't forget them, don't pick memories: you only miss ta's goodness and ignore ta's cruelty.

Despise the difficulty of being alone as much as possible.

Dudu's marriage has experienced too many storms, whether man-made or unintentional, Dudu has experienced fatigue and helplessness in this marriage. Before I decided to divorce, I never dared to imagine a person's life with children. I think for this marriage, my children and I left home and came to this foreign land. How can we live without him? It was not until I was really desperate that I found that everything was not as difficult as I thought. This shows that many difficulties are imaginary. At that time, you will understand that you are not such a cowardly person, and you are braver than you think. Even if DuDu, this marriage is still going on, but I know that in this world, there is no hurdle to cross, no difficulty to kill, as long as health is there, as long as life is there, all difficulties don't matter.

Don't take that relationship too seriously.

Especially women, once they start to fall in love, they will regard their feelings as the supreme thing and their boyfriends or husbands as the only motivation to live, but who knows whether the tomorrow in their feelings will be wind or rain? Once the relationship you rely on is in crisis, broken or betrayed, how do you live? I always hear many women crying: how can I live after this marriage is over? Or my boyfriend doesn't love me. Can't live, and so on. Seeing DuDu here will make you angry. How can you be so willing to feel inferior? In this world, there is nothing you can't live without. When you love, you really give. Don't love, turn around and leave. It is inevitable that it will be difficult for a while. Just turn around and wipe your tears.

Distract your attention.

Who hasn't suffered emotionally and who hasn't been hurt emotionally? Every time we experience pain, we are thinking about how to spend it, just like lovers who have no choice but to break up: how can we be strong without ta's love? But every time, we will get through it and continue to love and be loved. This shows that there is no unbearable pain in this world. The so-called emotional trough is just the beginning of a new relationship, and you still have a lot to do. Therefore, in addition to self-liberation, you should also learn to shift your spiritual center of gravity. Don't stay in your room all day thinking about those troubles, thinking about what you need to do and what you can do better. You should do it in turn, so that you won't be decadent when you are depressed, but you can also put those sorrows aside.

Don't nest in the fields of Xiaotian.

Dudu said more than once that you have too many things to do besides love and affection. You have to go more than that. The person you once loved is gone, and the marriage or relationship you once relied on is gone. Doesn't mean you have no right to love and be loved. On the contrary, you will be free soon, and your time is completely at your disposal. You can do what you like, chat with the opposite sex you don't dislike, or try to live in peace with the opposite sex who secretly loves you. You don't have to go around a man or a woman all day. You can go out and see where you've always wanted to go. You should remember that if you change your environment and mood, you will change a better way of life.

Plan the way forward.

Losing a relationship doesn't mean you don't love it in the future; Just because a marriage is over doesn't mean there is no life. As long as life is still there, there will be many things you should do and thousands of roads you should take. So, don't just focus on sadness, sadness, despair, missing and so on. Look at yourself. Will you continue like this? If that's the case, then I think you may be stuck in it all your life. Since we want to get out of the emotional trough, we must plan our future path. At the very least, you should know the outline of your next road, make some plans in your mind, and then take the time to do what you should do.

Take a look. Can you wait alone?

People say that women after their thirties can't afford to be hurt emotionally. Dudu thinks this is wrong. If they say they can't afford to lose, then they can't afford to lose at any age. I'm in my twenties, and I look very young, but I've been in love for a few years, married and have children, and my family is stable, but you have nothing. Therefore, no matter what age, no matter men or women, they are losers who lose their emotions. So no matter how old you are, whether you are male or female, once your relationship fails, it must mean that you have to start over and choose again, including your feelings and your life path. Do you know how much it costs to start over? Besides, you are still stuck in the so-called emotional trough. What can you get out of it? Ask yourself: Can you afford to wait? Can't you afford to lose?