How to have a normal heart?

Hello! I think as long as we keep a psychological balance, we will have a normal heart. I hope the following contents are helpful to you. There are many psychological imbalances, some because of frustration, some because of jealousy, and some because of loneliness. Some studies even show that it is closely related to health (such as nutrition, diseases and drugs).

The phenomenon of psychological imbalance occurs from time to time in life. Generally, when you encounter unsatisfactory grades, failure in the college entrance examination, quarreling with your family, being misunderstood and ridiculed, etc. All kinds of negative emotions accumulate in the heart, resulting in psychological imbalance. Negative emotions occupy a part of the heart and are heavier and narrower because of inertia; The unoccupied part is getting more and more empty and lighter, so the psychology is obviously divided into two parts. Depression is the most important thing, but impetuous is the least, which makes people behave violently, recklessly, biased and stupid. This is the natural catharsis of psychological energy accumulation, and its behavior is destructive.

What is needed at this time is "psychological compensation". Throughout the world, the secrets of their success include being good at adjusting psychological imbalance, restoring balance through psychological compensation, and even increasing constructive psychological energy.

Someone made a vivid metaphor: people are like a balance, with psychological compensation on the left and emotional and psychological pressure on the right. To what extent can you increase the weight of compensation function and achieve psychological balance, you will have time and energy to engage in those tasks that need to be completed and have full fun to enjoy life.

So, how should we increase the weight of psychological compensation?

Have a correct self-evaluation. Emotion changes with people's self-evaluation and demand satisfaction. So people should learn to evaluate themselves correctly at any time. Some teenagers are always depressed or resentful and even pessimistic because their self-evaluation is not affirmed and some needs are not met. At this time, they can't make the necessary reflection, adjust the distance between themselves and the objective, and finally they are in a state of depression or resentment. It can be seen that young people must correctly evaluate themselves, and their expectations of things should not be excessively higher than their actual values. When some expectations cannot be realized, be good at comforting and convincing yourself. Don't be afraid, life without regrets is dull and lifeless. Regret is an "additive" in life, which increases the motivation of change and pursuit, makes people uneasy with the status quo and always has room for progress. Regret is everywhere, but hope is everywhere. Hope comforts regret, and regret enriches hope. As the French writer alexandre dumasfils said, "Life is a rosary made up of countless small troubles, and a philosophical person counts this rosary with a smile." Life without regrets is the biggest regret.

In order to have self-knowledge, it is often necessary to treat others' comments correctly. Therefore, it is an effective means to get psychological compensation by exchanging ideas with others and relying on the help of friends.

You must realize that the troubles you encounter are inevitable in life. Psychological compensation is based on reason. People have feelings, and naturally they will not be insensitive to unpleasant things. Irrational people like to be wronged, complain, excuse and complain everywhere, as if they can get rid of the pain. In fact, it is often a waste of time, and reality is still reality; Smart people just want to admit the reality, neither fantasize about the sudden disappearance of frustration and distress, nor regret what they should have done at the beginning, but think that unpleasant things are often encountered by others, not that God has a hard time with you. In this way, you will reduce your psychological pressure, calm down as soon as possible, analyze that matter, sum up experience and lessons, and actively seek solutions. In the face of setbacks, we should properly use the "spiritual victory method", that is, the so-called "Ah Q" spirit, which is helpful for psychological compensation in adversity. For example, failure in experiments is considered as the mother of success; If you are misunderstood or slandered, you should think of the truth of "growing up with scolding"

However, when making psychological compensation, we should also pay attention to that self-consolation does not mean letting things drift and defending mistakes. A truly philosophical person is often the most ruthless critic of his own shortcomings and mistakes, the most demanding and enterprising person, and a person willing to challenge himself.

Please remember Hugo's words: "Laughter is sunshine, which can drive winter out of people's faces."