Gift = = heart

The explanation given by Baidu Encyclopedia is that in social communication, people give each other things in order to express their blessings and wishes or friendship. Gifts are carriers for the giver to convey information, feelings and wishes to the recipient. Usually things that people give to each other to please each other, or to show goodwill and respect. I think this explanation is very accurate. A gift is a day and a moment in ordinary life. We give him a meaning, that is, he is different and shining. Gifts are between friendship and love, and they are not indispensable, but they are an important part of increasing feelings.

Between friendship

Ordinary simplicity probably runs through my life. I don't want to be the man of the hour when I was a child. As I grow up, I find it really troublesome to maintain too many relationships. It is better to have a few people who treat each other sincerely than a bunch of friends in my circle of friends. I want to talk to them about some people who can live in their nest and go shopping and drink together. Of course, there are few gifts on specific days, and there are not many specific days in a year. Birthdays count as one. From now on or from a previous birthday, it has become an indispensable tacit understanding to give gifts to each other every birthday. Receiving your gifts has also become a habit. To some extent, habit is a terrible thing. When a certain time does not appear according to the original habit, it becomes inappropriate. Growing up, I didn't get many gifts. When I was a child, my birthday was in summer vacation. My family is not in the habit of helping me celebrate my birthday. I became very shy after I went to high school. When someone asked me when my birthday was, I was afraid that the other party would give me a gift. I have to think about what gift to give each other. I will say that I left after my birthday. So now I hear my mother say: how sensible I am in high school, I don't waste any money, I am very economical. I will think, if the time goes back to the second year of high school that year and I tell you when my birthday is, you must think about helping me celebrate my birthday and buy a cake for tens of dollars. As long as the protagonist is me, I will receive a gift from each of you. You know, at that time, I would be super envious to see my friends receive more than a dozen handicrafts from others. Every time I think about it, I always feel that years owe me several birthdays. Maybe that's why I look younger than others. In this way, do you also hope that the years will owe you a few birthdays? If I had let go, wouldn't I be who I am now? But now, I still don't have so many friends, and the gifts I receive are still occasional gifts, but I know that they are all friendships precipitated by years. When they helped me choose a gift, they must have thought I would be happy to receive it. I feel very happy when I think like this.

Between love

The gift between love, I think, is probably a signal that you think "she deserves" to receive such a wonderful gift. Recently, just after Tanabata, WeChat official accounts have analyzed Tanabata from all angles. As for gifts, I think boys should be happy to give girls gifts and see girls accept them safely and smile happily. When I give gifts to others, one thing I fear most is not being taken seriously and being denied. I remember a friend who likes to buy all kinds of wrapping paper. She said that gifts need to be carefully packaged, and the packaging process represents a sincere heart. If I say that I sent it carefully, the other person's negative eyes can make me feel that all my efforts are in vain. Last time I gave my classmate R a CD, I thought the sound inside was beautiful and quiet, like birds singing in the mountains and waves in the sea, so I bought it and gave it to him. I find myself a very serious person sometimes. I can take each other's jokes seriously. When I gave them to him, he said no, but I said in my heart: Hum, I will never buy anything for you again. In fact, I didn't think how much he would like it when I bought it. I just thought he might like it at that time, and I was a little disappointed at that moment.

How did M and L spend Tanabata?

The day before Tanabata, I asked M what gift to give her. L also joked: Isn't every festival in a year for my girlfriend? I have to give gifts, but I don't like anything I give. What should I give you? M thought for a moment: What have you sent before? I said, what should I give you? M said: I don't know, the gift, the gift is for me because you think I will like it. I don't mean to send you a link if I want to buy anything. You can buy it for me, so there is no surprise. He said: Then you may be happier. After all, it's your choice. You'll like it. L said: give you a red envelope, or buy what you like. M said: No, giving out red envelopes is the simplest, most insincere and least memorable. Years later, I recalled what you gave me on Valentine's Day. I can't figure out what you gave me. I just remember a few numbers in Alipay, and I may even forget them. The value of a gift can be measured by money or determined by the preference of the recipient. Even a rose by the subway, an ice cream from McDonald's or a hug before leaving can be very warm gifts. But if the value of a gift is measured by the amount of money, it will always be a scene of insufficient amount. The happiness that money brings us is often short-lived. The first time I received a red envelope from 500 yuan, it might be a very large sum. However, once you compare his pocket with the total amount in your Alipay, the pleasure instantly drops to zero. The second time you receive a thousand red envelopes, it will double the first time, but the pleasure will not double, at least I won't.

On Tanabata, M told L that Tanabata was an ordinary day, but this day was expected by M. She hoped to receive a gift from L and spend Tanabata with her. I called to ask M if he had any daily necessities to buy or what he wanted to eat. M said:No. Later, L appeared in front of M with two big bags of food, which was quite heavy and quite a lot. M was surprised after reading it, but it was hard to say anything. After all, people are not empty-handed, and it is quite heavy to carry all the way, but a gust of wind, a very cold wind, passed in M's heart. She doesn't know what the problem is. There seems to be something wrong, but she can't find any exit. When I saw that she was unhappy, I said that from the moment we met, you proved your unhappiness with silence. This sentence made m feel wronged from the beginning of our understanding, and the tears could not bear it any longer. She doesn't know what to cry about, she just feels wronged. Every year is just Tanabata. You can buy daily necessities at any time. Why use the name Tanabata or Tanabata? What she waited for a year on Tanabata was tears. It turns out that the tears of Tanabata are not sweet, but not bitter. The taste is mixed with each other's company, which seems very sweet and difficult to ponder. Even when I took a flower out of her schoolbag at the subway station, she didn't pick it up because she was suppressing her grievances. The reason for the grievance is that she raised her expectations too much. In fact, Tanabata is a day in ordinary life. On this day, you get up on time, go to work on time and rest on time, just like listening to Happy Break-up released by a tea shop. He won't be much better if you don't give him any meaning. This day will not be because of you.

Later, M told me that she felt that she could not pass this matter. She felt wronged when she thought that she didn't get anything for Tanabata, and tears would still flow unconsciously. It saddens me to think that he won't give me a present now. A few years later, he has all the more reason not to give me a gift. I couldn't get them when I could get them. What should I do? I said, didn't he give you a bunch of food? What a good friendship! She said, "I can deliver meals at any time. What I want is that this day is different and shiny. Even if it's the same as others, even if it's nothing new, even if it's similar every year and people are different every year, it's better than keeping me waiting. Why don't I send what I sent twice? My home is too far away, and no one helps me receive the express delivery. It has been said for many days that I should give them red envelopes directly. These crowns. " Other people's books say that boys who like you will take you home, and boys who want to see you will find time no matter how busy they are. Boys who want to give you gifts are better than those who don't know what to give. Why isn't such a boyfriend from my family? Why are boyfriends the favorites of others? I said, it's not true. In fact, if you look back, isn't he cute? He also knows that this day is very different, and he doesn't know what to send. Did you remember to bring you food when he came back from Changshu last time? You feel very happy and ashamed. Didn't you ever think about bringing him anything back when you went out? Besides, people have listened to your complaints for two hours from beginning to end. Go on, she can tell me her grievances. This conversation will never end. This loop is like an infinite loop. No one is wrong. She just added some expectations, thinking that this day would be different. Her boyfriend can only say that she doesn't understand the girl's heart and is too practical. Not everything should be practical. Maybe in a few years, M won't like those gifts that are not practical enough. But now, she is no better than others.

There are always some moments in life that are out of place. After that moment, they pass, and what remains in my heart may be a kind of mood that I will talk about later. Gifts can express our blessings. Some things are not measured by money, but by heart. But we can't see our hearts, we can only express them with our hearts. It is good that friends and lovers can feel that heart in their lives.