How to deal with children's verbal violence

A recent new situation in Tong Tong is "language violence". When things go wrong, I often say, "I killed them all." "I'm going to cut it off." Or "I want to smash everything." Very shocking.

I tried to tell him in a reasonable way that the language was not good, but it didn't seem to have much effect. Tong Tong is still keen on his "violent language". Tong Tong's father said to me yesterday: He said again, let's ignore him and don't act as if we care. Maybe it will be better after a while. I thought it was a good idea, so I started the experiment, and so far I haven't seen much effect. Although I also know that this phenomenon may only be temporary in children, I still want to consult experienced mothers and hope to find more and better tricks.

1806 reply: (written in116/01:38: 51pm)

Combine the story content, use the familiar story characters and tell him the truth in this respect. I think both your methods and Tong Tong's dad's are right. Hold on!

Reply to my heart: (written in116/0110: 34: 27pm)

I often use the method of cold treatment, and many bad problems in Rain are dealt with in this way. Such young children don't know what is good and what is bad, and some words and deeds they show are often just to attract the attention of adults. If his parents don't care about his performance, he will feel bored and won't show it after a long time.

Wangxb's reply: (written in116/014: 00 pm1:22)

Belle has never experienced verbal violence, but some of her mistakes have been corrected by cold treatment. Like picking your nose, frowning and so on. Make it clear to the children that your parents don't like this habit. I hope you can correct it. Mom and dad believe you can get rid of it. Give encouragement to the child if she makes progress.

Xkd's reply: (written at117/018: 58: 34 am)

Thank you for your opinions. Belle's mother talked about the habit of picking her nose. I want to talk about a failure case in Tong Tong.

When Tong Tong picked his nose, I began to correct him. I also read an article about the disadvantages of picking his nose in a medical magazine with him. Since then, the concept of "picking one's nose is not a good habit" has taken root in Tong Tong's mind, but the habit of picking one's nose remains stubbornly in Tong Tong. It's just that every time Tong Tong picks his nose, he will consciously avoid our eyes (in fact, this is a cover-up), or use words like "I'm not picking my nose, I'm just touching it" to deal with us. Later, we always used the method of cold treatment, and it didn't work.

Think about my own habit of biting my nails. When I was a child, my mother tried many ways to correct it, but it didn't work. Until now, it is still deeply rooted, and I am too lazy to pay attention to it.