Reading is good, but it is more common. How can I associate with girls?

Focus on the chat itself, not the topic.

Many people don't know how to chat with girls, and often there is no topic to talk about. And I think: chatting doesn't need to prepare a topic at all! Topic-based chat method: When chatting, we always want to focus on the topic we have thought of in advance, but we don't pay attention to the chat itself, so the following situations often occur:

for instance

Me: Have you eaten? (raise a topic)

Yes

Me: What are you doing? (bring up another topic)

Surf the Internet

Me: Is the weather good there? (bring up another topic)

MM: not bad

Me: Are you busy recently? (bring up another topic)

take one's time

Me:. . . . There is no topic to talk about, because there is always a time when the topic ends.

Me: Oh, well, I just want to call and ask what you are doing, so keep busy. Goodbye.

MM: goodbye

Because all you can think of at this moment is, what should I say? What topic should I talk to MM? This often leads to a dead end. When you finish the questions prepared in advance, you will find that you are dumb!

The correct way to chat is to pay attention to the chat itself, not the topic of chat, not the question of what to talk about, but the question of how to talk.

for instance

Me: Have you eaten? (Put forward a topic, key words: eat rice)

MM: I ate it.

Me: What did you eat? (triggered by keyword eating)

MM: Beef noodles.

Me: Did you make it yourself? (triggered by the keyword rice)

MM: Beef noodles.

Me: Did you make it yourself? (triggered by the keyword rice)

I can't cook. I bought it. (Keywords: I can't cook. ) Me: You can't cook. A girl can't even cook. See how you got married. A new keyword has appeared because it can't cook. )

MM: I don't want to do it. My mother used to do this.

Me: It was before, and now it is now. Now you have grown up. Girls should learn to cook. Don't you cook as a wife? (Previously, this keyword triggered a new keyword "adult wife")

I haven't decided to get married. . . (Keywords Marriage)

Me: Your mother loves you very much.

MM: My mother loves me very much. I am the youngest. Of course it will hurt me.

Me: Are you the youngest? Do you have any brothers or sisters? (A new keyword brother is triggered by the smallest keyword)

My sister BLABLABLAL. . . . (many)

When I got here, I found that the key words used here are almost the same. I immediately returned to the keyword marriage in the previous conversation, and I can chat with the keywords that appeared in the conversation between the superior and the subordinate!

Me: haven't you decided what kind of person you want to marry? (triggered by the keyword marriage)

I haven't decided yet, BLABLABLAL. . . . (Many) (Key words: I don't know)

Me: What's your standard? (triggered by bad thinking of keywords)

MM: My standard is. . BLABLABLAL .。 . . (many)

At this time, I found that there were no keywords in what she said, or the keywords here were not conducive to your topic. Go back to the keywords in the previous conversation and chat immediately!

take for example

The keyword buy in line 6.

Me: Do you like shopping? Do you like shopping? (New keyword purchases are triggered by earlier keyword purchases)

MM: I like it. I like it very much.

Me: What else do you like? (triggered by favorite keywords) MM: I like singing, swimming and traveling (new keywords appear: singing, swimming and traveling).

Me: Oh, you like singing. Whose song do you like to sing? Hmm. . . .

Me: Oh, you like swimming. Can you swim? How is your swimming? Where do you usually swim?

Hmm. . . .

Me: Oh, you like traveling. Where have you traveled? How do you feel?

Hmm. . . .

Don't dwell on a keyword all the time, grab a keyword and start chatting when you reach a certain level! Go back to the last keyword and start talking to a certain extent. Stop. Go back to the last keyword in the middle of the chat to continue the chat. Stop. Go back to the top and start chatting with the last keyword to some extent. Stop. Go back to the previous keyword chat. . . . . .

You will find that you have not prepared any topics during the whole chat, and the chat itself will bring you countless topics! You don't need to be ready to start chatting anytime, anywhere. You won't be under pressure. You won't rack your brains to think about what I should say. Because you will have so many topics that you don't know what to choose to talk about. The important thing is that you have something to say and get into a good chat atmosphere. It doesn't matter what you talk to MM, what matters is fun, fun and humor in this atmosphere. Of course, this series of verbiage seems to have no focus and no nutrition, but what I want to say is that this is just an example, so that people in the AFC who talk to girls only a few words can have something to say, so as not to be cold, and I won't keep asking questions like this. This process should be interactive. I can only say that this is just the skeleton of chatting. To make chatting interesting, we must join the framework, push and pull, and silence.

1. Just think of them as boys ... This is a very depressing and strange method. If you can use it, you should be successful.

2. Coax girls? Read more jokes!

You'd better ask some people who have girlfriends.

Some girls are greedy for money, and they are the kind of people who get something for nothing (like me). We can invite them to have dinner together.

No matter what you are: grades, handsomeness or even fighting, as long as you are 65438 +0, you can attract some people.

6. None of the above can be done? Then be optimistic and smile.

7. What? Don't even know how to laugh? Then be caring and kind, if girls see you doing good things. ....

First, in fact, girls are very afraid of loneliness. At first, boys must take the initiative but grasp the degree. Even if you like her very much, don't be too hot. Take your time. . . You can't rush it. . .

Second, girls usually like to buy clothes. If you have time, go shopping with her and buy some clothes, cosmetics and other favorite things.

Third, if you have time, go for an outing, watch a movie, ask her out to crush the road and so on. Find a suitable opportunity to send some flowers, small gifts and so on.

In a word, you should always keep in touch with yourself.

Your question is really too broad. Because girls have their own personalities and hobbies, not all girls like boys who will be active in the atmosphere.

There is no doubt about your introversion. I suggest you find another way. How to find another way and analyze the specific problems.

First of all, you should know what kind of girl you like. You don't want to win the favor of every girl in a group activity, do you? In a fixed party, it is estimated that only 1-2 girls are suitable for your eyes. You have to look with your eyes first.

The second is observation. The girl who is close to your eyes, what color clothes she wears today, what accessories she has, whether she has makeup, what style she uses, cute style, versatile style and so on. You can roughly judge their preferences by their clothes. Most girls like beautiful and lovely things. You can find out what beautiful and lovely things are popular on today's social network, so that you can have a certain buzz with girls. Even the models and styles of mobile phones used by girls, and even for mobile phones, there are popular mobile games. You can discuss how to crack the games and rush off. At this time, you must always pay attention to some fashionable and popular news.

It's no use chasing girls. Study hard, be careful and broaden your knowledge. And what you see is not the personal information you are in, but the experience of the whole society. In fact, men and women still have some similarities, such as discussing cars, economy, ethics, the most popular movies or TV programs and the most popular digital products.

Third, in the above two descriptions, you have a certain foundation, you can attack, get close to her, pick up her words, and let the other party immediately lock your interest in her. See if she's interested in you.

Wood is not the problem, but your wood is not up to standard. Some dull-witted boys made big movies without singing. What others say, he hits the nail on the head, summarizes the essence in one sentence, or has an incisive summary, so that people around him admire his uniqueness and begin to pay attention to him. I don't know if you understand what I mean by this passage.

Finally, if you find a girl who has an eye for singing, she will also call you. Lock her up and start dating. Dig more details about her, such as what she likes to eat and what she likes to buy. Sometimes, don't just say, buy her what she likes and give her what she wants as a gift. Take action to maintain your friendship.

In fact, what I want to say to you most is not your introversion and simplicity. You feel inferior and don't want to break through yourself. This is the root of your problem. If you really want to pursue girls, you should know how to do what you like, and explode your own small universe to collect a lot of social information. If you don't want to go beyond yourself, all my suggestions are in vain. What did you say?/Sorry?