"Boys must know how to respect women!"

“Girls must know how to protect themselves.”

This sentence is familiar to our entire society. After each case of sexual assault and rape, there is always There are endless well-intentioned reminders, and the good intentions are right. The helpless people do not have the superpower to predict danger, punish evil and eradicate evil. They can and can only say a few powerless words after a tragedy, something like "Everything will be fine." "What is wrong with such consolation is not good intentions, but values.

Our values ??have long begun to deviate under the influence of tradition. This influence is so deep-rooted that people in the whole society feel that there is nothing wrong with this sentence.

“Women are a vulnerable group, what’s wrong with teaching them how to protect themselves?”

So let’s go back to the beginning, where does the idea that women are a vulnerable group come from?

It comes from the fact that women are easily hurt and violated, so the first people began to judge that women are a vulnerable group. Or in other words, women are vulnerable to harm and violation, so they are a vulnerable group.

But in today’s society, girls should know how to protect themselves. They clearly say: women are a vulnerable group, so they are easily hurt and violated, so they must protect themselves.

How to solve the problem if the causal relationship is confused? In other words, it is not a mistake, but the wrong "cause" has been found.

If a small group of men did not violate women from the beginning, how could there be a "vulnerable group"? Generation after generation, people will only believe that men and women are equal and have a balance of power. No one dares to harm the other easily. Over time, values ??are formed.

Even if some people say that "vulnerable groups" means girls are less powerful and should know how to protect themselves. Sorry, if that's the case, I think the correct point of view should be "people should know how to protect themselves."

Because everyone, regardless of gender, has a chance of being harmed, this statement is fair and will not lead generations to subconsciously believe that "women are easy to bully".

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As long as something goes wrong, everyone will tell women to protect themselves after condemning many parties. Few people will tell the male compatriots to know how to respect women.

On May 10 this year, a woman in Chengdu went to Shuangliu Hengkang Hospital for treatment for underarm body odor. Unexpectedly, a male doctor named Luo injected a sedative into her in the treatment room while she was asleep. sexual assault.

A patient is treated in the hospital according to normal procedures, but still suffers from such a thing. Who can say that "girls should know how to protect themselves"?

At around two o'clock in the afternoon on July 24 last year, Hu Yixuan met pregnant Tan Beibei on the way to see a good friend. The other party said that she had a stomachache, so the kind-hearted Hu Yixuan sent the pregnant Tan Beibei home.

But it’s hard to imagine that Tan Beibei just used her status as a pregnant woman to trick the little girl into bringing her home for her husband to sexually assault.

After Hu Yixuan was brought into the house, Tan Beibei tricked her into drinking a cup of drugged yogurt and passed out. However, she was in her menstrual period. The male criminal suspect Bai Yunjiang attempted rape and was afraid that the matter would be exposed, so she Hu Yixuan was brutally killed and her body dumped.

With good intentions, why did it end up like this?

There are too many such cases, which cannot be solved by a pale "protect yourself". How could a female patient think that a single treatment would actually cause harm to herself? How could Hu Yixuan think that a good deed would end up costing her life?

The fault is not that girls don’t know how to protect themselves, it’s the fault of those heartless beasts!

Recently, a Yueqing girl was raped and killed while riding a ride on a ride, and many people are condemning the crime. In addition to others, they began to seize the opportunity to teach girls to learn to protect themselves, because they should not take a ride at night.

If the management of "Didi" is foolproof, if the drivers are strictly controlled, and if that person absolutely respects women instead of being extremely dirty in his thoughts and actions, then it would be a good idea to take a ride at night. What's wrong? 3.

Some people say, who told you to wear so little? You deserve to be raped.

Who gave these values? When did women's freedom become a reason for you to commit crimes?

The deep-rooted thoughts in the mind have deteriorated into moths, eating away at a person's conscience, and as a result, tragedies have occurred.

Girls have been taught almost since childhood that you must know how to protect yourself. This is the love given by your family and also the education of survival. But why doesn’t anyone start educating boys from a young age to respect girls?

On August 20, Dr. An and her husband from Sichuan went swimming. As a result, Dr. An was "offended" by two 13-year-old boys. Dr. An asked them to apologize, but the boys refused and spat at him. Dr. An's husband pushed the boy into the water. After that, the boy's parents beat Dr. An, and both parties finally called the police. Dr. An's husband apologized to the child on the spot, but the next day he went to the couple's workplace and asked the leader to fire Dr. An. On the 25th, she couldn't bear the pressure and chose to commit suicide.

Parents’ excuses are all the same. What do children know and what can offend you?

Those protective parents forget about instilling correct values, dote on their children with their own "practical practices", acquiesce in their mistakes and even abhorrent behaviors, help evildoers, and pass on black ideas to the next generation.

Under such an education, the so-called ignorant children will one day become a cancer in society.

Finally, I want to say that on the premise that people should know how to respect others, an emphasis should be added. Men should know how to respect women.