My husband is a affectionate person, and I love and hate him.

Hehe, maybe you met a kind man and you are very happy. What makes you think that? Being kind to others is your own character. There is a saying that he is kind to everyone, which is normal. If you don't care about his wife, if you are his friend, or if you are a man, it is normal for him to be kind to others. Maybe you are his friend and he is so kind to you. This kind of person is as good to everyone, if you are good to him. You can ask his friends, men and women, or his parents if he is so kind to everyone, so that your mind will be clear. If so, then I am right. If not, you should defend your own interests and make it clear to him.