Tell me about recruiting a son-in-law to go out.

The word "door-to-door son-in-law" has always been despised by people, which is a prejudice against them since ancient times. In the eyes of ordinary people, only men who are incapable and have poor families will let their children leave their loved ones and go far away.

It used to be said that if there were no men at home, they would divorce, be looked down upon and be scolded. Because there are no boys at home, incense can't last, and even if your family is rich, no one will inherit it. Therefore, many families with only daughters either adopt an adopted son or let their daughters recruit a son-in-law to adopt at home.

Nowadays, with the development of society, many families are only children, so it doesn't matter to recruit a son-in-law. However, in rural areas and some more traditional families, there is an obsession with the son-in-law, especially for self-made entrepreneurs. In their minds, they hope that the industry they created must be inherited by one person, so their daughter's marriage has become their heart disease.

First, recruiting a son-in-law is different.

0 1 It's hard to mention that there are no boys in the family, and treat the son-in-law as his own son.

Uncle Wang, 67 years old

My wife and I gave birth to four daughters, who are absolute registered permanent residence in the countryside and are looked down upon, especially when the farm is busy harvesting crops, and there is no male labor at home, which is really tiring.

My wife and I are honest. Sometimes rural people love their parents' shortcomings. Children argue, families without boys are bullied, our children are scolded, and we dare not argue with others. After so many years, I know that there is no grievance from boys at home.

When my eldest daughter was 20 years old, I recruited a son-in-law for her. I don't expect him to be more capable, but he must be honest and reliable. Rural people want to live honestly, not half-heartedly.

My son-in-law is not bad. His three brothers are poor and have a heavy burden. It is not easy to marry a wife. As soon as he comes, I will let him be the boss and treat him as my own son. As long as he dares and is willing to do it, I will support him.

The child is active, intelligent and capable. The key is that he is practical and willing to bear hardships. Since he married his eldest daughter, the family has been filled with laughter. I agree and support that he wants to run a chicken farm.

People are afraid that they have no ideas. As long as you want to do it, there is plenty of land in the countryside and we have plenty of strength.

In less than three years, he became a professional chicken farmer in our village and led the whole village to become rich. I am proud that he has become an able person in everyone's eyes. I didn't even dare to speak loudly in the village before, for fear of being teased and looked down upon. Now seeing that he is so capable, all the neighbors come to ask for advice, and I have gained everyone's respect. This inner pride arises spontaneously. Seeing my son-in-law so popular, my waist straightened.

You don't know, there are no men at home, and I really have no confidence in my heart. Now my son-in-law has also built three floors, becoming the first Plutocratic family in our village, which makes our family find glory at once. It's really different to have a son-in-law at home. Our hometown is finally getting ahead in front of the whole village.

Why should I complain for my son-in-law?

Ms. Yang, 55 years old

My wife and I started a company. There is a house and a car at home, not to mention wealth. At the very least, our daughter lives well, but she doesn't have a well-off son. My wife and I are going to recruit a son-in-law for our daughter.

The daughters are all 30 years old and have been in love before. When they heard that they would be adopted by our family, they all chickened out. I really don't understand why they don't want to be a door-to-door son-in-law when my family is in such good conditions.

However, I am a door-to-door son-in-law, which makes people angry when I say it. There is no need to buy a house to live with us. We are in the middle of the building, which is convenient to take care of. I saw him working far from home and bought a car for his son-in-law. Later, it was discovered that his salary was only over 4,000 a month. Can this feed my daughter?

I found someone to help him get into my friend's company and arranged for him to be a deputy director of a department. His salary has been raised and he has become a small leader, but our contradiction is getting deeper and deeper. He used to be very diligent when he came home. I like cooking and housework very much.

Now he comes home late every day and says nothing. He is still drunk and sometimes looks unhappy. I asked my daughter why. Daughter said thoughtfully:

"Xiaojin once came back to complain after drinking too much." I don't want much, but why am I still unhappy? "He doesn't like the job you gave him, and he is under great pressure. Mom, will you stop being so strong in the future? Let him decide his own business. "

I don't understand. I care about him. Not only did he not appreciate me changing his high-paying position, but he also said that I was nosy and looked down on him. Even my daughter says I'm strong, which makes me unreasonable. I really don't know what to do!

It is lonely for the son-in-law to be excluded.

Mr. Liu, 32 years old

I am the door-to-door son-in-law In fact, people do not accept the word "door-to-door son-in-law" in their hearts. Although I am a college student and dare to challenge the secular vision, I am still upset by others' gossiping behind my back.

My wife and I are college classmates and have deep feelings. The happiest thing in this world is that I love her and she just loves me.

His father started a business in his early years and started a company, which is a family business. Unfortunately, he fell ill and died the year before. To fulfill my father-in-law's wishes, I became their son-in-law.

After the marriage, I took over the property left by my father-in-law. Because I joined, I was looked down upon by my wife's relatives and friends. On the surface, they respect me, but in private, they say I am a freeloader. In the personnel arrangement of the company, if I stick to the principle, the phone will be ringing off the hook, full of pleading and abuse, which once made me want to return.

Being a door-to-door son-in-law, sometimes I know that I am excluded but I can't help it. When you are depressed, you always feel the power of loneliness. At that time, your heart will be more eager to miss your family and more eager for your parents and relatives to comfort you. Someone knows how to lend you some warmth and shoulders.

Sometimes my mother-in-law will shake her head and sigh. I feel more bound by the family business. Sometimes reason must prevail over feelings. After I communicated my ideas with my mother-in-law, she also supported my reform. Although I struggled, I gritted my teeth and persisted, because giving up and shrinking is not my character. Fortunately, with the help of my mother-in-law and my efforts, all aspects are on the right track.

My feeling is that it is difficult to be a door-to-door son-in-law First of all, you should be able to get over this hurdle in your mind and accept other people's eyes. As the saying goes, a straight foot is not afraid of a crooked shadow. As long as you are not selfish, they will understand and accept you for a long time. It's just that this mental journey is sometimes very tiring.

Conclusion:

After reading the heartfelt words of these three people, we do have different ideas and difficulties about our son-in-law, but it depends on human effort. As parents, we must want to make our family successful and shine.

I grew up in the countryside, and I am really looked down upon by people who have no sons in the countryside. In their hearts, I feel inferior. In the past, the atmosphere in the countryside was not very good. There is no son at home, and I have no confidence to speak. Not only did no one harvest the crops, but my children were bullied and even afraid to ask for advice for fear of being scolded and beaten.

But from these three paragraphs, I found that:

0 1 Choose a son-in-law with vision and sincerity.

Uncle Wang is a real person. When choosing a son-in-law, you can choose people according to your own conditions. Honest and reliable boys are the most popular.

The key is that he regards his son-in-law as his son and truly lets him be the master of his own house. Man, when you really accept him from the heart, your every move is sincere. After all, he left his hometown and went to your home. If you open your heart and don't treat him as an outsider, naturally he will become the master of this family.

Take care of him and don't force him to obey your arrangement.

Ms. Yang has a well-off family and likes to meddle in the affairs of her son-in-law. She is really a little strong.

It is said that foreign monks like to recite scriptures, and foreign son-in-law is not necessarily popular. If the mother-in-law always interferes with the son-in-law's affairs, it will definitely make him feel uncomfortable. He has already felt inferior. If you dislike his low salary and help him change jobs he doesn't like, it seems that he will be promoted and raised, and sometimes his ability is not up to standard. Can you understand the pressure inside him?

Although I am kind enough to help my son-in-law, I don't care from my heart whether my son-in-law is willing to accept such help. Sometimes kindness is not necessarily popular. Therefore, Ms. Yang made some mistakes in decision-making. If you want to change your practice, you must communicate with your son-in-law, respect your child's decision, and let your son-in-law eliminate bad emotions.

Dare to challenge and face it calmly.

Mr. Liu is a promising young man who dares to think and do. It is because he loves his wife that he is unwilling to accept the family business. Although he struggled in one step for several years, he had to accept the ridicule and exclusion of others.

He can face and have the courage to stand firm in this big family without the help of his mother-in-law. He is a grateful man. Sometimes, this mental journey is another exercise for yourself.

From their experience, I feel that there is a relationship of mutual respect between son-in-law and parents-in-law. The elders love their son-in-law, and the younger generation should also respect the elderly. It is said that it is not that one family does not enter one household. Since we have become a family, we should be open and honest, treat others sincerely, respect and love each other, and live in harmony and happiness forever.

Today's topic:

If you are a man, will you accept a woman's proposal to be a "door-to-door son-in-law"