A colleague ordered raw seafood crazily, threw 500 yuan and left. Did you do the right thing?

First of all, don't comment on colleagues' right and wrong. I thought you were wrong. Let's simply analyze it!

First come to the conclusion that you are a modest manager in your company. Because of your outstanding performance, your company awarded the 500 yuan Prize. You said your colleague asked you to treat. Since your colleague asked you to treat, it shows that your relationship is unusual. At the same time, you also managed to invite you to dinner, which once again shows that your relationship is very unusual!

Secondly, you made an obvious mistake in the choice of hotel grade. Do you dare to take many colleagues to eat seafood for a mere 500 yuan prize? Your behavior misled the colleagues who came with you to congratulate you, thinking that you were going to do something great!

Finally, as you said, one of your colleagues ordered 1000 yuan of seafood, leaving 500 yuan. Explain that at this time, you have had an unpleasant relationship with this colleague because of ordering food. Colleagues are also very particular about it. If you don't eat a chopstick, you will lose 500 yuan and share the cost of this meal with you, which shows that this person is still a particular person!

Finally, guests must do what they can, and those who can eat together are either friends or iron children. Such friends don't pay much attention to eating and drinking, just want to find an excuse to have a drink, catch up, brag and relieve the mental stress in daily life!

Apologize to your friends as soon as possible, such friends deserve to make friends!

I really met this thing. Like you, I said a few words, left the two thousand bonus and left. Because of what, I roughly estimated the dishes at this table, at least 5 thousand, not including drinks.

At that time, my monthly salary was only seven or eight thousand.

Is this when I was beaten?

Who is a fool!

What happened afterwards?

This should start with what happened.

As a result of excellent work performance, the company completely achieved its goal, and the unit gave 2000 bonuses. According to the established rules, it should treat guests.

But generally just invite colleagues from the department.

Several colleagues in the department next door didn't know what medicine they had taken wrong that day, and even came to me for treatment.

Yes, please, please. 2000 should be enough to eat.

Ok, in XXX, at six o'clock tonight.

After the appointment, I didn't take it seriously, so I added a few pairs of chopsticks.

But I happened to be very busy that day and my colleagues worked overtime with us. I looked at the time and asked my colleagues next door to go to the box first and order good food first.

When we finished, it was almost seven o'clock.

Go with colleagues in the department, a few cars.

After I went to the box, I looked at the food on the table and went at once!

Like Paulson's flank, everything!

That big lobster is not the legendary Australian dragon, is it?

I didn't sit down and asked directly, "Who ordered the food?"

Several colleagues looked at a person.

Oh, it turns out to be the guy who likes to take advantage of others most at ordinary times. He is stingy and lonely to others.

I immediately smiled, took out two thousand bonuses, threw them on the table, sprayed a few words, and left.

What the hell!

Did I take your order?

It's not your order. All right!

As soon as my colleagues in the same department saw me leave angrily, they immediately followed me. Anyway, they haven't started eating yet, and it's not their turn to chip in.

Later, I heard from my colleagues in the next department that none of them dared to eat, and they left for fear of AA.

I don't know exactly what happened, but I heard that this guy's face was black all day the next day, and he was embarrassed to say it.

What happened afterwards?

I resigned, not to mention him!

Last summer, I was going to quit my job and leave the company where 15 worked. The monitor said in front of everyone, "You invite everyone to dinner, and I will provide all the beer." I thought it would be cheaper, but what he did made me realize what greed was. ...

I used to work in a big company in Zhengzhou, and worked for 15 years. I gradually grew from an operator to a line leader in the second division. This promotion speed is quite slow for others. Last year, for personal reasons, I expressed my idea of leaving my job to the team leader, and he also reported to the class teacher. ...

Later, my family learned that I was leaving and advised me not to be impulsive. It's a pity to leave after working for so many years. I stayed and continued to work to see if there was any chance of being fired, so that I could get a lot of compensation.

After all, I have worked in this company for so many years, moved from Shenzhen to Zhengzhou, and changed from a boy of 19 to a middle-aged man of 35. It's the most beautiful age, so it's a little hard for me to leave.

Just when I hesitated to stay, I was completely disappointed by the words of the class teacher and decided to leave. ...

There was a morning meeting one day, attended by all line leaders of the department and presided over by the director. After an hour's drive, the director finally finished. After the meeting, everyone got up to leave. At this time, the director looked at me and said, "Xiao Li, when are you leaving?"

I got up and walked to the door of the conference room. When I heard the director's words, I paused and replied faintly: I will leave in June 16 next month. "Then don't look back to his production line.

On that day, my mood was extremely bad. Although I have been thinking about leaving my job, I can't make up my mind. Now the supervisor has asked me when I will leave. Obviously, he wants to let me go and bring it up in front of everyone, so I have no room to turn back. Thinking about this, my heart is inevitably lost.

The handover began the next day, and the team leader newly promoted a better employee to take over my work and asked me to take him for a while.

Traditionally, cadres resigned, and the last period after the handover was just idle clouds and wild cranes, just hanging around every day. I'm different. I have been used to being busy every day for ten years. After I handed over my job, I offered to work at the next station, burning IC and testing electronic components, and I have been working diligently. Although my colleagues' attitude towards me has changed, I don't care. It is normal for people to drink tea to cool off the heat.

A week before leaving my job, the head teacher held an early meeting and the group leader asked me to attend. I lost face and had to take my notebook with me. The class teacher spoke vividly and eloquently for an hour, and finally it was over. Everyone got up and left their seats and went out. The head teacher casually asked, "Xiao Li is leaving next week. Would you like to invite everyone to dinner this Sunday? " I'll provide beer then ... "

Hearing this, I really want to slap him. Can this man be more shameless? Facts have proved that he can really be more shameless.

In front of so many people, I am embarrassed to say that I won't invite you, so I just casually say that I will invite you to dinner this Sunday, which is a farewell!

Actually, our company has a convention. Many colleagues with good places will invite leaders and colleagues with good relationships to have dinner when they leave. Thank the leaders. However, some people who were forced to leave their jobs because they were excluded by the leaders invited several colleagues with good relationships to dinner in private, and they would not invite the leaders. I was going to invite some colleagues. If a few people feel comfortable eating and drinking casually, I won't invite the leader, because I haven't found a good job or a good place to go ... now I have been kidnapped by morality and have to come uninvited.

On Sunday, I went to the restaurant with more than a dozen line leaders and several colleagues from other departments. The director called the driver to come to his house to pull beer. He went to two cars and brought back more than a dozen cases of beer. This beer is his agent. He works part-time while selling beer. The department often has dinners and beer is provided by him. Since he sold beer, his team leader often organized online people to have dinner, so his beer.

Everyone arrived, took two tables, ordered food, and began to eat, because some people couldn't drink when they drove over, and some people slowly drank beer before they put it down. At this time, the class teacher was in a hurry, holding a glass to propose a toast to everyone, so that everyone could drink more. He also arranged for two team leaders to supervise everyone's drinking, and they would be scolded if they drank slowly.

There are still two cases of beer left. At this time, the monitor stood up and asked someone to go back with him to pull wine. Soon, he pulled four more cases of beer. He said while unpacking, I'll try the latest beer for you today. This is blue beer, which tastes better. The beer I just drank is 4 yuan a bottle, and the wine is 6 yuan a bottle. Because no one has ever drunk the new beer, everyone is in high spirits and has been drinking it. Is it blue beer? It tastes good. I finished four cases of beer in half an hour.

It's time for me to give my resignation speech. I have prepared what I want to say, but I can't get a word in. I can't stop when the monitor is almost drunk. I keep expressing my thoughts on the wine table, talking about life and ideals, and teaching people sitting how to learn skills and work better. Let's have a meal outside, which seems to be a working meal. We are leaders of the line.

A group of people ate for more than three hours, but they didn't finish their first order. As soon as the class teacher saw that there were still two cases of beer, he wouldn't let everyone go. He picked up the menu and ordered some hard dishes, so that we could continue to drink. Cadres who usually like to kiss up to others immediately take action and ask the waiter to bring some big bowls instead of drinking them in glasses. They are all in high spirits, eating vegetables and drinking wine, but I am complaining with a clear conscience. How much does it cost? I don't want to sing for others.

Finally, the beer was finished. Several colleagues vomited several times after drinking and were shaking when walking. We went back to the dormitory by car, and a buddy threw up in someone's car and asked me to spend money to wash his car [tears].

Please eat this time. The meal cost more than 1900. The head teacher calculated that the cost of beer was 650 yuan. Give me a special price and let me pay 600 yuan. I transferred it to him on WeChat.

After dinner, my close friends have always said that your class teacher is too unkind. When someone invited me to dinner, he went to sell wine and tried to make others drink in front of the guests. Have you considered other people's feelings? This kind of person should not invite him to dinner and should not give him face. I shook my head helplessly. He can go to grade one, but I can't go to grade fifteen. Although I have no money, my face is thin [tears].

@ Yu Pei

I have been thinking about quitting my job for ten years. I don't want to stay in the same factory all the time. I want to go out for a change and learn other skills.

But once I really want to leave, my heart is still very lost, especially when I thought the leader would stay, but I didn't expect to ask what to leave.

I didn't intend to invite him to dinner this time, because I don't flatter at ordinary times, I just do things. The following people like it, but the leaders don't, so I have been a line leader for so many years, and I have been promoted from teacher to teacher in five years. But I couldn't save face, so I had to bite the bullet and invite me to dinner. I didn't expect to meet such a thing, and I became a big head in vain.

After I left there, I rested at home for several months. I spend this time with my family, cooking for my grandmother, chatting with her and watching movies. Knowing that grandma likes taking a car, I drove my brother's car and took grandma to visit relatives. ...

Now, I work as a technician in an electronics factory in Suzhou. I don't have to worry about people. I just need to do my own thing. My job is easier and my salary is much higher than before.

In the past, the basic salary was 4 100 yuan. Now, regardless of food and shelter, the basic salary is slightly lower. However, you can provide working meals twice a day and get a performance bonus of 1000 yuan every month. You get more than before. ...

The landlord offered 500 yuan a bonus, and my colleague asked for a treat. As a result, my colleague ordered more than 1000 seafood, and the landlord left 500 yuan and left. I don't think what you did was appropriate.

Because of the following two points:

Colleagues are a little rude.

As far as inviting guests to dinner is concerned, it is generally convenient for them. Since there are guests, although they are all colleagues, it is also the owner's right to let the owner order. After all, who pays for it is in charge. However, when ordering food, the general host will also ask colleagues what they like to eat and if there are any taboos, so as to take care of their preferences and tastes, but for the host, he should also consider his own treat budget. In this way, the guests can eat their favorite meals, and the host is happy. The overall budget may be better controlled, and the feelings between colleagues will go further.

But your colleague is a little out of line, and you can't communicate with him basically in the future. In the case of your treat, a colleague ordered more than 1000 seafood without your consent, and then left 500 yuan. Such a colleague is really a bit too much. First of all, ordering food without your permission is a bit excessive. Second, I ordered more than 1000 seafood at once, which was even worse. Third, what is even more irritating is to throw yourself into 500 yuan and leave.

But although this friend is impolite and has no good way to deal with such a thing, he can only endure it. And since you treat me, you should take care of other colleagues with dignity, finish this meal, and then settle the bill happily. As for this colleague, it is good to ignore the colleagues above in the future. Run away when you meet him, so that it may not happen again.

To sum up, your colleague is indeed a bit rude, but there is no better way for such a colleague, only to contact less and hide in the future.

My friend Xiaoling's experience is similar to the subject's question.

At the end of last year, my friend Xiaoling was awarded as an excellent employee with a bonus of 1000 for her outstanding performance. Colleagues booed her and invited her to dinner, and she promised to pay 500 yuan for dinner.

Guangdong people like seafood, so Xiaoling and her colleagues and eight people came to a ready-made seafood restaurant.

Seeing that all kinds of raw seafood are quite affordable, colleagues are very excited and discuss what to eat noisily.

Thinking of being tired from work recently, everyone decided to have a hearty meal and treat themselves well, so they ordered a lot of seafood, including lobster, mussels and grouper.

The seafood is fresh, the chef's skill is very good, and the temperature of every dish is just right. In short, it is delicious.

Although the food is delicious, it is expensive and beautiful. I paid more than 2000 yuan, but my friend Xiaoling didn't frown when she paid.

Obviously, it is agreed to take 500 yuan for dinner, but the bill is more than four times. Why is Xiaoling still paying the bill? Does her family have a mine?

Of course not. That's because Xiaoling agreed with her colleagues in advance that I would take out 500 yuan and then pay the extra AA. So she doesn't have to worry about exceeding the budget. Everyone has a say in what to eat and where to eat this meal. Naturally, everyone is happy.

However, this is all the experience Xiaoling learned from a pit.

I remember when she was a senior, she was admitted to her favorite company before she graduated, and everyone else in the dormitory was struggling to find a job.

She was very excited to get her first month's salary, so she decided to celebrate with her roommates to help them forget their anxiety about finding a job for the time being.

But because I didn't know the price of the selected restaurant, I finally paid the bill over budget.

After Xiaoling invited her to dinner, she would choose a restaurant according to the budget, but if she didn't make a careful plan when ordering, she would always overspend, and if she ordered at the price, she wouldn't enjoy herself.

Is there any way to invite people to dinner without exceeding the budget while enjoying it

Later, Xiaoling found that after deducting the amount she invited to dinner, the rest of the money was AA, so that everyone could eat whatever they wanted, the guests would not exceed the budget, and there would be no communication pressure. The feelings of former colleagues will be more harmonious.

If, as the subject said:

Not only does it appear that you have no tolerance, but you don't enjoy the money you spend, and you will miss the opportunity to improve your interpersonal relationship with your colleagues, which is not worth the candle.

It was a happy thing to get the bonus, but it not only made me unhappy with my colleagues, but also made me unhappy. I believe that this result is not what everyone wants.

If you invite your colleagues to dinner and deliberately embarrass you and order some expensive dishes, then these colleagues are not worth socializing with. In this case, it is completely clear that you only pay 500 yuan, and the rest will be paid by AA.

Inviting people to dinner is a trivial matter. Don't ruin the feelings between colleagues just because of a meal. After all, the people who spend the longest time with us are colleagues. Having a good relationship with colleagues will not only make your work and life smoother.

Have you ever met anything wonderful when you invited your colleagues to dinner?

As the old saying goes, "wealth is not exposed", many times when you get unexpected wealth, people around you look jealous and think about how to share a piece of it. Some people even take you for granted.

I have run a small restaurant for several years. This hotel is not far from a factory. The main guests of the hotel are the workers of this hotel, so I have known the workers of this factory for a long time. What date does their factory pay? Who holds what position; I know more about the promotion and welfare in this factory than the ordinary employees in this factory.

There is a monitor in the foundry of this factory. He is short and strong. Because of his energy and special ability, everyone called him Chopin.

The honest and dull Chopin knows how to work in a dull voice. Although he commands four people, he basically doesn't take the shelf of the monitor, and his work always goes ahead. The monitor of their factory earns 500 yuan more than ordinary workers, but he has to worry, work hard and get ahead.

At that time, the benefit of this factory was good. There are Man Qin Awards, Performance Awards and Excellent Monitor Awards every month. Because Chopin works very hard, he often gets bonuses, and he usually gets more bonuses than ordinary workers

A small list won the excellent monitor award again, and four of his men invited him to treat him, because without the efforts of his men, it was impossible for the small list to win the award by itself. Xiao Dan never wins prizes by himself. Basically, every time he wins a prize, he takes his workmates out for dinner.

After receiving the bonus, Chopin led his four workers to my hotel as usual. Because their factory just paid out the bonus, many workers from their factory came to my shop. The two of them were in the same workshop as Chopin, and they also came to my shop for dinner. Because they were both in the same workshop, they made a table when they met.

One of them is a worker named "Big S". After he sat down, he began to make a small list in words: "I earn the most every month, and I haven't seen how many times I have invited men out to dinner." Chopin can't argue with him because he is not good at words and he is not the monitor. Big S looked at the small list and asked for a meal. He said a big meal, and then took the menu to him and asked for some.

We are near the sea here, but seasonal seafood is not cheap, especially some rare varieties. At that time, Big S ordered 2 Jin of Pipi shrimp with conch and some stir-fried dishes, basically found the most expensive point on the menu and ordered two cases of beer, which was the most expensive in my hotel. These workers come out to eat by themselves. Generally, four or five people eat and drink at most in 300 yuan. The dining table at the big S point basically needs more than 1 0,000. While ordering, I say, "Let the small order bleed this time." At this time, Chopin's face was very ugly. Before the food was served, he slapped the 500 yuan in his pocket on the table. People stood up, turned and left the restaurant.

The remaining six people began to look at each other, but big S was also cheeky. He directly asked me to return a few dishes and change the beer into a cheap one, so I gave it according to this 500 yuan. The workers in the small single workshop didn't walk or sit, and the last few people left with enough food. The big S on the wine table kept calling the small single a "narrow-minded".

I also think Chopin did something inappropriate, because:

1. all workers, all people who look up but don't look down. It seems a little stingy to throw away money. You don't care at all when you meet thick-skinned people, but it gives people an excuse to be "narrow-minded".

2. People will meet all kinds of people in society, who want to take advantage like the big S, and there are not a few thick-skinned. Although we can't get used to them, we can't give them the opportunity to "push their noses and face". They usually work together. Chopin should have a special understanding of his behavior and should not be led to a table when meeting.

There is an old saying in China, "Suit yourself to the guest". Since you are a guest on a small list, you should not let Big S order food, or only allow him to order one dish, so as not to give him an opportunity.

The key is how many people eat. Five thousand dollars for ten people is not enough? Thousands of eight hundred seafood is enough! The rest is meat and vegetables. Ten people spend more than 2000 yuan at most, which is the consumption level of Jinan. After all, I often eat in Jinan and know the situation there very well. We are ten people, too. One meal 1000, 800 yuan, or better, about 2000 yuan. This is the grade.

This friend is doing very well. Putting down 500 yuan is enough. There must be at least six or seven of you. Isn't 3000 yuan enough for a meal? Of course you can't drink maotai. Come out and talk if you want to argue! Now I need you to play. If two bottles of maotai are absolutely not enough, is that right?

Everyone just helps themselves to something while eating. Nobody wants to be so extravagant. Maotai and Louis XIII are the focal points that we can't afford! As ordinary people, we just eat something casually, with the purpose of deepening our feelings, especially those who have a good relationship and often get together. This is friendship.

As a colleague, it is good to put down 500 yuan. This colleague is very particular, at least enough. A meal 1800 yuan. Of course, it's hard to say if you don't control yourself to get a few bottles of 1982 maotai. Often hundreds of thousands. This is an argument. what do you think?

I understand your anger at that time, but I don't support this practice of leaving the table. It is a person who "cooked a lot of seafood", but left 500 yuan to offend most people.

When people see you leave in a fit of pique, it is estimated that they all have their own ideas in the end. After the meal was not finished, the ending ended in discord, and the good thing turned into a bad thing.

The 500 yuan bonus issued by the company shows that you have a serious work attitude, excellent business skills and good performance. You deserve it. There is no need for treatment.

Since someone is in a hurry to treat, you can buy some fruits or snacks on your desk at noon and tell everyone, "It's my treat today, let's eat." Meaning, meaning, done. There's really no need to treat people in restaurants. Besides, 500 yuan is not worth eating out at present.

Things are irreversible, so let it be. If you love it, you will be offended by the person who ordered raw seafood. There is no need to explain to him. If other people are reasonable, they won't break up with you because of an unpleasant dinner, and it's not your fault.

Remember, in the future, when the boss gives you a bonus, you must not show off everywhere, let alone treat guests. Put it quietly in your schoolbag and reward your wife with a good meal at home. It is the most cost-effective and appropriate.

Prepare to spend 500 yuan, and then spend 100 yuan to buy wine and drinks. Tell the hotel owner to follow 400 yuan's side dishes. The boss will know what to do if he looks at the number of people, men, women and age. If he is satisfied, he will reward himself. He should know the characteristics, grade and price of the hotel, as well as the character and temper of the guests, and he should also know what to do.

500 yuan invited people to eat seafood. If a bowl of seafood noodles is 20, you can only invite 25 bowls at most. 80 yuan, six bowls cost more than 20 yuan, 25 people are the whole workshop, and 6 people are departments or workshop groups. After all, 500 yuan's monthly award is not a management career, nor a major contribution bonus, but an encouragement award.

Therefore, the person being treated should be very aware that this amount will not exceed the limits of normal interpersonal relationships. Beyond the limit, there is no doubt that it is full of malice, and what's more, it can be considered as a very low-energy performance.

When people are full of malice, most people just go back and interrupt this person's malicious and childish misconduct. The host didn't say anything. As an invited guest, there is no need to take care of his face.

Of course, the above countermeasures are based on normal understanding. As for why you threw away 500 yuan and left, there must be many skeletons in your closet.

Being targeted by the collective, all colleagues booed together, let this colleague humiliate you willfully, make you furious, and simply put the curse behind you (500 yuan).

Personally, I feel that leaving 500 yuan seems to be a counterattack against this malice, but it still can't solve the problem, because you not only abandoned 500 yuan and all the monthly awards, but also lost your enthusiasm for future work and people you can't bully in front of colleagues.

It is because you took 500 yuan that you had such a meal, which forced you to take such a fierce but shrinking reaction. After all, to some extent, those who have malicious intentions towards you finally succeeded.

You deserve a monthly bonus in 500 yuan. How to spend the money in your pocket is your freedom, and you can't be influenced by this naive ordering game. On this occasion, you should show your cards directly. How much and how to spend it is what you mean. If you exceed the budget, you have to bear it yourself.

For example, you just want to invite people to eat seafood noodles. You can eat raw seafood, but you must pay for it yourself or make it AA. Please treat them next time.

If you don't make it clear, you will be bullied by others for a long time. It will be difficult for the work unit to set up such a person who is easily bullied. Therefore, we must not retreat, we must fight back and take the initiative.

Dropping 500 yuan won't solve the problem. Adults should be mature enough to face problems and safeguard their own interests.