It took me a serious illness to understand that being too kind to my wife and children is actually a disaster. Why do you say that?

Since ancient times, there has been a high demand for women, not only in the hall, but also in the kitchen. Women have been performing their duties in the family. They are responsible for taking care of the elderly and children, as well as housework, and some people have to take care of their own jobs. It can be said that they are all busy. Aunt Wang's fate is still quite tragic. When she was a child, her parents died in an accident. She was brought up by her aunt and felt lonely under the fence. She hopes to grow up as soon as possible, so that she can control her own destiny.

When she grew up, she entered the school as a teacher. She cherishes this profession very much. This kind of teaching has lasted for 30 years. Speaking of marriage, she married Uncle Liu. This man is five years older than her, but he needs aunt Wang to take care of him everywhere. Aunt Wang lived with her mother-in-law after she got married. After the birth of the child, a family of five lived in a house of more than 60 square meters, which was not only crowded but also full of contradictions. But uncle Liu belongs to a loyal man. Whenever Aunt Wang has a conflict with her mother-in-law, he always stands on her side and condemns her wife, which makes Aunt Wang feel very tired. But Aunt Wang is a traditional woman. She thinks that no matter who she meets, she will have a life after marriage, and she is still willing to give her life for this mess. Aunt Wang is a hardworking and kind person. She has to take care of her family's food, clothing, housing and transportation every day. Every day before dawn, get up first, cook and clean up the housework, and then go to work. When I go home at night, I will help the elderly massage, accompany them to exercise, wash and iron clothes for my husband, and patiently do homework for my children. Everything is busy until late at night, as if I have time to pay attention to myself.

In recent years, Aunt Wang lost many opportunities for promotion for her family, but she chose not to regret it for her family and to fulfill her duties as a hostess. But her family may not appreciate what she offers. People who used to be Aunt Wang didn't want to cook dinner, and no one at home cared about her illness. Instead, she accused Aunt Wang of not being able to cook. This kind of thing often happens, especially when she was hospitalized with a cerebral infarction last year. The behavior of her husband and children made her find that she was too kind to them and ignored herself as a disaster. After retirement, Aunt Wang has never been idle, helping her son and two-year-old children to take care of their daily life at home every day. Husband, son and daughter-in-law go home like heroes, never helping aunt Wang with housework, and always feel that aunt Wang is very happy at home. Long-term fatigue led to her sudden cerebral infarction, when the family was in a mess. Because of the lack of aunt Wang's care, her husband doesn't even know what to wear for the time being. My son and daughter-in-law don't know how to solve three meals a day without the care of Aunt Wang, while my little grandson lives for one meal without the care of Aunt Wang.

They didn't take good care of Aunt Wang. They just want to know how inconvenient they are, but they don't care about Aunt Wang's illness. The husband went to the hospital for two nights. He is in a hurry and doesn't know how to take care of others. He even had to worry about him. My son and daughter-in-law went to the hospital twice, and they all stopped coming to the hospital on the pretext that the work unit was busy and no one took care of the children. Seeing that the people in the same ward were carefully taken care of by their families, Aunt Wang was very wronged to lie in bed alone. But who can blame for this dissatisfaction? Aunt Wang is a devout person. She has devoted her life to her family, and she always takes the family as the center. She thinks that this kind of effort is for the good of the family, but as a parasitic supporter, she takes care of the family indirectly.

Aunt Wang knows a lot about this disease. Not only can you not get the care of your family, but you will also confuse your family. From beginning to end, the most pitiful thing is myself. It is understandable that women are good for their families and for their husbands and children. However, this kind of good thing had better have a limit and a premise. Otherwise, you will end up like Aunt Wang, and you will feel sad and reckless.