I retired. Let's talk about it

I have struggled in society all my life, and I have endured it all my life for a few pieces of silver. I am exhausted. When I enter the middle-aged and elderly stage, everyone is looking forward to retiring and living a leisurely and decent life. I never have to look at anyone's face again. Nothing is light when I leave the workplace.

However, maintaining dignity is more than just having money. Appropriateness is a person's moral character and accomplishment, and it also depends on people's communicative ability. The circle of friends is also a reflection of whether a person is decent or not.

At work, people are scrambling to make friends with powerful people. They want to use interpersonal relationships to improve their social status and make themselves valuable.

After retirement, people go to tea to cool down, and power passes away. The old "face" is useless. At this time, the circle of friends will be spelled "clean".

A "friend" who makes friends for the benefit may tolerate some "unsatisfactory" places of the other party. Although disgusted, they chose to turn a deaf ear and turn a blind eye in order to get benefits from each other. After retirement, it is not necessary. No one can ask anyone, no one can help anyone. They are just ordinary people.

Making friends at this time is all for fun, just for companionship and entertainment in old age. -

String together a small door and make friends. But don't go to the door of "these friends" easily

(1) Friends with bad hobbies influence others and harm others and themselves.

Birds of a feather flock together, and we all know that we should be cautious in making friends and associate with people with good conduct.

But sometimes, people don't think it's necessary to be too serious about making friends. They are not spouses or family members. They don't live together, and they don't regard each other as bosom friends. It doesn't matter whether he is good or bad, as long as some people have the same hobbies, they can chat and play together. Make friends, just for fun, and have a companion when you are bored.

Especially after retirement, how can you spend the last few decades without a few friends? Since we are friends, we should tolerate each other. Don't care too much about other people's affairs and make accusations. No matter what he does, as long as he doesn't hurt himself, it's none of his business.

But don't ignore the word "imperceptible". Even if this person is just an ordinary friend, even if the contact frequency is not high, nothing can stand the accumulation of time. Contact for a long time, you will be influenced by this person, even if you know that this person is not very good, and even has some personality problems. But it doesn't matter, because he didn't hurt his own interests.

Everyone has their own moral standards, and when they see unfair things in society, they will stand up and condemn unreasonable behavior. However, man is a dual goal. It is unforgivable for others to make mistakes, and it is excusable for us to make mistakes ourselves: "He must be hiding something!" ! Never mind, this little mistake is nothing, just a friend. "

It is human nature to "shield" one of our own, thinking that as long as you are different from each other. In fact, over the years, I have unconsciously recognized and accepted each other's way of doing things. Because, those bad things that the other party did, without seeing him fail or be punished, it must be feasible. Everyone has luck, since friends can do it, why can't I!

Bad hobbies are not necessarily disgusting things, on the contrary, they may be attractive, addictive at the touch, and you can't quit. For example, the "yellow gambling poison" explicitly prohibited by the state.

People will subconsciously imitate each other. That's why people can become friends with more contacts, and friends will become more and more alike.

But near Zhu Zhechi, near Mexico, it is black. Make friends with good conduct and good living habits, and frequent contact will get better and better under his influence; Those who have bad habits may get into these bad habits in the long run. It is not easy to learn well, but it is too easy to learn badly. Careless friends can really harm others and themselves.

(2) People who love gossip avoid it.

People who have nothing to do are always gossiping, so parents Zhang and Li simply talk about other people's affairs. Word-to-word communication is often biased and distorts the facts. Because people are not objective, what they say and do is always subjective. It's none of your business, and messaging can't restore the truth of the parties, let alone the second-hand stories embellished by gossip.

People's curiosity will arouse their desire to explore the outside world and drive people to discuss interesting things to fill their boredom. However, the gossip-loving population has not stopped, and sooner or later, disaster will come from the mouth.

I am in the workplace, and everyone understands the truth of "being smart, don't join in the fun", and will try to avoid talking about others behind their backs and getting into trouble for themselves. But after retirement, without these complicated intrigues, no one can threaten their own interests, as if it doesn't matter what they say.

It's wrong to think like this. As long as people live in the world, they can't avoid disputes between people. Although intrigue in the workplace is the most terrible, there will be intrigue in daily life, even if it is only between fair-weather friends.

It seems that most elderly people like to visit and chat, and young netizens have vividly restored the scene of rural elderly chatting at home in short videos, which can spread a person who goes back to his hometown once a year beyond recognition.

Although this is a very funny joke, it is true that no matter in the park or at the entrance to the village, there are always a group of idle old people getting together to chat.

It is no problem for the elderly to go out and chat more, which is good for their physical and mental health, but people who love to preach right and wrong should avoid it at any time.

A person can speak ill of others in front of you today, and he can say you are worthless in front of others tomorrow. This kind of person, when he was young, was a mean person, good at have it both ways, talking to people and talking nonsense. He doesn't have the ability to communicate with others, and he narrows the distance by selling others.

Some people think that I will only listen, not participate in the discussion, and I will not go out to talk after listening. Don't be too confident, who can guarantee that your mouth will always be at your disposal? Sometimes I will go out when I am excited, but when I go out, I will never come back. And people love gossip because of the fun of "discussing and sharing". No one just listens without saying anything. Everyone else is talking about it. Can you really stand not saying a word?

At retirement age, it is most important to have less dust, less gossip, less discussion and less argument. Don't be too old, it will not pay off.

(3) People whose lives are unsatisfactory and whose negative energy is bursting, stay away from them.

Not everyone is happy in his later years. The evening scene is too bleak, partly because of the low pension and poor life; Some of them are because their children are unfilial, and no one will seek justice for them. If you arrest people like Sister Xianglin, you have to complain. Some of them are more than enough, but they are not satisfied with everything. They always feel that the world is unfair because they have worked hard all their lives and have not lived a good life.

I feel that many old people get together and like to discuss the issue of providing for the aged, which is more promising than their children. Because they don't have the ability to work, they don't have extra income, and they can't hit new heights in their careers. They can only compare what they have.

Comparison with people will appear at every age stage, but the content of comparison has changed. Those who are bursting with negative energy and complaining everywhere are unhappy people. They may not have a bad life, but they envy others every day and have no ability to change the status quo.

Once a person is jealous, he can't hide that others are better off than himself, and he can't wait to drag others down with him, so that he can balance himself.

I respect your life and sympathize with your suffering, but I am neither a Buddha nor a savior, and I can't resolve your suffering. Moreover, every family has a hard book to read, so it is not convenient for outsiders to intervene, and family problems have to be solved internally. Outsiders can't judge and give advice. As a friend, I can listen to you, but I have no obligation to be a tree hole for you.

This is not selfish, but to protect yourself. You know, sometimes being warm-hearted is not a good thing. Some people, you helped him, but didn't meet his expectations. He tried to blame you, but the result was good help.

Emotions are contagious. People should live an active life. With positive people, their magnetic field will get better and they can feel more beautiful life. The more negative energy they receive, the more depressed they will be and feel that the world is not worth it. Being in a bad mood not only affects yourself, but also affects your attitude towards your family and makes them unhappy.

Life has reached the second half. Good health and family harmony are the most important things. Everything else is contentment.

Some people can live a better life after retirement because they know how to enjoy loneliness, stay away from the hubbub, take the protagonist of their later life in their own hands, and live their own lives without being influenced by others.

After working hard for most of my life, I finally have leisure and am used to busy days every day. Finally, I didn't have to go to work and got a retirement salary. On the contrary, some people cannot control themselves. They always want to find something to do, make more friends to pass the time and do something meaningful.

It's good for old people to join in the fun, just remember to be careful when making friends. Although diplomatic friends at work don't involve interests, such friends who meet through fun can't know the details of each other, and they don't think it's necessary to know too much, so they will make friends carelessly, which will affect their later life.

There is a saying that it is not the old man who has become bad, but the bad man who has become old, and a person's nature will not change. Retired old friends must stay away from the "wrong" people, and don't think that they don't care if they can get in the way when they retire. There are endless criminal activities against the elderly in society, so we must keep our eyes open and not ruin our beautiful old age when we should be enjoying ourselves.