How to deal with people who isolate you (what if you are isolated by your colleagues)

Where there are people, there are rivers and lakes, and where there are rivers and lakes, there are struggles. Especially in the complicated workplace, under the superficial friendship between colleagues, it is all personal reasons. Especially for teams with fierce internal competition, it is inevitable that there will be cliques and factions. In this case, some people will be isolated.

You are isolated in the workplace, and you can't completely blame others. I must have all kinds of problems. If only one colleague doesn't like you, it's his problem, but if everyone isolates you, you need to reflect on yourself.

Then, who is easy to become an independent object in the workplace, and how to deal with it, so that leaders and colleagues can like you and stand firm in their own footsteps?

0 1 who are easily excluded and isolated in the workplace? Generally speaking, the higher the contribution, the less likely it is to be excluded; The lower the contribution, the easier it is to be excluded. Needless to say, leaders and key figures generally contribute the most and enjoy the most honors, except for a few managers with low ability, bad character or lazy politics.

Therefore, if you want to avoid being excluded from the work, you should make more contributions to the collective and help everyone with your own ability. I summed up the people who are easily excluded and isolated in the workplace. There is no other meaning, just for everyone to better correct their unfavorable situation after understanding.

First, the weak who hold the collective back and make negative contributions to the collective.

The weak are characterized by poor personal ability, no right to speak in the collective and no prestige. Usually, personal ability is poor, which affects yourself at most. But once it comes to team competition, the individual ability of the weak will directly lead to the damage of the collective interests, and at this time, the weak will cause public anger and be excluded.

For example, if the whole department wants to complete a project together, an employee with poor ability will be slapped every time, then the employee is likely to be rejected collectively.

The more incompetent some people are, the more afraid they are of making mistakes, and the more they can't do well. Nuo Nuo is also passive to the people around him, trying to please him. Not only can it not change the isolated status quo, but it also intensifies the resentment of colleagues.

Second, new people.

Newcomers may have just graduated and entered the society, may jump ship from other companies, or may be airborne from other departments or branches.

You know, xenophobia is human instinct. In the genes of our ancestors, the vigilance of outsiders is engraved. He came to our tribe from another tribe. Who knows whether he is an enemy or a friend?

Newcomers may have done nothing wrong, but it is difficult to gain the trust of "aborigines" just because of their "foreign" status.

Third, the possessor of superior resources.

Some people in the workplace know human accidents very well, and they are favored by leaders even if their ability is not strong; They report on TV on behalf of the collective; Every time the company meets, it can get huge bonuses; Every time I get a promotion and a raise, I have him. Therefore, such people usually have a sense of superiority wherever they go, often look down on others, and even laugh at and insult others.

But this kind of person is the easiest to be excluded and become the target of public criticism. In addition to being excellent and arrogant, the key is to seize other people's resources.

Everyone usually works hard, makes achievements, and even tries their best to please the leaders, paying so much just to wait for the "critical moment" and "the moment when good things happen", so that good resources can fall on themselves first.

It's a good idea to kill a journey halfway now, and take all the benefits with one soldier. Why? A person who is usually unknown and has no contribution to the collective suddenly appears and takes away all the good things. Does everyone get angry?

How to quickly integrate into the team? After analyzing several unpopular situations, you should try to remedy them. You know, the long-term development of the workplace is inseparable from the support and help of team partners.

First, let everyone see your core competitiveness as soon as possible.

You need to think about your value to the team and let everyone see your core competitiveness as soon as possible. Maybe your business ability is weak, but your organization and coordination ability is strong, and you can help others very well; Maybe you have a certain skill, and you are the only one in the whole department, which can solve more problems for the department. In any case, you must show your ability to be good at and helpful to your work.

In fact, the correct expression of ability is that when you learn to speak with data and work performance instead of simply measuring your output with workload, you will basically be recognized by most people in the company.

If you are a newcomer in the workplace, you can also make more contributions to the group, such as helping colleagues deliver meals and express delivery, and often bringing some snacks to colleagues, so that most people can see your goodness and that you are the "bullied" person, and strive for favorable public opinion support.

Second, adjust the mentality and adapt to the environment.

Everyone will have their own work habits, but these habits may not be applicable to a new environment. For example, in the past, in the traditional industry, the pace of work was slow, and when I switched to the Internet industry, the pace of work was fast, so we should improve the efficiency in all aspects.

Good habits in the past might as well continue to be optimized. We should adapt to the new environment as soon as possible, pay attention to empathy in the process of adaptation, and avoid being too self-righteous. Only in this way can we help ourselves to gain a foothold in the workplace faster.

If you are a newcomer to the above-mentioned company or department, you must maintain good relations with superior leaders and key figures. Help superior leaders and key figures and support their decision-making.

Show your superiority less and try to leave it to your colleagues. As mentioned earlier, people with superior resources are most likely to be isolated. In fact, from a big perspective, if you show your superiority too much, it will become a show off. If you do this to everyone, everyone will ignore you. Therefore, whether you get along with leaders or colleagues, you should pay attention to the following two points:

First, you have advantages that the other party doesn't have, so you should show less.

For example, chatting with colleagues whose income is worse than yours, don't always say that you have tens of thousands of clothes. You just traded 654.38+00,000 yuan for a car, and just sold a house in Beijing's Fourth Ring Road, making a net profit of 3 million yuan. You won the sense of superiority, but lost the popularity.

Many people look outgoing and good at talking. In fact, they are all raising themselves and belittling others. When the other person is fat, he always says that he is less than 100 kg. What should I do? The other party is from the countryside, always saying that he is a big hukou in a big city and is still making compensation for demolition. When chatting, he always talks about which pot is not open, and it is strange that colleagues don't exclude you.

The person who can really chat is the one who speaks a little, I speak a little, knows how to make the other person speak a little more, let the other person show superiority, be a good listener, and give the right to speak and superiority to the other person.

People with high emotional intelligence will always care about each other's feelings in their communication and will not damage others' sense of superiority as independent individuals.

Second, when you show yourself, remember to praise your colleagues.

Many people with high emotional intelligence understand that showing their strengths is a threat to each other, so they will add a little self-mockery when showing their strengths, and then praise others by the way, which will weaken their aggressiveness.

For example, if you and your colleagues attend the annual meeting of the company, the leader praises you for your outstanding ability and performance. At this time, you should not just say thank you to the leaders, but also say it in public, thanking the efforts of XX and XXX in the department, and even their full help, in order to have such achievements.

For example, if you go out with other colleagues to meet your familiar guests or eat, remember not to leave it hanging all the time when chatting, and occasionally ask: What do you think? What do you think? Wait a minute. The important thing is not how he really responds, but to make your colleagues realize that you have not ignored him. Trust me, he will appreciate you.

Finally, the workplace is not isolated from everyone. From the perspective of the boss or superior leader, the enterprise recruits you to do things and solve problems. You need to do everything possible to solve the problem of leadership. Leaders don't care what you do. He just needs one result, and you need to give him this result. And the boss certainly wants people around him to be consistent with his own values, and he will promote people with the same values to the upper position.

Get along with colleagues, neither humble nor supercilious. Everyone is an employee of the company, and everyone has equal status. The only advantage of old employees over you is that they have been in the company for a long time, and they should not have that kind of inferiority complex, neither humble nor supercilious. He should dare to speak in front of everyone, be able to speak and be considerate of others' feelings.

You know, the place where the workplace is more cruel than the school is that you won't get a respect because you are humble and you please others.

end

This is the counterattack station of 1 10,000 people in the workplace. Cats on the cliff of operators, senior media people, designers, from thinking to skills, only write the most grounded counter-attack dry goods, so that you can counter-attack all the way!