I passed away last night, leaving peace of mind: with or without children, the old man is "Du Jie". what do you think?

No Country for Old Men these four words, feel very heavy.

I have been thinking: what is the sense of security of the elderly?

Is it full of children and grandchildren, filial to parents, or not worrying about food and clothing and being healthy?

Later, I realized one thing: In fact, most people in their old age belong to No Country for Old Men. This has nothing to do with whether you have money, how many children you have and whether your children can work. It seems that people are old and inconvenient to move, which means loneliness.

When we came to this world, we were full of joy with our parents, but when we left, we were somewhat helpless and lonely.

Think of yesterday brush Weibo saw nanny hit the old man. In the surveillance video of 16 seconds, the nanny kicked the old man's head and face five times.

Many children in life can't take care of their parents because of their tasks and responsibilities.

Those who can afford a nanny for their parents should actually have good family conditions.

But despite this, the elderly are still passive in their later years and cannot make their own choices.

The days experienced by the old people are also Adu Street.

When you are old, you must bow to reality.

My father has an uncle, and his life is very difficult, at least in my opinion.

Because he is 87 years old now, he still lives alone in his hometown, almost the only one in the village.

The last time I saw the old man was last year. He came to visit relatives in the city and felt trembling when he walked.

But my mother said that even so, he planted a lot of land at home alone, and when other people in the village left, he picked out all the land and planted it.

Even, the year before last, he sold some fruits and vegetables planted in the field, and sold more than 10 thousand yuan. The old man said that he had saved money.

When I heard my mother say this, my first reaction was: I am almost 90 years old and I am still farming at home. In case something happens, I fall or something, and no one knows, right?

Aren't his children worried?

The old man has six children, two sons and four daughters. They have settled in the city, and it is difficult to go back once a year.

02

After a person grows up, the intersection of parents and children is, after all, a journey of drifting away.

It's a pity that the arrow of love always shoots down.

Especially when children have their own children, the focus of life begins to shift. Children raised in their hands have babies in their hands.

Parents, on the other hand, have to start a journey of getting old slowly.

Think of a news I once saw.

An 8 1 year-old old man living alone in a residential area in Nanjing was found more than two months after his death at home. There is such a suicide note around the old man:

I left last night (August 15 of the lunar calendar), when I was very quiet inside ... It was terrible that both dignitaries and nobody in this world cheated on each other. Fortunately, the world is fair, everyone is rushing by, and no one is spared. ...

It turned out that the old man left this world alone more than two months ago, on this day that meant reunion.

As can be seen from the suicide note, an 8 1 year-old man can write such a sentence and is also a literate person.

According to the neighbor of the old man, the old man has children. The old man thought he would be found dead the next day. I didn't expect to be found by my neighbors two months later.

This shows one thing: for more than two months after the old man died, none of his children contacted him.

The old man's suicide note is full of No Country for Old Men's truth.

Like many old people, it seems that they shouldn't be so lonely, because having children doesn't mean they can prevent old age?

However, the reality tells us that many times, family ties are only used to see off, and so are many children.

Children can be a kind of protection, but this protection is only at a critical moment. For example, parents can't move or get sick, and there may be children, so it's not always unattended.

However, life also tells me another truth: there is no dutiful son in front of the bed.

03

See, no matter from which angle, it is an embarrassing ending.

I heard an old man sigh with emotion before. She said: "I'm not afraid of getting sick, but I'm afraid I won't die at once, and it will take a long time, which will annoy people and make me very painful."

The old man has already seen through the essence of this kind of parental affection, but he still tries his best to be a mother.

This old man, speaking of which, also makes me feel a little sad.

Her husband has been gone for almost 20 years now, and the old man has been living alone in his hometown. She is thin and small, but she is diligent. She planted a lot of land at home and raised a lot of pigs, chickens and ducks.

The old man has three children, two children and a woman. Every New Year, she kills pigs at home. She asked the three children to take away the meat and keep only a small part for herself.

Including chickens, ducks and food. She can't be idle. In the past few years, the types of land have even increased.

Unfortunately, now she is old.

She's a little old, she can't recognize people, and her speech is upside down.

Now she doesn't grow crops anymore, because she can't even tell what vegetables to grow in what season. She says to sow in winter. She often goes a little further and can't find her way back. Fortunately, another neighbor sometimes visits her.

Now, the old man still lives alone in the countryside. Her three children, her daughter married to other places, and her two sons worked outside all the year round. She also has a family and a room. The children have to go to school, so they don't care about her at all. They just come back for a visit during the New Year.

The old man once almost left because he took the wrong medicine. At that time, only the eldest daughter-in-law came back and took a look. After being sent to the hospital to confirm that it was all right, he sent the old man back.

I once asked my mother, "This mother-in-law is like this. Why didn't her children send her to a nursing home? At least someone took care of her. She is in her hometown now. What if something happens? "

My mother replied, "Do you think nursing homes don't need money?"

I listened to the silence.

There is more than one such example around me.

Many elderly people in rural areas have no retirement salary or their own houses. When they are old, they still live alone in their hometown, and even their children are powerless.

My aunt downstairs, in her fifties, told my mother last time that her mother-in-law can't take care of herself now. She is almost 90 years old and can't live alone in her hometown. Their five children had several quarrels about whether to take their mother to a nursing home.

Because ideas cannot be unified.

04

There are many children, but each has his own ideas and selfishness.

Those with slightly better conditions are willing to take the money, but they think it should be divided equally, while those with similar conditions are unwilling to take the money. The two ideas could not reach an agreement, so they had to give up again and again.

My family is also an aunt across the hall, adopting the strategy of four children, one for three months.

The old man is her mother-in-law She needs a wheelchair, can't walk and can't take care of herself.

Every time my mother-in-law comes over, I often hear that aunt curse.

Her home is a three-bedroom house with two children. Her little daughter is not at home at ordinary times, and her bedroom is locked.

Aunt won't let her mother-in-law live in her little daughter's bedroom. She said it stinks. So she usually lays the floor for her mother-in-law and then moves out in the morning. As long as there is sunshine, she takes the quilt that her mother-in-law sleeps upstairs to dry.

Two years ago, when my mother-in-law left, she gave my mother a long breath: "I have been paralyzed for almost 20 years, and we are all very scared."

Living, everyone has everyone's helplessness. In the face of day-to-day illness and troubles, those family ties have long been erased, because the old man's son is sometimes more excessive than his wife.

After all, this old man is not No Country for Old Men, at least someone takes care of him, but to some extent, she is still No Country for Old Men.

I once heard a testimony, which was also said by an old man. She said: "If people are lucky in this life and have no illness or disaster, then the role of children is almost just crying and caring before leaving the hospital bed, and beating drums after leaving."

I died last night, leaving peace of mind; I was born again this morning and came with a warm heart.