What should I do if my child didn't do well in the final exam and said something about him?

What if children don't want to listen to their parents? First of all, the communication language should be as concise as possible.

"It's better to be the first few pies", and the easiest thing to hear is concise criticism and education. If parents and children communicate the same thing, the language should be as concise as possible, and criticism and education should be completed in the shortest time, so that children can understand what he did wrong and why. After all, we put ourselves in a position, and being criticized and educated is not a very pleasant experience. Even when I was called to the office by a teacher when I was a student, we hoped that the shorter the time, the better, and that this feeling would end as soon as possible.

Second, the content of criticism stopped.

After the child has done something wrong, he actually feels that he has done something wrong. When being criticized for the first time, children are usually not particularly disgusted, and even feel guilty and will reflect on themselves. In fact, our educational purpose has been achieved at this time. Therefore, when a child does something wrong, it is enough for an adult to criticize him. Never "turn over old scores". Even in the relationship between husband and wife, it is not recommended to turn over old scores, let alone in the parent-child relationship.

Third, criticize and sympathize at the same time.

Adults are grown children. Everyone makes mistakes, so don't we grow up by making mistakes again and again? Therefore, when parents criticize their children, please listen carefully to the reasons and ideas of the children at that time, instead of blindly criticizing them rudely. "How can you make such a low-level mistake?" "Why did you make a mistake again? Didn't we agree last time? " Don't shout at the child so impatiently. The mistake has been made. More importantly, help them find the reason. Let the child speak for himself and give him the right to express himself freely and the space for introspection.

Fourth, put aside study and life appropriately.

It is normal and valuable to make mistakes. Children grow up by making mistakes, and we should also believe that they can do their own things independently, so parents don't have to stare at reminders all the time for fear that their children will make mistakes. When parents remind them appropriately, but their children don't listen, let them experience a natural result by themselves, and they will naturally "learn from their mistakes". Besides, we should all learn to be responsible for our own affairs, our own mistakes and our own lives.

The reason why children don't want to listen to their parents' nagging: 1. Excessive care for children.

Many parents always think that children will never grow up, and every little thing in daily life needs them to do. Some parents not only assume the role of parents, but even assume the role of nanny, and some children spare no effort to help their children complete it. This kind of excessive care for children has caused many children to be poor in self-reliance, arrogant, willful and self-respecting.

2. Parents' ideological education is wrong.

Many parents think that children can continue to speak for the second time and the third time if they make a mistake once, thinking that the more they talk, the more they will listen. But the fact is that children become arrogant and willful under the excessive care of their parents. Parents' words are not taken seriously at all, let alone their hard work. Such infinite repetition will only make children more disgusted with their parents' nagging.

Parents like to turn over old scores when educating their children.

In the process of growing up, children will always make some mistakes They were educated before, but they committed it again this time. Parents educating their children at this time may unconsciously turn over old scores. Children are tired of their previous education, and their parents turn it out again, which makes them even more annoyed and more suspicious of their parents' nagging.

4. Parents expect too much from their children.

Parents want their children to be excellent and obedient. Once children do not do well, they will seriously correct them and "strengthen education" for their children.