Can in-laws walk around like friends? Why?

When the children get married, we have another relative.

At first, my son couldn't drive, because his in-laws were out of town, and both of them went home by car. Later, they had a child, and we drove him back for fear that he would suffer. We walked a few times like this, and the daughter-in-law didn't know why the old couple were in conflict. At that time, her daughter-in-law had a fever because of mastitis, and to be honest, she was a little uncomfortable. Later, I heard that I was afraid that the placenta would go back to make capsules to eat, and my heart was even worse.

Later, we sent the children back to our door and went back without eating. A one-way trip takes about two hours. Husband and wife take turns driving and go home for lunch for four hours. When we come back, we go to their highway and they deliver it.

Now my son occasionally drives and sometimes hitchhikes, and my in-laws greet each other online. So young couples are comfortable. As long as it is beneficial to both sides, it is better for us old people to live independently. When we get old, our way of thinking and behavior are basically fixed, and both sides may not understand or tolerate each other, so we'd better live a good life.

The relationship between in-laws directly affects the happiness and harmony of children's marriage.

However, in real life, there are many problems in the relationship between in-laws

A considerable part of the contradictions between in-laws have already arisen before marriage. I remember someone saying: no parents want to marry their daughters. Therefore, few parents of daughters will happily approve their marriage when they first meet or meet their future son-in-law.

In many places, there are also the customs of bride price and dowry. When discussing marriage, few parents reach a comprehensive agreement on this issue.

There are also many contradictions in wedding planning, such as how many people to invite, how many tables to prepare, what wine to use, what cigarettes to smoke and how many cars to use. Too many things will inevitably lead to differences.

After getting married and having children, how to take care of the parturient has become the focus of the problem because of the different living habits, cultural differences and health care concepts of both parents. Another contradiction is who looks after the children, how and how long.

See, dealing with so many contradictions requires patience and skill, tolerance and understanding.

Walking between in-laws is a good way to have a harmonious relationship. People are emotional animals, even if some contradictions arise, they can be solved through normalized communication.

I am the woman's parents, my mother is strong, and my wife is not weak. When my daughter gave birth to her first child, mother and father began to work. I tried my best to persuade my wife to seek common ground while reserving differences. If I can't stand it, I can take refuge first. My experience is to participate in other people's family activities as much as possible, such as the weddings and funerals of immediate family members. Meet and travel together, and walk around each other on holidays. Our in-laws have a good relationship.

Harmonious relationship between parents-in-law reduces a lot of pressure in children's marriage life and is conducive to children's happy life.

In-laws can not only walk like friends, but also go further than friends and are relatives.

Between in-laws, there are many only children now, but they are almost small, and the concept should be similar. Can be said to be like-minded.

Between in-laws, always walk around. As the saying goes, "Let nature take its course, don't go too far". No matter how far you go, you will be close, and no matter how deep your feelings are, you will be weak.

Frequent contact and communication between in-laws can also increase the feelings between children.

We get together with our in-laws, at least once every two months, to eat, drink and chat. We don't have to think about what we can and can't say, and the two children have a good relationship.

We have four in-laws, and only I retired to see my grandson. My in-laws take care of my grandson at least two days a week, but I'm still embarrassed. At dinner, they either bought me cosmetics or scarves, saying that I had a hard time taking care of my grandson.

Our in-laws have basically the same hobbies. My in-laws said they set up a travel fund. When the grandson is older, we will take him to see the great rivers and mountains of the motherland, and think that everything is beautiful.

My in-laws also said that when my parents are gone, we will spend the New Year together so as not to embarrass the children.

Smart in-laws, especially those who are only children, will get along well, and they will do everything for their children.

So friends between in-laws are better than friends. Because two children together is a godsend.

Some people can, and some people really can't!

My friend's only daughter got married, and my friend's family got along well with her in-laws! Two days ago, six people also went to Hulunbeier to travel together! Four people like friends, drinking and playing mahjong, really enviable!

However, my family can't! After 24 years of marriage, my parents-in-law have eaten countless meals in my house, and so have my parents! However, * * * only eats at my house once. I remember it was the fifteenth day of the first month, and my parents' house was decorated upstairs, so I lived in my house. During the Lantern Festival, I invited my parents-in-law to my house for the holidays. I cooked a table of dishes, but my mother-in-law bothered me. As soon as my mother-in-law sat down, she said to my parents, "Don't mention it …", indicating that this is my son's house. She is the host. Although my parents didn't say anything, I could feel their embarrassment! I quickly said that this is my daughter's home. What's impolite? This is my own home. When my mother-in-law heard me say this, she thought I was aiming at her! It's hard to fuck me and my husband. My husband sent his parents away as soon as he finished eating. I'm afraid of deeper contradictions!

Since then, I have never organized a similar dinner. Now, both fathers are dead. On Mother's Day and Mid-Autumn Festival, we always accompany one mother at noon and another mother at night!

Every family has a different book-read it separately!

In-laws relationship is family relationship. Now that there are many only children, parents-in-law understand each other and help each other, and children will also reduce a lot of pressure and troubles.

Don't care so much about your in-laws, be honest and friendly. Put yourself in the other's shoes and work together.

In-laws should know how to be tolerant. For the sake of children's family stability, they must be indifferent, and their feelings are exchanged with each other, gradually forming the harmony of trust and affection between relatives.

Everyone has friends, and friends take care of each other, so why it is fate that children are involved between parents-in-law, cherish the fate!

The relationship between in-laws depends on each other's behavior, not condescending, but also on the relationship between children!

The young couple fell in love and came together, and their parents blessed them. The third generation of children already have four genes of the elderly, which have been integrated into the children's blood.

If the door is right, the three views are consistent, and everyone can understand and help each other, this is a big family and should be dependent on honor and disgrace.

We spend the Spring Festival with our in-laws every year. It's lively and relaxed, and the children are very happy.

Kinship includes the spouse of the child and the parents (in-laws) of the spouse of the child, the parents of the spouse within three generations, the brothers and sisters of the spouse and the spouse of the collateral blood relatives of the spouse.

Affinity stems from the marriage of both children. So getting married is not just a matter for two people, but a matter for two families. Young people have organized small families, and in-laws have gradually increased their contact. In-laws get along well, everyone is happy, and in-laws have contradictions, which will directly affect the feelings of the young couple.

First, keep a certain distance: In-laws are different from family and friends and are the focus of relatives. Treat each other with courtesy: Courtesy is the premise of harmonious interpersonal relationship. However, keeping a certain distance and leaving enough space for each other will inevitably lead to contradictions.

Second, treat the differences in environmental status of both sides equally and seek harmony. Both parties are married and know each other's family environment. Don't make comparisons in the future. The party with high status and good economic conditions should pay attention to the other party's self-esteem. Don't look down on each other when the conditions are poor.

Third, different opinions are not forced. If the in-laws do not live together, it is not easy to have direct contradictions, but some things may be related, and it is impossible for the in-laws to agree on everything and fully respect each other's wishes. The other party's different opinions should also be tolerant, seek common ground while reserving differences and do things well. Everything must be based on the harmony and interests of children's small families.

Fourth, it is difficult to be confused: there are contradictions between children, and it is best for the elderly on both sides not to participate. Never stand up for your child and be reasonable. If the child asks for help, help the child reflect more, not just protect the calf. Of course it's difficult, but no matter how noisy the couple are, their parents-in-law should not fight.

Don't complain: Don't tell your children how to treat them well and how bad their home is. Look at the benefits of in-laws, understand their difficulties, don't just pay attention to their shortcomings, as long as you have the heart, don't be demanding of how much you contribute.

Sixth, children should be reminded to set an example of filial piety for their in-laws, and the other parents are also their own parents.

In-laws are determined not to move often. Half a cent is not worth it. Politeness is enough! They all look at and deal with problems from the standpoint of their own children. The second child will inevitably have such and such problems. Now it is divorce ~ Can you talk about your in-laws?

Be polite on the surface and look down on each other behind your back. Keep your distance, and there will be peace!