How to tap children's own potential

How to tap children's own potential, parents must not ignore children's behavior. Many parents have a headache. Children's personality development has a lot to do with parents. Parents' education of children cannot be "partial". Let's share with you how to tap children's own potential.

How to tap children's own potential 1 misunderstanding 1: urge children.

It is worth noting that we should have a scientific concept of family education, teach students in accordance with their aptitude, follow the law of natural development, and don't force children. The failure of many geniuses comes from the extreme pressure of parents and society. Shang Zhong Yong is a well-known story. Zhong Yong, a child prodigy, became an ordinary person in just a few years. I have received many sad and confused parents. They all proudly recalled the cleverness and uniqueness of their children in those years. They often take the exam "100" and "the first place", lively and lovely, especially strong in one aspect, crying about their children's "miserable" status quo-they don't like learning, their grades have plummeted and their behavior is weird. I don't know why they are like this.

Why? They don't know that most of the reason lies in their own education. I nagged in my child's ear all day and got 99 points today. Why did those children get 100? Why are you so close? The third place this time, why not a few points? Two more points is the second place. If you win the second place, you have to increase the price-you must win the first place next time. Some parents show off their children's specialties everywhere, and even book their children a professional and professional "lifetime" early, and then carry out "devil training" after returning home. Demands are getting higher and higher, turning children's interests and passions into burdens and even hatred. I once saw a reporter's interview report that a 10-year-old child was learning the piano and his mother resigned to accompany him. The reporter asked, "Are you going to be a major?" Mother said, "Of course, I am throwing caution to the wind." "The child is still young. What if he has other choices in the future? " Mother said flatly, "No". I couldn't help but feel scared when I saw the child sitting on the piano stool with a blank face. Give the child only one road. When this road is blocked, the tragedy is inevitable.

Myth 2: Draw the ground as a prison.

In another case, a father felt that his daughter had an extraordinary memory and dropped out of vocational education. Children have to recite formulas and theorems for hours every day, and there are words at home. In addition, their father also takes them for physical exercise and timely entertainment. Father proudly explained his "grand" plan for tutoring. I can't see the bright joy and the calmness of a child with extraordinary ability from the eyes of the child. I noticed her obedience, her nervousness, and she was not very sociable when she was with the children. Children are also "social people". At every age, they should have their own spiritual space and behavioral space, and have their own colorful world. She needs more laughter with her children and needs to vent her emotions and physical strength. All these add up to happiness. If she is only with her parents all day, the small world will limit her and the child's imagination and creativity will shrink. Moreover, parents do not hesitate to resign and put all their eggs in one basket, which will bring great and heavy pressure to their children.

The success of any talent can not be separated from intellectual factors and non-intellectual factors. Intelligence factors mainly include observation, imagination, attention, thinking ability and memory; Non-intelligence factors mainly refer to people's emotions (including moral quality), will, character, temperament and so on.

In a person's life, childhood is a critical period of intellectual development, which will directly affect the intellectual development of a person's life. Therefore, grasping the golden age of children's intellectual development and developing their intellectual potential in time is an important way to teach children to become talents and help them succeed. Without the development opportunities in this period, the future education will be doubly tortuous, because children will not make progress and their intellectual development will decline.

As parents, how to tap children's intellectual potential?

1, strengthen children's observation and cognition.

Historically, people with highly developed intelligence have relatively strong observation ability. Pavlov, a famous Russian biologist, once asked his students, "You should learn to observe first. If you don't learn to observe, you will never become a scientist. "

Fabers, a famous French entomologist, likes to observe animals since childhood. When he was five years old, one night, he suddenly heard waves of wonderful chirping from the nearby jungle. He thought, is it a bird singing? I should check it out. The adults threatened him that there were wolves in the forest, and they only ate children. Little fabrice was not afraid, but bravely went into the forest to observe and explore. As a result, he found that it was not birds that sang, but grasshoppers. From then on, he became interested in insects and eventually became an accomplished entomologist.

Observation is extremely important for studying the role of natural science, and it is also essential for literature and art. Lu Xun once taught young artists: "If you want to create, you must first observe."

The famous French writer Mo Bosang studied under Flaubert. Flaubert invited Mo Bosang to the horse station to observe the horses: "There are many horses in the horse station. You should carefully observe the horses there and then describe the difference between one horse and dozens of other horses in one sentence. " In this way, Mo Bosang exercised his powers of observation, so his novels are famous for their meticulous characterization and incisive exposition, and enjoy a high reputation in the world literary world.

How to make children have keen observation and cognition?

First, exercise the sensory function. Take children into nature, let them broaden their horizons and learn more. Contact with perceptual things is the basic prerequisite for the development of observation.

Nowadays, many children are afraid to write a composition. "When you write a composition, you have a headache." Why? Because they have no life. If you keep your child in the house all day, it will inevitably block your child's sight. How can we stimulate children's interest in observing things?

There is a young mother in Beijing who knows how to raise children. My daughter likes painting since she was a child, but for a while she felt that painting was boring and didn't want to paint any more. The mother didn't force her children to continue painting, but took her to chicken farms and zoos to observe small animals. My daughter looked at it carefully after she came back and drew many new pictures. One of the paintings with a hundred chickens won the prize.

Therefore, parents should try to take their children to the park to play, have a look, visit the famous mountains and rivers of the motherland and get in touch with nature. In these outings, children will naturally have a strong interest in the things around them. Parents can use this opportunity to guide and train their children's observation.

Second, help children determine the object of observation. On holidays, parents can ask their children some observation questions in advance when they take their children out: How many buildings have been added at the door? How many shops have been added to this street? How do monkeys in the zoo eat? What does the rain look like when it rains? What kind of sound does it make when it is windy? ...... In the long run, children will pay attention to things around them and gradually change the habit of being careless and turning a blind eye to everything.

Third, children who go to school had better keep an observation diary. This can not only train children's expression and writing skills, but also help to cultivate good observation habits.

Fourth, create some conditions conducive to children's observation. For example, let children raise small goldfish, snails, tadpoles, or chickens, rabbits, flowers and grass themselves, and let them observe the living conditions of these small creatures and understand their growth process. All these are very conducive to the healthy growth of children's body and mind.

Step 2 remember

Strengthen reciting and understanding, and improve the ability of intentional attention; Expand reading, strengthen unintentional attention, repeatedly stimulate the cerebral cortex, and promote memory.

3. Develop children's imagination and thinking ability.

As a creative cognitive ability, imagination is a powerful force.

Einstein summed up his life's scientific practice and got the insight that "imagination is more important than knowledge". He put forward: "knowledge is limited, and imagination sums up everything in the world and promotes progress, which is the source of knowledge evolution." Therefore, in scientific research, we should regard imagination as a complete factor.

The human brain is divided into four functional areas: intuition, memory, judgment and imagination. According to the research of psychologists, the average person only uses 50% of the imagination function area, which shows that there is still great potential for developing imagination, and childhood is a good opportunity for personal imagination development.

Darwin became a liar somehow after he went to primary school. Once, he found a small fossil and came back and said to his sister, "This is a gem, priceless!" " On another occasion, he found a coin and told his sister seriously, "It was made in ancient Rome." "When my elder sister saw it, it was just an ancient coin of18th century, which was crushed out of shape. My sister was very angry with Darwin's "lying" behavior and complained to her father several times, but his father always smiled indifferently and said, "What a lie! The child is very imaginative. Maybe one day he will use this talent in his career! "Sure enough, when Darwin grew up, he applied his rich imagination to meticulous scientific research and founded the great theory of the Origin of Species.

4. Cultivate children's self-control

For children, the most important thing is to let them develop good self-study habits from an early age. With the habit of self-study, children can make good use of this key to open the door to knowledge whether they continue their studies or take part in work.

The cultivation of children's self-study habits depends on the long-term cultivation of parents. For example, help children formulate specific learning systems and learning plans to remind them to implement them seriously; Let children preview their lessons and form a good habit of previewing the text in advance, so as to listen to the class with questions and better absorb knowledge; Encourage children to finish their homework independently, and teach them to look up dictionaries and read books and newspapers to gain more useful knowledge. ...

The ancients said: "If you don't accumulate steps, you will eventually reach a thousand miles." In order to make children successful, parents should pay attention to the little things in life and study, cultivate children's good habits in all aspects, and correctly guide their children to a bright future.

It can be said that the child's life is in the hands of our parents!

How to tap children's own potential 2 1, preschool education before the age of 3 should focus on games.

Parents should pay attention to the cultivation of baby's behavior habits, personality will and communication ability when they educate their babies at an early age, and combine education with life, games and communication instead of simply imparting knowledge and skills. Based on the particularity of infants and young children, early education for 0-3 years old is different from children's education, and games should be given priority to, so that babies can gain knowledge, accumulate experience and form habits in games. Children imitate the rich impressions accumulated by various actions, words and expressions in the game, and unconsciously form their own personality, interests and hobbies.

Early childhood education has devoted parents' efforts, and young parents want to give their babies the best, which will inevitably lead to misunderstandings in early childhood education.

2. Intellectual development of early education.

An important part of early education is to let children's intelligence get early development and rapid development. The earlier the intellectual development, the better. Games are one of the early forms of education and children's favorite activities. Babies not only exercise in games, but also learn by imitation, cultivate their attention and observation, and learn some movements and skills. They can also accumulate experience, enrich knowledge, improve their thinking ability and make their brains flexible, which is conducive to intellectual development. Storytelling is also an important way to develop intelligence. Children love stories told by their parents and teachers after they are 2-3 years old. Parents should choose some stories that are informative, scientific, interesting and suitable for children, so that children can gain knowledge and receive education in the stories, which will help their early intellectual development. We should also educate our children about beauty, often take them to parks, picnics, museums, planetariums and zoos, and teach them to draw and listen to music. And influenced by beauty since childhood, arousing children's pursuit and yearning for beauty, improving children's aesthetic ability, and contributing to children's intellectual development.

3. Moral education in early education.

Moral education should be given to children from the beginning, telling them what is right and what is wrong; What can and can't be done. For example, 1 year-old children beat people and cry if they are not satisfied. At this time, adults should use expressions and gestures to tell children that this is wrong and not a good boy, and gradually educate children with stories or pictures in picture books, and gradually distinguish right from wrong, good from evil. Start teaching children some civilized terms such as "hello", "thank you", "sorry" and "goodbye", and cultivate children to be polite and love their parents and family. Respect the elderly and teachers, unite and love children, care for others, help others, be honest and not lie. At the same time, when educating children, parents should lead by example. Educating children should focus on praise and encouragement. If the child is wrong, we must criticize the education, explain the truth, and patiently and meticulously educate the child to form a good moral quality.

4. Behavioral habits of early education

Children should form good habits through repeated education, and parents should set an example. If parents don't pay attention to their words and deeds, they will develop some bad habits for their children. To develop good eating habits: let children eat on time, don't play while eating, don't be picky about food, and don't be anorexic. Develop good sleep habits: ensure adequate sleep time, go to bed on time and get up on time. Develop the habit of hygiene and cleanliness: gradually let children wash their hands and faces by themselves, and wash their hands before and after meals. Cultivate the habit of loving labor: cultivate children's habit of doing it themselves and loving labor from an early age. Our parents should not let their children work because their work is incomplete and unclean, which is not conducive to cultivating their habit of loving work. Cultivate children's habit of loving learning: At the age of 3, children should be taught to read, listen to music and learn simple foreign language words. The form and content should be lively, cultivate children's interest in learning and cultivate children's habit of loving learning.