Sister-in-law is lazy and doesn't help her mother-in-law with housework. Should the daughter get involved?

I can understand that you, as a daughter, feel sorry for your mother when you see that her mother is tired but her sister-in-law doesn't help, but I think it's best for your daughter not to wipe her hands on things between her mother and her sister-in-law, because the problem between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is a social problem, which is not as simple as we see. Most mother-in-law and daughter-in-law get along with each other with courtesy. If you help your mother to blame her sister-in-law, it will definitely lead to a war at home.

On the other hand, everything is a matter of atmosphere and environment. If your mother usually takes care of you and your brother, and you two don't help your mother with anything, you have no reason to let your sister-in-law do it. You can't say that because your sister-in-law is married, you have to serve the family like a mother. You think your mother is hard and your brother is hard, so you can help your mother. If your father, brother and you usually help your mother, your sister-in-law will be embarrassed when she sees it. However, if your mother usually serves a large family, now you ask your sister-in-law to take over her mother's class and serve a large family for her, that is a double standard for your sister-in-law, so what you say is not important, but what you do.

There may also be a situation where you are married and now you are not at home and can't help your parents. Then you find it difficult for parents to take care of others. Parents can be advised to live separately from their brothers and sisters-in-law, so that parents and brothers and sisters-in-law can have their own lives and take care of themselves, and there will be fewer contradictions. However, if their parents are willing to live with their children and don't feel hard, it's better not to participate, because many old people think that as long as their children are alive, their families will be happy.

I can understand my daughter's love for her parents, but when we grow up, we will find that many things are not what we think. Every family has its own way of getting along, as long as it is happy.