After 90, men had good intentions, and they changed their lovers' heads to cover up their singles, just to reassure their mothers. what do you think?

Unconsciously, the person born in 1990 is already 30 years old. When we are still immersed in the idea that the post-80s generation is no longer young, the post-90s generation also began to worry about their marriage.

No, to be precise, parents should be worried.

Some time ago, I saw my cousin suddenly change the WeChat avatar, or a couple. My first reaction was that he talked about his girlfriend. I am very excited to think of this possibility.

My cousin was born in 1993 and is 27 years old. According to his age, most of them have been married in our hometown, and some have even become parents.

However, my cousin has been working in other places since graduation and rarely goes back to his hometown all the year round. As for his emotional problems, every time he comes to ask during his period, he always says that he is looking for them.

Seeing that boys whose relatives are younger than their cousins are married or have girlfriends, he doesn't feel anything when he is not at home, but his parents are worried.

Menstruation began to find someone to introduce his son, and his cousin didn't want to have an opinion. Forced to hurry, he didn't go home or answer the phone. This is worrying menstruation.

Later, my period said that I would go to my cousin's work to find him. Why didn't I find a girlfriend? After reading it, my cousin was not busy looking for it. For this, my cousin's explanation is not appropriate.

In this way, his parents are anxious at home and he works normally. He doesn't seem to be influenced by his parents' urging marriage at all, but he has much less time to go home. In fact, he is deliberately avoiding his parents' urging marriage.

I always thought my cousin was dismissive of parents' urging marriage. No matter how you rush me, you can't do anything to me until I get home.

So, I was curious when I saw his portrait of a couple, and immediately sent a message to ask him if he already had a girlfriend.

He said: "No, my mother urges me to flip through my circle of friends every day. I really didn't meet the right one. In order to reassure my mother, I took some photos with my female colleagues and sent them to my circle of friends. If I change the image to a couple, my mother thinks I have a girlfriend, so she doesn't have to worry about introducing me to someone. "

The phenomenon of forced marriage is a problem faced by many young people today.

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I know a 25-year-old woman writer who says she is afraid to call her parents now. Every time she talks about marriage on the phone, she is on the verge of losing her temper.

She works alone in a foreign country. She is tired enough after a day's work, and she also uses her spare time to write, but as long as she calls home, if nothing else, she is definitely talking about the topic of marriage from beginning to end.

For these, she said that she can bear it and her parents are very concerned about her. But the only thing I can't stand is that every time I go back to my hometown, my family will betray her whenever there is an opportunity. But whenever someone visits, her mother will definitely try her best to ask if there are any boys of school age.

She said: "I feel that I have walked in Fiona Fang for dozens of miles, and I must have been told that I can't get married."

Before work, I didn't feel how much my parents cared about me. After I found a job, I never asked you whether the work was smooth, how much money you earned, how long you worked overtime, whether it was safe to go back alone, and so on. As long as I seize the opportunity, I will keep urging her to get married.

So in this respect, she can't understand her family's practice.

In today's society, marriage sometimes makes people feel that it is the responsibility of being kidnapped by morality.

Parents always feel that their children's marriage is their responsibility and obligation. For most parents, they have to watch their children get married and have children before they feel that life is complete.

Unmarried or infertile children, for their parents, are like a bolt from the blue, making their lives incomplete and broken, and may even "die unsatisfied."

In the TV series "Happiness is within reach", Zhou Fang was urged to get married by his mother, much like the young men and women who were urged to get married by their parents in real life.

Mom showed her a bunch of photos and took her to the fraternity. Later, when she saw that the road was impassable, she began to fix her up with the teacher. It seems that most people can't escape the process of being urged to get married by their parents.

But I always believe that all parents, no matter how to urge their children, have absolute goodwill.

I used to be forced to get married on blind dates. To tell the truth, I'm a little scared in the face of my family's urging marriage. I'm not really afraid that if I can't get married in my life, I'll die alone.

I'm even more afraid that if I really can't get married, it will hurt my family's heart, make them hold their heads up, or be ashamed to face their ancestors.

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This is because we were kidnapped by filial piety. Marriage may not be because of true love, but because we are eager to do our parents' duties in life.

At that time, the negative impact of urging marriage was that I didn't dare to face my family or even want to communicate with my family. Because explaining to them that communication is completely meaningless. After all, values and worldviews are different, which is an insurmountable gap.

In the face of filial piety and moral attacks, I can't say the pressure in my heart, because I know that once I say my true thoughts, it will be a knife stuck in the hearts of my loved ones. All this is kept in the heart without exit, which will make people fall into endless thinking.

In fact, I don't think it's that children don't want to get married, just don't want to get married casually. But the family's urging marriage undoubtedly pushed us to the track of free marriage.

It's better to tie it casually than not to tie it at all Yes, their lives may be complete when they get married, but how can the children's lives be complete? Is marriage certificate a ticket to happiness?

No, I don't think so. The feeling of being forced to get married may be different for everyone, but it is still quite heavy for most people. I always feel that I am not married, not only because I owe my family unfilial, but also because I am too poor to find a partner.

Maybe at that stage, we can't understand why our parents are so exaggerated, always urging marriage and forcing us to go on blind dates. When we become parents one day, we can understand their pains.

In this world, probably only parents will care about whether their children are doing well and whether your future can be happy.

Why do parents urge us to get married when we talk about work? Because our parents know that when we have a job, we will stay away from them, so they can't always take care of the children.

They seem to be forcing you to get married, but in fact they want someone to accompany you, love you and care about you for them.

Many people are disgusted with premarital blind date, or are urged to get married by their parents. However, when they really get married, they will gradually understand that parents are really good for us. Even if they use the wrong method, it is because of love.