Touching stories and names about integrity

Speaking of Xie Yanxin, the most commonly used sentence by neighbors and colleagues is: "Liang'er (Xie Yanxin's nickname) is a good man."

Xie Yanxin's surname was Liu, and he later changed it to his father-in-law. Xie is an ordinary miner at Xinzhuchun Company of Henan Coking Coal Group.

The neighbors did not know Lao Xie's original name for a long time, and they regarded him as the son of the Xie family rather than the son-in-law. After all, even sons, not many can take care of the elderly like him.

Neighbor Yu Naixiu recalled the scene when Lao Xie took care of his father-in-law: in summer, he carried the old man outside the house to a cool place to get some air, and then carried him back home. In winter, carry it to the sun to bask in the sun, and then carry it back to the house. "Even my own son would not carry him back and forth like this all day long."

My father-in-law has been paralyzed in bed for nearly 18 years, and he has taken care of his mother-in-law and silly brother-in-law for more than 30 years. Lao Xie has endured more hardship than his neighbors can see. Much more arrived.

Thirty-three years ago, my newlywed wife Xie Lan'e suffered from postpartum rheumatic syndrome 40 days after giving birth to her daughter. The incomplete medical and health conditions at that time could not save his wife's life. As the eldest daughter, his wife entrusted her parents and younger brother to Xie Yanxin before she died.

The situation of the father-in-law’s family is not optimistic: the mother-in-law is basically incapable of working due to emphysema and other diseases, the only brother-in-law is congenitally stupid and has difficulty taking care of himself, and only the father-in-law lives more than 300 miles away. Work in Jiaozuo Coal Mine. Coupled with the infant daughter, you can imagine how heavy the burden is on taking care of this family.

In order to comfort his mother-in-law who lost his beloved daughter, Xie Yanxin, who was holding back his grief, promised the old man in tears: "Mom, I will never leave you, take care of you, and take care of your family."

< p>My mother-in-law, who is now over 80 years old, said frankly: "At that time, I was always afraid of Liang'er. If Liang'er left one day, our family would be nowhere to be found."

In order to make the elderly Don’t worry, Xie Yanxin changed his last name from Liu to Xie. Changing one's surname is a big deal in rural areas. The family members held a family meeting and discussed it for most of the night. "You have changed your surname and you are still married to me?" - The family disagreed for the sake of Lao Xie's future.

"Let's talk about it later. I can't let go of their family's current situation." Lao Xie didn't talk much, but he was a person with ideas. In the end, everyone couldn't defeat him.

Changing your surname is only the first step, the more difficult things come later.

In 1979, my father-in-law suddenly suffered a stroke and was hospitalized. Xie Yanxin did his best to take care of his father-in-law. Other patients had to be replaced, but Xie Yanxin could only bear the burden alone. I slept on the cold concrete floor of the ward at night.

Now talking about this, mother-in-law Feng Jihua's eyes were full of tears, "In the twelfth lunar month of winter, Liang'er lay alone on the cold floor in the ward every night for three months." < /p>

My father-in-law’s life was saved, but he will have to stay with his bed from now on. In the past, even though I was in trouble, my father-in-law helped to support me; now, this pillar has also fallen! He needs to take care of the four people in the family, and all the burden of life falls on Lao Xie.

Lao Xie reluctantly sent his 5-year-old daughter to his hometown to be taken care of by his mother and brother.

The mother in her hometown couldn't bear to see her 20-year-old son living like this, so she asked Lao Xie's third brother to persuade him to return to his hometown, "Go and call Liang'er back. He can't always be like this. He will have to do it in the future." Marry another wife."

The third brother Liu Yansheng said: "I went to the city to find where my brother lived, and saw that they lived in a broken house not far from the public toilet. I cried, even if I was farming at home, my life would be better than that."

Lao Xie did not go back with his third brother. "Brother, you've seen it too. Who cares about this place if I go back? People have to have a conscience. If I go back, it would be too heartless." Xie Yanxin's words left the third brother speechless.

My father-in-law was lying paralyzed in bed with his limbs stiff. Following the doctor's advice, Xie Yanxin had to move his limbs for him every day. At first, when the old man couldn't bear the pain, he would scold Xie Yanxin. Xie Yanxin always smiled and said: "Dad, what do you think you are talking about?"

Under Lao Xie's careful care, his father-in-law was able to move the stool in the yard after more than four months. Stepped. Xie Yanxin kept in mind the doctor's instructions, turning the old man over frequently and applying talcum powder. The old man was carried out every day to bask in the sun for several hours.

Zhang Qingbo, who treated his father-in-law, said: "Lao Xie (father-in-law of Xie Yanxin) has been lying in bed for 18 years without getting bedsores. It is really rare, thanks to his son-in-law.

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Patients who were bedridden and inactive often had dry stools, so Xie Yanxin put on gloves and helped the old man to dig them out bit by bit; he heard that winter melon peels and thatch roots can diuretic and laxative, so he went to the fields. He dug and boiled water for the elderly every day.

My father-in-law’s sick leave salary of more than 60 yuan per month could not support the family of four, so Lao Xie found time to do odd jobs in brick kilns in nearby rural areas to earn money to support the family. In order to save a few yuan on vegetables, he also planted rapeseed on the garbage dump. When it was young, it was eaten cold, and when it was older, it was stir-fried. After harvesting the rapeseed, he squeezed it into oil and ate it.

My father-in-law eats it. One of the traditional Chinese medicines was scorpion. In order to save money, Xie Yanxin followed the doctor's advice and went to the mountains more than 40 miles away from home to find more than half a kilogram of dry food on the first day.

In 1983, Xie Yanxin replaced his father-in-law and became a worker in Zhucun Mining Zone 1.

After his first month of work, Xie Yanxin, who was never willing to spend money randomly, bought a radio for his father-in-law. Relieve boredom.

The most unbearable thing for people who have been in bed for a long time is loneliness. Xie Yanxin borrowed novels from the library and read them to his father-in-law for 18 years. Later, he read as many as a hundred novels to his father-in-law.

In 1989, his father-in-law suffered from liver cirrhosis and was terminally ill. Knowing that the family was in trouble, his mother-in-law persuaded Xie Yanxin not to send her husband to the hospital: "Human Life." How big is enough! "

Xie Yanxin, who was usually obedient to his mother-in-law, firmly disagreed: "No matter how you say it, this is life. No matter how poor we are, we can't wait to die at home. If word spreads, who will I become? "Xie Yanxin borrowed 1,000 yuan from a fellow villager and sent his father-in-law to the hospital.

In August 1996, his father-in-law passed away. Xie Yanxin said to his father-in-law: "Don't worry, dad, as long as I have food to eat. , my mother and Yanniu (brother-in-law) will not be hungry. "

"Lao Xie looks for Yanniu as soon as he comes to eat. He has traveled a lot for this, but he never bothers Yanniu. "The silly brother-in-law, who is about the same age as Lao Xie, often runs around alone. Lao Xie always looks for him before eating. The neighbors all witnessed this, and they also helped Lao Xie a lot, so that Lao Xie It saves a lot of worry.

My brother-in-law can’t take care of himself, so I always keep his nails neatly trimmed. most. "

My father-in-law left with peace of mind, and my 82-year-old mother-in-law was in good health, but Lao Xie's health was deteriorating. Xie Yanxin suffered from severe hypertension. In order to save money, he heard that soaking peanuts in vinegar can reduce blood pressure. He suffered from blood pressure for 13 consecutive years, until he had to be hospitalized for emergency treatment due to cerebral hemorrhage in 2003.

The old mother-in-law looked at her white-haired son-in-law with affection and said: "This home is like this. It was an egg standing on a pole, which would have been broken if it weren't for him. "

My mother-in-law said that she has a bad temper and sometimes quarrels with her son-in-law, but the son-in-law always smiles and forgets it. "He never makes me angry, and he never says an awkward word." At that time, some people also gossiped that they could not count on a son-in-law, but I relied on my son-in-law! ”

●A poor father is also rich

Lao Xie said that the person he felt most sorry for was his daughter Liu Bianying. When talking about his daughter’s almost blind right eye, Lao Xie, who was always cheerful, fell silent. ...

Regardless of whether they are poor or rich, all parents in the world have the same feelings for their children. In order to take care of his father-in-law, Xie Yanxin left his five-year-old daughter in his hometown. It was not because he was cruel, but because he really had no choice.

In Bianying’s memory, she didn’t wear any new clothes before she was 16 years old. Before the Spring Festival when Bianying was 16, her father went home to do business for the first time in her life. I wanted to go to the countryside with my sisters, so my father took out 5 yuan from his pocket.

Sixteen years old is the time when girls love beauty. Some of the sisters who went with them bought new clothes for the festival. I went to buy various cosmetics, but Bianying held sweaty 5 yuan in her hands and didn't dare to buy anything. In the end, she spent 2 yuan to buy a box of rouge.

When she got home, her father was very angry. It was also the first time that she saw her father angry. After dinner, her father called her over and said, "Ni, we can't compare with others. We should spend money on things that should be spent, and we should not spend money on things that shouldn't be spent. "

Liu Bianying said: "I didn't fully understand what my father said at the time, and I still blamed him in my heart.

Other fathers who work outside the home always buy a few new clothes for their children during the Chinese New Year. Why is my father so stingy? "

When Bianying was 18 years old, a group of children were playing in the village at night. A stone hit Bianying's right eye. It was dark and it was impossible to find who hurt her. Mother Xie Fenxiang (stepmother) ) took her to the countryside for a checkup overnight. The doctor said that the eye injury was too serious and she had to go to a large hospital for treatment. The next day, she was checked at the Jiaozuo Mining Bureau's facial features hospital and the doctor said that she needed to be hospitalized.

Lao Xie told the doctor that he didn’t bring enough money and he would come back tomorrow for hospitalization procedures.

In the evening, when he returned home, the smile that often hung on Lao Xie’s face disappeared. After dinner, he shut himself up. In the room. Outside, Bianying could hear his father sighing. In Bianying's memory, no matter how difficult it was, his father always faced it with a smile. This time, it was really difficult for him. /p>

The next day, when her father sent Bianying home, he suddenly asked her: "Ni, do you hate me?" "Bianying shook his head noncommittally. It was because of the hospitalization deposit that Banying lost the best opportunity for treatment. So far, Banying is almost blind in his right eye.

In Jiaozuo, eating his father is easy. No more simple meals, looking at the furniture given to his father by the mine, and feeling the dilemma of living in the same room with an old man, a paralyzed man, and a stupid man, Banying said: "I know it's not that my father doesn't want to treat me, he really can't get it." Pay the hospitalization deposit of several thousand yuan! "

From then on, Bianying began to understand her father. Now that she is a mother, she also gradually understands his father's difficulties.

"He is too difficult, and he does not enjoy it. What a blessing. "Liu Bianying's eyes turned red when she mentioned her father.

Father did not give Bianying much material satisfaction, but more spiritual words and deeds.

The 20th day of the twelfth lunar month in 1994 Second, on the day of Banying's wedding, her mother, Xie Fenxiang, had prepared the dowry early. On the afternoon of the 21st of the twelfth lunar month, her father came back. He called Banying to him and said to her: "Ni, a good girl won't fight for the dowry, you." I don’t have anything to give you when you get married. I’ll give you a knitting book with two poems I copied in it. "

Bianying took the book without a cover from his father's hand, and saw neatly written on it: "Although coptis is bitter, there is a sweet aftertaste under the tongue after drinking it; saccharin water is It's sweet, but if used too much, it turns into bitter water. It fully shows that only when there is bitterness can there be sweetness, sweetness and bitterness are connected, and only if you are willing to endure bitterness can you always have sweetness. "Another song goes like this: "Thrift is the foundation of happiness, waste is the seedling of poverty; production is like a money tree, thrift is like a cornucopia; be diligent and frugal, and the warehouse is full of food, and be extravagant and spend money; keep the bottom of the warehouse empty; work hard and keep it in mind, and be diligent and thrifty. . ”

The simple and simple principles of life in the two passages are Lao Xie’s experience in a difficult life. Bianying said that these two passages are heirlooms of their family.

Careful Experienced love

After his wife passed away, relatives introduced him to Xie Yanxin. When they heard about his family situation, they either thought it was too heavy a burden or didn't understand him. So, Xie Yanxin lived with his father-in-law and his family alone. It lasted for 10 years until Xie Fenxiang, a fellow villager, showed up.

“Everyone knows about him. He is so good to my parents-in-law, and he must be no different to me. You must first feel comfortable in your life. "Xie Fenxiang explained the reason why she married Lao Xie in this way. Marrying a reliable and conscientious person makes Xie Fenxiang feel at ease.

After getting married, Xie Fenxiang took care of children, served the elderly, and farmed in her hometown in Huaxian County. Xie took care of his father-in-law's family in Jiaozuo. Every once in a while, Fenxiang went to Jiaozuo's home to unpack and wash the family's bedding.

Looking back, from the time she got married to when Fenxiang came to Jiaozuo to take care of her sick husband, Fenxiang said. She and her husband had been together for less than a year. Mr. Xie told her: "I take good care of my parents-in-law, you take good care of my parents and set an example for your children. ”

Xie Fenxiang and her ex-husband have a son and a daughter, plus the daughter of Lao Xie and his ex-wife, and a daughter of her and Lao Xie. The composition of this big family is very complicated in the eyes of others, but the whole family People get along well, and they live in harmony even when they are not rich.

Lao Xie owes a lot to his wife and children, but Xie Fenxiang and the children don't care about it at home. We take care of his parents together and show our filial piety for Lao Xie, and his life in the village is not bad.

“The villagers all think that Lao Xie always smiles no matter how hard or difficult he is. You can't embarrass him, you have to live a good life. "Xie Fenxiang is also a strong person like Lao Xie.

"Lao Xie never says soothing words, but he has this family in his heart." Xie Fenxiang said. Every time he went back to his hometown, Lao Xie would do whatever he could as soon as he walked in, rushing to help his wife with work.

The new house had just been built. It had no doors or windows, and the walls were not dry. Xie Fenxiang moved in with her children. After Xie Yanxin heard what his neighbor said to the city, he asked the neighbor to send a message to his wife: "Don't make the bed against the wall, so that the adults and children will not get wet and get sick."

Simple language, simple love, the whole family is here Support each other in this love and understand it with your heart.

●There is joy in suffering

The days are bitter, but the heart is not bitter. After more than 30 years of hard life, Lao Xie found happiness in the midst of hardship.

Lao Xie is an ingenious person. Whenever he has free time, he helps his neighbors make baskets out of plastic strips. Neighbors praised him for making baskets that were better than those in the market.

Lao Xie likes Henan Opera. When his father-in-law was still alive, he would accompany him to listen to the radio when he had free time. In the evening, the sound of the two men humming Henan opera on the radio could often be heard from Xie's house.

Lao Xie loves calligraphy. In a notebook, he writes first with a blue pen and then with a red pen. One notebook is enough for two.

The poverty of life has been with Yanxin for more than 30 years. Although life improved after he started working in 1983, the combined retirement salary of Yanxin and his father-in-law was only more than 100 yuan, which was enough for the two elderly people to take medicines and injections and the family's living expenses. In order to save 10 yuan on vegetables every month, Yanxin digs wild vegetables, picks sweet potato leaves, sweet potato stems and cabbage sticks. More than 10 kinds of four-season side dishes pickled by himself have become his three daily meals.

In order to save some money for medical treatment for the two elderly people, Yanxin forgot what bananas, apples and even watermelons tasted like for more than ten years from his father-in-law's illness to his death. As for the clothes of Yanxin and his family, he had never bought them in a store. A pair of plastic sandals costing 4 yuan lasted six years. He wore a shirt for 10 years. If it got dirty during the day, he would wash it at night and wear it again the next day. In order to save a few yuan in fares, every time he went to see a doctor for his father-in-law, he used a truck to take his father-in-law to a hospital more than ten kilometers away.

In order to save money on buying vegetables, Lao Xie opened a vegetable field in the courtyard of the pump house he was looking at. He planted several kinds of vegetables in the small vegetable field. His wife looked at the densely planted rapeseed crops and said he planted them too densely. Lao Xie said with a smile: "You don't understand. When the seedlings are young, they can be picked and eaten; when they are bigger, they can be boiled and mixed with food; when the rapeseed blooms, it can be fried and eaten; when the rapeseed finally sets, it can be squeezed for oil. This is a small green bank!”

Workers learned about Xie Yanxin’s family situation from the side. Lao Xie never mentioned family matters in class, and he gave the impression that he was cheerful every day. Yanxin has been working for more than 20 years. No matter what position he is in, he does what he does, loves what he does, and is good at what he does. His work has never been affected by the burden of his family. In the autumn of 1992, his father-in-law was hospitalized for a month. Yanxin went to work during the day and went to the hospital to serve his father-in-law at night, which did not affect his work day.

The unit union leader Zhao Shantong was surprised to see the situation in Lao Xie’s home during a home visit: a house of more than ten square meters, a bed made of two wooden boards... Zhao Shantong made up a jingle to describe that time The situation of the Xie family: "There are old and young, sick and disabled, and a fool looking at the sky will make a heart of stone soft."

After returning, the leader talked to Lao Xie and wanted to help him Relief was offered, but he declined. He said: "I live my own life. I don't compare myself to others, and I don't covet others. There are many people in difficulty, not just my family."