How to deal with the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law when living with her parents-in-law?

1. Take care of your work and avoid staying at home for a long time. If your parents-in-law are at home every day, and you are at home every day, conflicts will arise over time. With patience, after a long time, there will always be times when you can't help it. In addition, the living habits of the elderly are different from yours. Even if you can hold it, they may not be able to hold it, and then the war will break out.

If you have your own job, you will basically leave home for 8 hours every day, come back to take care of the children at night, and your husband will be at home at night, so that the family will be more balanced. Besides, you don't have time to get along with your in-laws. You spend most of your time with your children.

Try not to quarrel, and apologize first. After all, you are an elder, so you should maintain your feelings with your elders and don't make your husband too embarrassed. On the one hand, you are your wife; on the other hand, you are your parents. If your husband thinks you have gone too far and quarrels with his parents all day, your relationship will be bad.

Just don't say what your in-laws say. Talk as little as possible. If you talk too much, you will talk a lot, and they won't understand what you say to your in-laws. Isn't there a saying that disaster comes from the mouth? Talk too much. I hope you can listen more when they say it.

3. Do housework as much as you can. People who work hard will be liked everywhere. Washing dishes and sweeping the floor is not a big deal, and you can't be tired. You can help your mother-in-law, which not only sets a good image in her in-laws' hearts, but also makes your husband feel that this daughter-in-law is happy when she sees it.

Like when we go home every weekend, as long as I eat this meal, I must brush my rice bowl. I will eat it first, and then play with the children. Later, when everyone finished eating, I gave the child to his father and went to the kitchen to help my mother-in-law brush dishes and chopsticks.

A good daughter-in-law, don't give people the impression of being lazy, otherwise people will say you directly and mercilessly when dealing with contradictions in the future.

4. Those who should be spoiled and filial should be treated as your parents as much as possible, but be more polite than your parents. For example, on Mother's Day and Father's Day, taking the initiative to buy gifts for parents-in-law, inviting parents-in-law to have a meal, or ordering a cake for parents-in-law in advance can all reflect the daughter-in-law's filial piety.

When I say spoiled, I mean spoiled with my mother-in-law, not with my father-in-law. It's best to keep a safe distance from your father-in-law, so that your mother-in-law won't regard you as a thorn in her side. If you spoil your mother-in-law, it's usually your own business. Ask her to take care of the children, so that you can go out surfing. At this time, you can regard her as your own mother. After all, after a long time together, my mother-in-law still has feelings for her daughter-in-law. Don't screw things up, there will be no one to look after the children in the future.

Summarizing the above four points, I hope I can help you.

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