Children don't do housework in disorder, so teaching children can get twice the result with half the effort.

A treasure mother has a three-and-a-half-year-old boy at home. I heard that it is better to let her children learn to do housework. Every time she cooks, she asks her children to help her pick vegetables and wash them, and the children are quite happy to do it.

Once after a meal, the child took the initiative to wash the dishes, so he was assured that he would do it. His mother also used this time to do other housework, but in a few days, the problem came out. Every day after dinner, she washes the dishes, pours all kinds of detergents and plays with water for half an hour, but she still says that she didn't finish washing, which made him disappointed and began to cry. Her mother wondered if she had done something wrong.

Give him five minutes to wash the dishes at a time, but he still doesn't want to come down and cry when the time comes. Ask Sister Miao for help. What should I do in this situation?

Let's analyze this case in detail.

First of all, let's praise the mother in the case. It is really wise to teach children to do housework.

Nowadays, children in many families are only children and are loved by their parents. Many preschool children have never done housework.

However, in recent years, it has been found that children who have been involved in housework since childhood have stronger ability to learn and solve problems, and these children are more efficient at work, and their interpersonal relationships are always harmonious and happy.

Therefore, parents should not always hold the mentality of "children are too young to understand" and keep their children away from housework. They think it will be good to have time for their children to study more. Why does housework waste time? This view is really a bit old-fashioned. Letting children do housework is the best opportunity to help children grow up. It can not only increase their ability to do things, but also cultivate their sense of responsibility, give them a sense of accomplishment, form the habit of helping others and know how to be grateful.

There is an old saying: if you don't raise children, you don't understand your parents.

It's hard to be grateful without the same experience. Doing housework is not easy to give children a chance to experience real life. This kind of education is worth a thousand words. Parents are advised to study with the mother in the case.

But why did this mother encounter such confusion?

Children can't stop washing dishes and playing with water, which shows that there is something wrong with the purpose and way of mother teaching children to do housework.

First of all, it's a little early for a three-and-a-half-year-old to let him do the dishes. Washing dishes is out of proportion to his age.

Secondly, when the child washes the dishes, the mother urges him to do other housework when he washes the dishes. She didn't let the children understand the real purpose of housework, but let them have fun and do other things.

When mother found the problem, she took the wrong solution. The mother limits the time for the child to finish, but children of this age have no such fine concept of time at all. When mom said five minutes, he felt that it was as long as a whole day, or he felt that he had just finished washing 1 minute, which was far from five minutes.

When he is forced to stop, he will cry.

If children are interested in washing dishes, in fact, mothers can do this:

First of all, when the child washes the dishes, the mother should accompany the child and teach the child the correct way to wash the dishes.

In fact, the most important thing for children to do housework is to teach them how to do it. Mother divided the dishes into many detailed steps, and let them do it together while demonstrating. Even if the child learns, don't leave him alone in the kitchen at such a young age. Mother had better accompany him to wash. After a long time, the child has already slipped away, so let him do it independently.

Secondly, if the child plays with water while washing dishes, the mother can tell him, "Does the baby think water is fun? It's time to wash the dishes. Let's finish washing the dishes. Mom will get you a big basin of water and put it in the bathroom. Do you want to play catch small fish? "

I believe the children will not refuse this suggestion, which not only allows the children to finish the work of washing dishes seriously, but also ensures the fun of having water to play with.

Later, I will tell you about the age of the child and what housework to do, because if the age and housework are asymmetrical, it will dispel the enthusiasm of the child, so let the child do things moderately.

1-2 years old children,

Give him some simple instructions, such as letting the child throw dirty diapers into the dustbin himself.

Children aged 2-3:

You can throw the garbage into the dustbin under the instructions of your parents and let your children help you with your things; Help mom hang clothes on the hanger; I can go to the toilet, brush my teeth, water the flowers and tidy up my toys with the help of my parents.

Children aged 3-4:

Learn to wash your hands, brush your teeth more carefully, water the flowers carefully, pack toys, feed your pets, and help your mother make the bed before going to bed, such as taking a pillow and quilt. Put the dishes in the kitchen sink after dinner; Help mom put the folded clean clothes back in the closet; Put your dirty clothes in the basket.

Children aged 4-5:

Master the housework required in front and make your own bed; Prepare the dining table, starting with helping parents with bowls and chopsticks, and slowly let the children help set the table; Put the dirty dishes back in the kitchen after dinner; Fold the washed clothes and put them back in the closet (teach children how to fold different clothes correctly); Get your clothes ready for the next day.

5-6 years:

Can help clean the table; Make the bed/change the sheets, prepare your schoolbag and shoes for going to kindergarten the next day, tidy up the room, and pick up the things that are misplaced and put them back.

6-7 years old:

With the help of my parents, I can wash dishes, wash clothes and clean the room independently.

7- 12 years old:

Can cook simple meals; Help clean the floor; Clean the bathroom; Can use household appliances (washing machine, microwave oven).

/kloc-over 0/3 years old:

Change garbage bags, clean windows and refrigerators; Clean stoves and ovens; Cooking; Make a list of things to buy; Washing clothes includes washing clothes, folding clothes and putting them back in the closet.

Of course, these are all standards. The specific situation must be based on the child's interests. For example, the baby in the case is interested in washing dishes. You can't tell him that you are too young to do it, but teach him how to do it carefully and patiently.

Today, Sister Miao helps you analyze the case of baby doing housework. Sister Miao's point of view is:

First of all, children are very active in doing housework. Secondly, parents should not let their children do housework. They need to patiently teach their children every detail and step. Demonstration is the best way. Finally, they should do proper housework at the right age.

Finally, Miao Jie wants to say that parents should not underestimate their children at all. Give them enough freedom to do housework and they will give you a full surprise.