The awakening of three divorced men: it is actually a feeling to see his ex-wife after many years of divorce. Why?

There is a saying: it is not love but passion that has a shelf life. Many times, we tend to regard the disappearance of passion as the disappearance of love, which leads to breakup and divorce. When you lose control, even breathing will tell you how wrong this marriage is and how much you want to escape.

In this way, we walked into the marriage hall in sweet intimacy, shattered by the ideal of marriage, and smoothed by warm and passionate tea. Under the influence of this environment, we never feel that divorce is a terrible thing. We are tired and bored. We always think that no one can live well without each other, and we are convinced that life after separation will be wonderful and spring will suddenly bloom in the sea.

No one will regret at the moment of divorce, but many years later, when they meet their predecessors, they will feel many changes. Or surprise, or contradiction, or regret, unexpectedly, after all, we have become the most familiar strangers.

In the mind of a man who is not good at words, how will it be moved to see his ex-wife after years of separation? Fortunately, I met three men who were willing to share their feelings with us, walked into their roles and found that all their feelings were actually just one.

"When you don't love someone, even if it's the sound she makes while eating, you will feel really guilty." The first thing Xiao Liang told me was what Zhang Xiaoxian said. Xiao Liang said that he would see his ex-wife again in ten years. When eating at a table, this sentence suddenly popped up without warning, just like this meeting. He can't remember when it started, so this sentence is deeply imprinted in his mind.

Time will make us more ridiculous. Liang Xiao said that ten years ago, when he made trouble at home and wanted a divorce, he treated his wife like this. All his wife's actions and voices bored him. He even thinks that there are such ignorant women in the world, and he is so unlucky. He married her into the house and watched her approach 180 kg. He can't wait for this woman to die quickly. ...

I'll see you again in ten years, but I'm a little familiar. Most importantly, this woman in front of me seems to have brought him some remorse. The sound of chopsticks touching the bowl, the opening and closing of lips, all the sounds she made were so beautiful, as if they were not so disgusting, but they made him feel damn excited.

Is she slim? Delicate face? Or has self-restraint improved? Both, and neither seems to exist. But it is undeniable that after Xiao Liang righted his lover and was kicked away by his lover, he inevitably remembered his ex-wife's meekness.

Xiao Liang said he wanted to catch up with his ex-wife, and he was very lucky. Maybe this woman will choose me again in ten years. But he was wrong. A woman who has been hurt will never look back when she begins to know how to love herself and restrain her appearance, body and self-restraint.

In fact, every woman is a piece of rough jade. In the eyes of men who know the goods, she is priceless. In the eyes of men who don't know the goods, she is just an ordinary stone.

"When the lights are dim, you will find out how beautiful those ordinary days are." Huayang said that the reason for his divorce from his ex-wife is unclear, but it is a struggle to vaguely remember the reason why he signed the divorce agreement. Huayang and his ex-wife are both only children. Every time before the Chinese New Year, they quarreled about this issue countless times. At that time, it seemed that no one could argue any longer. They went home separately, said divorce together, and signed a divorce agreement.

"Can you understand that feeling? Like a bottle of soda. After a long time, there will be no gas. After five years of marriage, we are like that flat soda, a flat ball, and even sex is like coping. " Huayang said this. I know this feeling too well. In fact, every couple will feel this way at some point. Some people will live a lifetime, and some people will go their separate ways halfway.

"Do you think it's strange? When I saw my ex-wife again five years later,' Qi' seemed to come back. It was novel and interesting to go back to the time when I pursued her wildly. " I felt a chill after listening to Huayang's words. Huayang's ex-wife didn't remarry, and I vaguely foresee that Huayang will pursue it again because of the appearance of those good memories and the feeling of coming back.

No betrayal, no suspicion, seeing you again after many years of divorce is familiarity and freedom, which is a hotbed for feelings to start again. When we call feelings love, we will automatically ignore those grounded things, and our minds are full of imaginative ideas. But when we get married, we can get along with each other day and night, and even fart to each other, we will feel how Prince Charming actually vented. Every couple always habitually regards vigorous and out-of-touch as the true nature of marriage, and never really realizes that marriage is actually that you light the fire and I cook, and you mop the floor and I wash the dishes.

As long as it is lost, it will be remembered. It turns out that the truest and happiest time in our marriage is those days that accompany each other, that is, those ordinary past events that cannot escape daily necessities, and that is the most magnificent in our marriage.

"She's sorry for me, but I really regret the divorce. Love is really so powerful, will being cuckolded blame me for letting go? " After listening to this sentence next spring, I sincerely feel sorry for him. I told him firmly that if you bear it a little longer, the pain will soon pass. A person who doesn't know how to cherish you doesn't care Allow me to regret, and never allow me to turn back.

A broken heart really can't accept another blow. This is just what I believe. We are all sentimental people, how can we accept one injury after another? This kind of physical pain is 1000 times greater than physical pain.

Love makes people forget the passage of time, just as time makes us forget the pain. Although Ming Chun, who has been divorced for a year, has not recovered from the pain of losing his lover, everyone is glad that he made the wisest decision.

Marriage is the most difficult and fragile. Today we will be deeply moved by my infatuation, and tomorrow we will feel sorry for it. After visiting the inner world of three men, you will find that they all feel the same: they will regret the divorce more or less. You know, no one has turned around casually because of regret. They are still wise.

People who really love will not be willing to divorce; People who really dare to divorce really don't love each other. It doesn't matter when and where you don't love. The important thing is that once you lose it, you can never go back. Even if you go back, it's definitely not what you looked like at that time.

Now that we have become passers-by, why bother with each other? Go forward to see the light, go back to feel the darkness. May you with a story pour yourself a glass of wine at night and let the past go with the wind.