Will parents' divorce really affect children's marriage and career?

Lili is fashionable and beautiful, with fair and beautiful skin, slender wicker, graceful waist and many suitors, but she is 29 years old and not married.

Lili had an unforgettable and vigorous love before. The man's appearance, education, work and family all meet Lili's criteria for mate selection. Both sides met their parents, and Lili's mother was very satisfied, but the man's parents, especially the man's mother, resolutely opposed it.

One of the reasons is that Lili's parents are divorced, and divorce is hereditary.

Isn't this ridiculous? Lily thinks this view of the man's parents is ridiculous.

The second reason is that children who grow up in single-parent families have psychological problems and personality defects, and it is easy to walk into a dead end, go to extremes and get along in the future.

The third reason is the single-parent family, where there are many contradictions and complicated relationships between parents and other families.

For various reasons and concerns, the man's parents resolutely oppose the son's falling in love with Lili.

At first, the boys didn't listen at all. They were in love. But after more than half a year, the boys gradually calmed down, especially when there was a little contradiction, and the boys felt more and more that Lili was gentle in appearance and cold and sensitive in heart. More and more can't stand Lily's unreasonable suspicion and savage wayward side; I am more and more worried about my parents.

The boy offered to calm down for a while.

Lili felt ashamed and blacked out all the contact information with boys directly.

Although the boy later asked her to get back together and told her that her parents had softened their attitude and planned to accept her.

But this time it's Lily's turn to worry. The shadow of a single-parent family haunted her mind. She is afraid of the label of a single-parent family and feels inferior to the man. She is afraid that her marriage will give up halfway like her parents.

She said she didn't want to get married.

Parents' divorce will have a certain impact on their children. As the saying goes, like father, like son, parents are role models for children. A good family can also run a good family after a child grows up. So, what is the impact of parents' divorce on children?

1: The influence of children's marriage.

When children grow up, talking about marriage and meeting their parents will involve the relationship between their biological parents. When you know that your parents are divorced, you will have some concerns, because you are afraid that you will follow your parents' old path (divorce) in the future, so this is very realistic. In fact, there are so many such examples in real life that people have to guard against them.

2. Children's occupational influence

Children's work has nothing to do with parents' divorce, but some large companies, large enterprises, high-level or leadership levels will involve family background factors when promoting talents. This time is unfair to children whose parents are divorced, but it is not necessarily a condition. At least when others want to crowd you out, it is the biggest factor. Unless, of course, you have a strong backer.

3. Parents divorced, children were hurt physically and mentally, and an invisible "hatred" sprouted in their hearts, which affected their confusion about the future and their life goals. It is not invisible, but it is difficult to understand and change this fact.

Therefore, for divorced couples, we should think carefully, think twice before acting, and don't be impulsive, which will affect the future of children's lives!

It will definitely be affected. Seeing that children with divorced parents are viewed in different ways, children with divorced parents are first labeled by people in the crowd. These children will not be excellent and happy in the future?

It's really sad Many people choose partners, and parents first ask not to find children from single-parent families. So, single parents don't deserve happiness?

It is undeniable that living in a family where parents love each other and receiving a good education, these children are destined to have a smooth life and career in the future.

But the real problem lies in parents' education and care for their children. Some parents, who are not divorced, have long been indifferent to their feelings and seriously lack education for their children. Some parents quarrel for a long time; Some parents leave their children to the elderly for a long time.

Some families, whether divorced or not, are similar to single-parent families. I have a family around me. My mother goes out to play mahjong every day, and my father drinks and plays outside after work every day. The children at home are all brought by grandparents, and they are satisfied with whatever they want. No one cares what the children do, what they think and what they really need. Later, the children went to the Internet cafe and went out to fight. ...

In another divorced family, the father works hard outside every day, no matter how busy he is, he tries to pick up the children on time every day, cook for them, read books and tell stories with them; Go swimming with the children ... His son was later admitted to a key high school, and now he is studying at Wuhan University. The sun is handsome and everyone loves him!

Many children with problems have problems not because of their parents' divorce, but because of the lack of parents' love and effective education.

Every child, no matter what kind of family, should be respected and cared for by this society! Even divorced parents should not lack the correct parenting and love for their children!

Children, don't blame their parents for the defects in their growing environment, and give up learning and pursuit. A person's ultimate achievement lies in his own efforts. Throughout the ages, there are many children from single-parent families who are equally excellent!

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It will definitely have an impact! It just affects the size. If parents divorce at a very young age, then whether the child lives with his father or his mother, it will inevitably bring physical and mental harm! ! ! If a child divorces as an adult, as the subject asks, marriage will definitely affect the doubts of the other parents and relatives, fearing that the emotional handling of the previous generation will affect the next generation! ! ! ! ! !

The answer to this question is yes.

Let's talk about the influence on starting a family first. Most people ask about their children's family when they are looking for a partner. If the other parents divorce, there will be more twists and turns in this marriage, some will eventually turn into positive results, and some will become strangers.

Why do people have opinions about people whose parents are divorced? Because some people think that children whose parents are divorced may be psychologically unhealthy, or will they follow their parents' footsteps and treat marriage casually?

There are also divorced parents with complicated family relationships, and their children will face very complicated situations. Speaking of which, I think of our woman. After marriage, the man's parents divorced, the man's father derailed and divorced his original match, and he married San Xiao. The man's mother is still single.

This woman didn't think so much before she got married. After her marriage, her mother-in-law is good at saving face every day. But after this woman gave birth to a baby, her mother-in-law always took her father-in-law to her mother's house for dinner every holiday, leaving her alone with her husband.

This woman is full of resentment and can't help it. This father-in-law listens to his stepmother. What can you do?

So this woman told everyone that it is too difficult to find a partner and never divorce her parents.

But in life, we must look at the problem in two. Many children from divorced families are also happy after marriage, because their parents' divorce has hurt them, so they cherish their families more, are more tolerant of their lovers and have a happier marriage. 2. Let me talk about the impact on your career. When parents are divorced, they may start a new family. Love for children will also be given to later children, and support for children will be relatively less, so that children's careers will also be affected to some extent.

But everything is not absolute, Musk who launched the rocket privately some time ago. His parents divorced, but his achievements attracted worldwide attention. He founded spacex, the CEO of Tesla Motors, and was called Iron Man in Silicon Valley.

He comes from a divorced family, and his mother is cheerful, lively and motivated. I guess this is a factor in his success.

Having said so much, it is estimated that everyone has no patience to finish reading it. To sum up, parents' divorce affects their children's marriage and career, but the positive or negative influence depends on parents' guidance to their children. Therefore, I hope that parents of divorced families will not affect their children's world outlook and outlook on life because they and their spouses can't live any longer. I think this will definitely be affected, just depending on the extent of the impact.

Parents' divorce generally has a great influence on children. Of course, the degree of influence also depends on the child's gender, age, parents' education level, children's cognition and world outlook, children's family environment and the degree of proper arrangements for their children after divorce.

Many children whose parents are divorced have some distrust or fear of marriage when they get married. Compared with children from non-divorced families, they are more anxious about marital conflicts and more eager for a happy marriage, because their parents are unhappy in marriage. Fear of marriage is also due to parents' unfortunate marriage and fear of stepping into their parents' old path.

Children whose parents are divorced are relatively unsuccessful in starting a business. Many children from divorced families either become withdrawn, introverted and closed, or become extremely insecure and rebellious. These personality characteristics seriously hinder children's professional development.

Parents divorced, children are right. Arrange children properly and minimize the impact on children in a harmonious way.

What if there is no one? Not comprehensive, but it still varies from person to person. There are countless divorced parents and missing parents in society, but it is normal for people to get married, continue to get married and start a career. People can never get married in their parents' family, and one day they will leave their mother's nest and fly away like birds.

However, it is unrealistic to say that parents' divorce has no effect on children. Children in single-parent families generally leave a shadow that affects their lives. For example, children who live with their mothers will have congenital Oedipus complex, while children who grow up with their fathers will undoubtedly have Oedipus complex, because what is missing will seek to make up for it in later life, which will lead to the lack of children's personality.

Therefore, I would like to take this opportunity to advise couples preparing for divorce to think more about their children and not to make emotional mistakes because of impulse. Only children suffer the most, but for our children, we must overcome or solve the contradictions and problems in marriage. Only by alleviating the problems and contradictions in marriage can life continue.

0 1, then will parents' divorce affect their children's marriage and career? It will definitely affect the personality of children from single-parent families, and they are easy to be withdrawn and indifferent, lacking enthusiasm and cheerful. If children grow up with their mothers, their personalities will tend to be maternal. If children grow up with their fathers, they will have more masculine characters. This influence will be found in the marriage and spouse selection of a group of vulnerable groups, and their marriage will often be particularly respected because of the single-parent family background.

In the later stage of dealing with people, we can also show the influence of single parent background on them. These children don't like making friends, communicating with others and peace. Inferiority made them lose confidence. When choosing relatives and spouses, such a group of people is definitely not the first choice.

02. Children in a happy marriage are precious, but children in divorced families are burdensome. This kind of triviality will not only cause trouble to adults, but also the most affected children. If divorced parents with children choose to remarry, the children among them will face immeasurable influence, and neither stepmother nor stepfather will treat their children like biological parents.

The writer himself was born in a single-parent family and later remarried to another man with his mother. After marriage, my brother and sister suffered a lot, especially when we got married, we couldn't get any help at all, especially when we got married, because there was no financial support from our family, which completely affected the development of my life.

This article goes back to the previous topic. If it will inevitably affect the children's family and career, as long as they can overcome their inferiority complex, their isolated personality and correct their shortcomings, things will get better.

03. A child with comprehensive physical and mental health cannot lack the love of his parents. The smooth growth of children needs the dual care and education of parents, which not only ensures the health of children, but also is important for their early education. If he is a single mother or father, he will not have the energy to take care of and educate his children.

An example around us proves this theoretical basis. In the neighborhood where we live, a single father lives with a child of 12 years old. Because the father is busy with work and making a living every day, he has to give up the strict control over his children, not to mention the early family education, which leads to the children's study getting worse every day, not only learning to smoke and drink, but also playing truant and stealing things. And fighting is a common occurrence.

Can such a child grow into a talent? Who will pay for the children who can't become talents? Whether it is theoretical basis or practical examples, it is enough to show that the influence of single-parent families on children is enormous, and this influence will cause lifelong destructive power to children that can never be repaired.

To sum up:

We can see from various media that many families openly hurt their children because of their stepmother or stepfather. These shocking injuries are heartbreaking and heartbreaking. In this way, I am asking you, since you have chosen to get married and have children, you should create a suitable living space and environment for your children, but why should you divorce if you have children? Ask yourself, is it guilty? Let's avoid divorce for the sake of our children! Although continuing marriage may be unhappy, remarriage after divorce will definitely be unhappy, because having a child of your own will always be in your heart!

Do you agree with me? Welcome your messages, comments and concerns, thank you for your support!

It depends, there are good and bad, and it can't be said that they are all good and bad.

I have a friend whose life is a mess. Her husband is a person who is incompetent, does not like to do things, has a low education, does not like to study, and has a strong desire for control.

If you just don't have the ability, you can work hard, and it's ok.

There are many people with low academic qualifications, but there are also many people who are eager to learn and make progress. This is not a problem.

But he said culture was useless. People without education are all smart people. Educated people not only spend a lot of money on reading, but also are fools and nerds.

You can't make money. You'd better listen to him He won't reason with you.

From time to time, it's unreasonable. As long as he doesn't like anything, you can't think of it.

You said that such a person can do everything, but he is in charge of everything, quarreling everywhere and being emotional with others.

His father has been dead for more than 20 years, and only his mother is still alive. If you don't agree with a word, you will scold, even call names and hit people. A younger brother, too, hardly speaks.

He has only one son, and he is not allowed to study until he enters junior high school. He usually doesn't care about anything.

My son likes to learn to draw, but he is not determined to do it. I don't care if my child is ill. There is only one sentence: I am not a doctor.

If a child's clothes don't please him, he can't wear them any more. If he sees them, he will be scolded again, regardless of time and place.

Worse for my wife. Everything at home belongs to my friend. She also said that your mother's family values you so much, so let him go.

Friends go to work when they go to work, and they always start work. It's best if his wife doesn't go to work, and he will make money and send him flowers to enjoy.

Some time ago, my son talked about the object. Because of dissatisfaction, it was stopped, and even the son was driven out.

In recent years, he has done nothing by himself and won't let my friend go to work. He is suspicious all day.

He thinks he is clever because his wife has put him down. He didn't get rich, and he was whimsical every day.

Last year, my son advised his mother to divorce his father. My friend said he hoped he could change. The son said that unless the sun rises in the west, his son is most worried about when his mother will be beaten by his father again.

Some time ago, my son's girlfriend broke up. In fact, they have a good relationship, which is his father's problem.

My son said that if my mother listened to me, it would be easier for me to find friends and not break up.

In fact, such a marriage is not so beautiful, and single-parent families are not so bad. There is such a person fanning the flames there.

Family life needs harmony, business and quantity to live a happy life.