Do you mind if I get this straight? I'm sorry, but I do mind.

Go shopping with friends I haven't seen for a long time on weekends, at H&; M saw a beautiful long skirt and took a fancy to it at first sight. I took it off and tried it on in the fitting room. Just got the clothes, and the familiar girl who came with her friends said, I'm a straight shooter, so don't mind.

My heart suddenly thumped, feeling high energy ahead, and something would happen to upset me.

Before I knew it, that fellow came to the next sentence: this skirt is suitable for tall and thin girls. You are too short and a little fat. I don't think it suits you. Don't try.

Can you imagine how many colors there were in the flame in my heart at that time? I just blew it up, took a look at her, quietly took the clothes into the fitting room and continued to try. After coming out, talk and laugh with friends. This girl won't answer anything.

My friend felt the embarrassment of the atmosphere and dragged me to the toilet sink at lunch, apologizing to me and saying that she was just like that, talking straight and unable to turn a corner. Never mind, in fact, she is still very nice, much better than those who have turned several corners.

I sneered and said, I'm sorry, I don't know her well. I mind very much. What should I do if I just listen?

We have known the story of Wei Zhi and Li Shimin since childhood. It always tells us that the most needed advice is least taken seriously. In this way, many people's minds will solidify into these words that are good for you, which may be more straightforward and make you uncomfortable. It makes you have a setting in your mind that what is good for you is generally not good.

So if I push it backwards and it sounds good, will it be bad for you?

Of course not. There have been so many people praising me in recent years that it is difficult to kill me. I don't have the life of an ancient woman. People just sincerely praise my small advantages.

When I was a child, I took medicine for a cold, and I especially liked sugar-coated tablets. For licorice tablets that die in my mouth, I stay away from them when I see them from a distance. So is there a difference in the efficacy between sugar-coated and non-sugar-coated drugs? No, it's sweeter. I will take the initiative to eat, and I will be fine soon.

When I was at school, I basically stayed up all night the day before the start of my summer homework, because I was crazy during the holidays and didn't write. My aunt is right beside me, watching me write, and then she hurts me to let you play. This is comfortable, isn't it? I just asked you to write on my holiday, but I just wouldn't listen. Hearing this, I almost want to throw a pen and fight with her.

My mother is on the side, don't worry, write bit by bit, don't make a mistake. Remember next time, you won't be in such a hurry if you write a little every day during the holiday.

The same meaning, my mother's words made me feel at ease, so I wrote it down well.

The most hurtful thing is the people around you, and the most shameful thing is to spread your weaknesses in the spotlight.

When I first started work, there was a girl in the project team. Perhaps because of her higher education, she always felt that she had given in to the small company in her hometown. She speaks with a sense of superiority. When she sees anything that is not pleasing to the eye and feels unfair, she will call a spade a spade and be caught off guard.

Once a relative of the vice president of the company came to work, but the little girl was assigned to take care of it. As soon as the personnel manager left, he said to the little girl directly in front of everyone: I speak frankly, so don't mind. I won't give you preferential treatment just because you are a relative of Mr. Li (vice president). No one will give special treatment.

The little girl was wronged on the spot and wanted to cry, but she could always bear it. How can you give this back? If you say no, everyone will do as I do, as if the little girl wants preferential treatment. When you ask her what this means, it's really like bullying someone as a vice-president relative.

In a word, people are dead. It's pathetic that such a handsome little girl is faced with such an embarrassing scene when she comes for the first time.

After returning home, I chatted with my aunt. She said: This girl with high academic qualifications won't go far in this company.

I asked, why?

Aunt A: Haven't you ever heard that a person's height is determined by the degree to which her speech makes others comfortable?

As the old saying goes, everyone laughs when they meet, and naturally takes pictures when they meet. Even if she is dissatisfied with the little girl, why should she be strict in public? This is just a lie. Such people are either too straightforward or stupid. Others see too much, and everyone knows that she is a vegetarian and ugly, regardless of occasions. Who dares to walk in with her? I'll give you a word when I don't like you, and embarrass you on the spot. Slowly, she will be isolated, so unpopular people can expect to stay in this company for a long time.

I went to a friend's house this Spring Festival and accidentally broke a ceramic rabbit, which is her daughter's new favorite. I apologized to the little baby in fear and kept saying that I would buy her a more beautiful one next time. I thought she would cry, and she was ready for an awkward silence. As a result, she said it didn't matter, and her aunt wasn't careful. She has another rabbit.

My friend dragged me to dinner and said it was no big deal. There are many children's toys. When I was leaving after dinner, I accidentally saw the fragments of this little rabbit, which was carefully put into a small basket by the baby. Obviously, it is not going to walk like garbage.

I feel very warm in an instant. I bought a similar rabbit after I went home and posted it online.

Whether you are a stranger, an acquaintance or a friend, you should actually pay attention to the occasion when you speak. What communication expects most is nothing more than solving problems, bringing new ideas and conveying happiness. In short, you all want each other to give you positive energy.

And when you ignore each other's situation and cast a cold eye or poke people's hearts, don't expect to receive any good feedback, even if you think it's for his own good.

Take the simplest example: if you encounter a little situation at work, the boss will guide you, and you will listen carefully and learn from experience. If colleagues come to talk about your mistakes, I suggest you, except those who are big-hearted, most of them will think in their hearts, or just say: Who are you, why do you say me!

Mencius has a cloud, and there is no sign of faith. The same applies to talking with people. When one person makes comments or suggestions to another person, you should first consider whether you have the ability to support your qualification to say these words. Otherwise, these words will be straight and uncomfortable.

As the old saying goes, don't just be a giant in words and a dwarf in action. I talked a lot about it. If no one still trusts you, will it be more sad?

If you want others to accept and listen to your suggestions, you must be confident and strong first, and then you are qualified to persuade others. We always, always judge a person from his external performance first.

For example, when you are in love, your boyfriend has no strength, but because you have contacted him and know his efforts, you will judge him as a potential stock. And your parents, just met, must judge this person by his salary, whether he has real estate or not.

When people say that others are too snobbish, they are actually doing the same thing themselves. Stars carrying canvas bags, a large number of people will say that it must be a niche low-key brand. An ordinary person with a monthly salary of less than 3000 yuan will carry a Hermes one day. It is estimated that colleagues directly judge that it is a high imitation fake without even asking.

You see, if you can't trust people unconditionally, then why do you have to make them accept your words hard and hard when you don't have much in-depth contact with them or are unfamiliar with them?

Your words are too heavy, but you are still very light in others' hearts. This will hurt people.

It seems that moral kidnapping and moral repression are popular now. In many TV dramas, it often happens that someone, for whatever reason, first says, please forgive me, or I won't kneel up. It's really embarrassing. If you don't agree, it feels like bullying others and being unkind. We agreed. Who knows what will happen later?

Such people are not straightforward, but selfish. You don't even bother to speak politely for me. Why should I hold back because of your so-called uncomfortable reality?

At work, I often meet some so-called people who flaunt their frankness, but I find that most of them are frank with their subordinates or colleagues. As for getting along with friends, it is not clear.

However, when people treat their bosses, they don't see any straightforward language. They are all cautious, respectful and polite. Such people, they are straight men, have a choice. Those who are not very important in their hearts or will offend are the so-called people who submit to humiliation and be outspoken.

At the end of the internship, I sent a small gift to the internship director who took me at that time, thanking him for his concern and guidance during my internship. As a result, at the final farewell dinner, the director mentioned my little gift and said that he was very moved and wanted to propose a toast to me. I quickly stood up. At this time, I heard a girl who was also an intern whisper, Oh, people just came to see me, but I can't. I can't do it. I can't help it I don't know the world, and I won't make false scenes.

I was so angry that I almost quarreled with her. I thought it was a party, so I held back.

After breaking up, I told my friend about it. She said, this is called tact. I don't know how to be grateful, but I have to say that others are very polite and euphemistic. No one forced her to give gifts. Just because she didn't do it herself doesn't mean someone else did it.

Many people like to label themselves as fresh and not kitsch, and equate frankness with sincerity. This is all wet. The premise of sincerity is to really think of others. If you think of others, you will try your best to make them comfortable and avoid embarrassing them. Being straightforward doesn't mean being rude and uneducated. This concept of stealing is really terrible.

Since birth, people have been learning and speaking, from a simple note to a long speech. There is no such thing as "I am like this", but you are unwilling to change.

What you want is your business, and no one forces you to change it. But if you don't want to change and let others be like you, it's wrong to be different, it's kitsch and it's your fault.

Everyone has to bear the consequences for their actions, so don't let me bear your frankness, it's your own emotion, not mine. A straight heart does not necessarily mean a quick mouth. Please filter the damage before exiting.

If someone tells me that I am too outspoken, don't mind, I will say, I'm sorry, I mind.