My relatives always tell me big stories. I'm bored to death! I'm not a child anymore, and I don't want to hear it! ! !

Sometimes it is for your own good for your family to reason with you. My family has been educating me. It's all like this. Maybe that's how they taught you. It will be useful when you grow up. When they leave, you will know that you regret it. Then it's too late. Even if you are bored, I know you are not a child, but you don't want to hear it. Maybe you won't hear it in the future.

For a long time, "nagging parents" has been the main reason for the contradiction between parents and children. Liu Zhigang, an expert in the psychological center of Guangzhou Apple Tree, thinks that parents' nagging is not the same in essence, but it is best to use it sparingly in any form. Parent-child experts summarize "nagging" into four situations:

Concern: The original intention of parents' "nagging" is out of concern for their children. For example, "Don't eat while watching TV; Don't stay in school after school, come back early "and so on. In fact, such parents regard their children as little ones who will never grow up. I am not at ease with my children and dare not let them do things independently.

The result of nagging: children are dependent-I was reminded anyway. Therefore, they may become lazy, sloppy and irresponsible. Once they leave their parents, it is difficult for children to take care of their own lives independently. Experts remind parents, is it that children really can't do anything, or don't want children to "know" and let them never leave themselves?

Condescending: Some children are lively, naughty and playful, and in the eyes of their parents, they are "disobedient, unconscious and unruly". Parents believe that such a child must be urged by someone, just like a ball, it will move only after kicking. For example, "It's time to do your homework!" "It's time to sleep, it's time to sleep!" Wait a minute. However, the way of discipline adopted by such parents is too simple and rude, and it is difficult to solve the problem in essence, which will only make children hate themselves more and more.

The result of nagging: urging too much, even if children listen to their parents, they will have conflicts or antipathy to their parents and alienate their parent-child relationship. "With such negative emotions for a long time, it is not easy for children to develop a cheerful personality, a broad mind and a positive attitude towards life."

Habitual: Some parents' criticism of their children is simply "nonsense" and "colorful". For example, "if you lie in bed every day, what can you do in the future!" " "As long as you love watching TV, you can only sit at home in the future." Wait a minute. Generally speaking, this kind of "nagging" is related to personal character. It seems that such parents will be uncomfortable and unaccustomed if they don't nag for a day. Criticizing children is actually more of a kind of soliloquy. They have never thought about the result of this way of communicating with children.

The result of nagging: when children are still young and ignorant, being criticized by their parents for a long time can easily lead to psychological problems such as self-confidence and inferiority. When a child has his own judgment when he is mature, he will feel disgusted with such parents, thus alienating the parent-child distance.

Ventilation: Some parents are under pressure at work or unhappy in life, and it is easy to become nagging parents. In fact, this is an unconscious transfer of one's bad emotions. For example, "Why do you still go out to play? Stop arguing! Go and do your homework! " Wait, what children are usually asked to do suddenly becomes their fault. This will make it very difficult for children to adapt and be at a loss. Experts believe that parents' self-control is very important at this time. "The tension of interpersonal relationships in daily life, the disharmony of families and the high expectations of children will all affect parents' emotions, and parents' emotions will directly affect children."

The result of nagging: children become parents' punching bags. Parents simply can't understand their children's mood and don't consider their psychological endurance. Only children get hurt. When the husband is in such an emotional state for a long time, the child may also be "infected" and have a wayward mood.

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