What kind of experience is it to change from a friend to a lover?

Many people are afraid to turn their friends into lovers because they are afraid that a hard-working relationship will face great changes no matter whether the answer is yes or no after the words "Let's be together" are said.

Yes, friendship is like a thick soup. Once mixed with impurities, it will deteriorate and the direction will be irreversible. Before adding impurities, we can still taste the sweetness, so why do you say this at the risk of destroying food?

People are always lazy and cowardly.

But there is a saying:

"They never thought that in fact, some love itself is misplaced, just giving you the right person in the name of friendship."

So there was such a group of brave people who turned their friends into lovers without hesitation and tasted food completely different from thick soup.

From friends to lovers, nothing seems to have changed. Calling the other person out and pushing the road is still a phone call. When encountering setbacks, I will still ask ta for help. When you are sad, you will still think of ta first. The loss is still the same, whether to refuse or refuse.

But everything seems to have changed. Ta, there is a little naked love in your eyes. Your tone of asking ta for help is a little more confident. When I lost my temper, I was less embarrassed and more full of "How can I make up with ta?"

Crystal talked about her views on friendship and love in the first interview. She thought:

"Friendship is a kind of friendship that you have established since childhood, or a friendship that you have established when you grow up. This friendship has boundaries, just like the distance between you and me now, there is a distance between us. But love is different. Can touch, can't have a distance. "

Yes, love can touch and even overlap. You will invade each other's life territory, and you will see a side you have never seen before, even your closest friends. You will get closer and closer and touch each other bit by bit.

Of course, the most important thing is to touch the body.

The most essential difference between lovers and friends is long-term and stable intimate physical contact.

When you are friends, you think her red face full of collagen is cute, but you don't know that it is like your favorite cotton candy playing QQ.

You think the blue veins on the inside of his arm are sexy, but you don't know how rough and practical it is to hold.

Familiar face, strange body, explore this person who once thought you knew everything. The body is stimulated by the outside world to stimulate hormone secretion, which makes people fall into a state of tension and extreme excitement. Obviously, the most familiar face is the latest strangeness.

I have a friend with me. After being lovers with his best friend for three years, he didn't dare to move all night when he slept in the same bed for the first time. He is also surprised when he is nervous. People who have been arguing for three years sleep next door and snore? Physical and psychological freshness kept him awake all night.

However, it is undeniable that as friends for many years, time has allowed you to get to know each other, which means that other places will be too familiar except for the freshness brought by physical contact and relationship changes, which will easily make love life lose its freshness.

Therefore, the development from friends to lovers' love needs careful management. After all, it's the risk of ruining a relationship.

It is not difficult to change from a friend to a lover, and it is difficult to change from a lover to a friend.

From the circle of friends alone, there must be a great intersection in the circle of friends of lovers who have developed from friends. Perhaps you are the best person in the circle.

When you break up with your lover, in order to avoid embarrassment or various reasons, you can't even appear in the same circle, which will make your friends very stumped. I know a group of friends who want to avoid the embarrassment of a couple who have broken up in the circle, but they don't want to lose contact with either of them. They specially set up two groups and wander between them whenever something important happens. I think it's really a group of hard friends.

Another problem that will arise is that it is precisely because lovers developed from friends are so familiar with each other that sometimes one of them can't help but wonder what is keeping this relationship, whether it is because of habit or love.

So lovers who develop from friends have no other benefits besides the freshness brought by the change of relationship? The answer is no.

You can be friends, which means you can get along well. You first got close to each other because of the attraction of souls. If you think the other person is boring, or has a personality that you can't accept, you won't get closer to him or even want to go further.

This kind of soul attraction, which has nothing to do with appearance, sex and material conditions, will be the escort ship on your love road. Soul attraction will make you occupy a very special position in the other person's heart, and once this position is stable, most people who can only attract each other by "appearance" and "sex" will lose their fighting power in front of you.

There is also a love escort boat. It's time.

From friends to lovers, don't know each other for too long. From friends to lovers, you have accompanied each other through many important stages of life, such as college entrance examination, graduation, job hunting, first salary, resignation, promotion and even pregnancy.

Each stage has extraordinary significance, and you, as a participant or a bystander, have always appeared in each other's whole lives, witnessing each other's growth and changes. You are a precious gift accumulated through time washing and are irreplaceable.

Lovers who develop from friends don't have to ponder and test when they get along. Because from the beginning of being friends, you don't need to pretend that you are very powerful, and you don't need to deliberately hide your vulnerability and unbearable. Like all close friends, friends can talk about everything together and reveal their true side to each other.

And when they become lovers, they naturally don't have to worry and hide, because they found the most comfortable way to get along from the beginning, comfortable and happy.

"When friendship sublimates into love, falling in love with your best friend may be the most ideal and beautiful state."

If you happen to fall in love with your best friends, and they are sincere enough and lucky enough, please cherish them.

In addition, I wish those friends who still like each other to be brave.

I want you to-

"From being in love for a long time to having each other"

Illustration/When Harry meets Sally