Shortly after marriage, my mother-in-law asked me to pay: "I have financial experience." Should I obey and pay it?

Some people think that money should be kept by the wife after marriage. Because women are more cautious about money, giving family funds to women for safekeeping can open up sources and reduce expenditure, which is good for future marriage life.

But some people think that the money after marriage should be kept by men, because men are naturally more rational and sensitive to money. Men know more about financial management and things like that, and men also invest. Investing the family's money in some profitable projects will have higher returns. It also ensures the quality of life in the future.

Others think that after marriage, money should be managed by AA system, so that husband and wife will not quarrel over money and will not worry about who will take care of it.

The answer to this question can be said to be different opinions, and no one can convince anyone. But the ultimate goal is the same, that is, a happy marriage.

In fact, I think, as long as the marriage can be happy, who can manage the money. Give the money to whoever is suitable to take care of it. There is no need to argue about such a thing.

After the husband and wife get married, the money should be given to one of them for safekeeping. I believe everyone agrees with this practice. But the most important thing in this world is others. Some couples give money to others after they get married. This is also one of the operations that people cannot understand.

Reader Amei contributed to me and told me something that happened to her. And asked me how to solve it. In my opinion, although this matter has some dog blood, it is not painful to solve. Write it today for everyone to see and think about what to do if this happens to them.

Amei is 26 years old and has just been married for less than a year. Before finding her own way to get married, A-mei had already encountered a difficult problem: the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.

Ah Mui and her husband Zhang Hao were introduced by friends. At that time, Ah Mui thought Zhang Hao was honest and serious, so she agreed to stay with him.

Two people have been in love for about a year, and feel that they are both very good and suitable for getting married together, so they put marriage on the agenda.

It was also when preparing for marriage-related matters that A-mei discovered that marriage was not as simple as she imagined. Many times, marriage has nothing to do with sensibility, but a naked reality.

As far as I know, many couples want to enter the marriage hall only after experiencing emotional running-in. It was also at this time that they really first came into contact with marriage. It has nothing to do with love, and it is not as touching as vows of eternal love. Instead, it is the most bitter thing in real life.

Why do many couples break up while preparing for marriage? Because the process of preparing for marriage is more like a negotiation, if one thing is not well negotiated, it may cause contradictions. So I think that the process of preparing for marriage is the first lesson that marriage teaches every couple.

However, Ah Mui and Zhang Hao also have many differences in wedding planning.

The first is the bride price. The custom of Zhang Hao's hometown is about 50,000, and that of Ah Mui's hometown is about100,000. The two families are deadlocked over the issue of bride price. On the one hand, they feel that the bride price is less than their own family's face, on the other hand, they feel that the bride price is more than enough, which makes people laugh.

Contradictions thus arise. Finally, after consultation, the two families agreed that the bride price100,000 and the dowry100,000. All this money belongs to ah mui. Only in this way can we solve this problem.

There are many other frictions and differences. At that stage, Ah Mui and Zhang Hao quarreled more often than when they were in love. The two lost confidence several times, but they were finally saved in time until the wedding day.

After this stage of running-in, the two finally face up to marriage. They also know that marriage is not as beautiful as imagined, but there will be contradictions and frictions that do not exist in love. This also made two people start to be cautious. On the whole, this is a good thing.

However, this contradiction is nothing compared with the contradiction that married life will face. Married for too long, almost across most people's lives. Imagine, in the long years, will you guarantee that you and your partner will always live in peace?

No one can guarantee, because everyone who has experienced marriage knows that husband and wife should run in with each other, understand each other and support each other until they are old. This is the true meaning of marriage and the only way to a happy marriage.

After Ah Mui and Zhang Hao got married, their relationship was not bad, and their married life was also very interesting. Almost made them forget that there are still some contradictions in marriage.

The arrival of her mother-in-law also made A-mei awake, because the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law has always been one of the biggest factors affecting marriage.

The mother-in-law said that the two were still young and didn't know how to live. She came to show the way. Help them learn to live.

Ah Mui can't deny it, but she doesn't object either. But the arrival of her mother-in-law seems to be aimed at her.

After her mother-in-law moved in, she often taught Ah Mei "experience": after marriage, a woman should take care of her family, her husband, her children and her in-laws. This is what a good woman should do.

So all the housework at home, such as washing clothes, cooking, sweeping the floor and so on. Are required to be done by a-mei. Zhang Hao wanted to help, but was stopped by her mother-in-law, saying that such a thing is not what you men should do.

Ah Mui worked for a period of time and often complained to Zhang Hao. Zhang Hao had to comfort her, but to no avail.

What's more, my mother-in-law said that you young people spend money lavishly and have no idea of saving at all. So she made a list and asked two people to keep the basic expenses of each month, and the rest of the money should be saved in a card and shown to her every month.

Amei used to like online shopping very much, and she did spend a lot of money. This rule of her mother-in-law made her feel very uncomfortable. So I didn't do what my mother-in-law said at all, and I still went my own way. Mother-in-law reprimanded her several times, which made A-mei very angry and her mother-in-law and daughter-in-law quarreled.

Unexpectedly, my mother-in-law is even more reluctant to give up. She insisted on holding a "family meeting". At the meeting, she said, "In order to let both of you know how to save money, I decided to give your salary to me for safekeeping in the future, especially Amei, who knows how to spend money indiscriminately on weekdays. You should give me your salary card and bride price dowry for safekeeping at once. Otherwise it will be spent in a few years! "

Ah mui disagrees. Seeing her mother-in-law's aggressive appearance, she was even more angry. She said angrily, "That's very generous of you. Why should I give you money? "

Unexpectedly, my mother-in-law glared and said, "I have financial experience. I used to keep all my money at home. Now you two should be the same. Cut the crap and shout it out. "

Ah mui is even more angry. What I experienced was actually forcing me to pay, so she said rudely, "Stop dreaming. This is my home, not yours. You have to take care of my money. I don't know what this means. "

Mother-in-law and daughter-in-law had a big fight, and finally Ah Mui drove her mother-in-law back in a rage.

After Ah Mui told me this story, I only told her to do three things well: First, communicate with her husband Zhang Hao actively, so that the couple can clear up the misunderstanding and untie the knot. Second, let Zhang Hao communicate with her mother and ask her not to interfere in her marriage at will. Third, even if you are angry with your mother-in-law, try to get along well. Even if you can't be as close as mother and daughter, be reasonable.

These three things should be done step by step and should not be rushed. In fact, many women can learn to do these three things well, which I believe will help your marriage.