How to cultivate children's good personality characteristics?

To develop good personality characteristics, we need to start from the following aspects:

First, cultivate personality charm.

In today's society, the basic point of being a man is to have personality charm. What is personality charm? First of all, we must figure out what personality is. Personality refers to the sum of personality, temperament, ability and other characteristics, as well as personal moral quality and human qualifications as the subject of power and obligation. Personality charm refers to a person's attractive strength in personality, temperament, ability and moral quality. In today's society, a person can be welcomed and tolerated by others, and he actually has a certain personality.

The personality characteristics of personality charm are shown in the following aspects: first, when dealing with reality or social relations, they are sincere, warm, friendly, sympathetic to others and the collective, willing to help others and communicate, caring and actively participating in collective activities; Be strict with yourself, be enterprising, be enterprising and not arrogant, be modest and not feel inferior; Treat study, work and career with diligence and seriousness.

Second, intellectually, it is characterized by keen perception, rich imagination and strong logical thinking, especially innovative consciousness and creativity.

Thirdly, emotionally, I show that I am good at controlling and controlling my emotions, and I am optimistic, cheerful, inspirational and open-minded, and my emotions are stable and balanced. When I get along with people, I can bring people happy laughter and make people refreshed.

Fourth, in terms of will, it shows a series of positive qualities such as clear goals, self-awareness, self-control, courage and determination, perseverance and initiative.

People with these good personality characteristics are often popular, admired or can be called "popular" people in the group.

In life, there will always be many inequalities or injustices, but no matter in prosperity or adversity, no matter in the face of generals or soldiers, everyone is equal in personality. This is also precisely

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Fair.

In this sense; There is nothing humble in this world, only despicable; Not noble, but noble. However, some people always try their best to create a sense of superiority and inferiority, while others are just used to being resigned. As a result, the world has a tragedy of arrogance or inferiority. No one is hurt more than the soul; The biggest damage is spiritual damage; The biggest insult is an insult to personality. But personality can't be insulted if others want to.

Character is actually the evaluation and shaping of oneself. In Hawthorne's famous novel The Scarlet Letter, Hester. Although Prynne was put on the red "A" for adultery, because she did good things for others everywhere, it was also the same "A", but a few years later, it became a symbol of virtue and personality in people's minds. The strength of personality lies in Hester. Prynne is so tenacious, I wonder how those who always like to insult others' personality will feel when reading this. Yes, not all hostility must be responded with hostility.

Personality is gold. The brilliance of personality cannot be extinguished by any evil or snobbery. Of course, inferiority is not the degradation of personality, but self-esteem must be the improvement of personality. Self-esteem does not exclude inferiority. A person with strong self-esteem often has or once had a deep inferiority complex in his blood, but some people are good at turning this inferiority complex into the driving force of self-esteem. Inferiority is always compared with others in your heart. The more you compare, the smaller you feel, and the easier it is to lose yourself. Self-esteem is not. Self-esteem does not require you to be better than others. Self-esteem only wants you to do better than you think. Self-esteem is a great lever in a person's soul. "If you want to be poor, you will be as poor as tea, and there will be fragrance in bitterness." This is self-esteem. "Proud, proud as blue, hanging a face of autumn frost." This is self-esteem. Self-esteem is different from vanity. Self-esteem is responsible for yourself, and the pursuit is practical. Vanity is to make up for yourself, and the pursuit is flashy. Self-esteem and loftiness. If a person does not have some lofty ideals, it may be difficult for him to maintain his self-esteem all the time; But if a person is too lofty to look down on life, then he will either go to nothingness or become a false saint. Therefore, people should not be arrogant, but not arrogant.

Self-esteem is in the bones, but it is not in the bones. You can't pretend it. It is charm to gain others' respect with self-esteem; To respect others and gain their respect is to understand. It is foolish to beg others' respect. Respect others and respect yourself. Learning to respect others requires understanding and tolerance; Learn to respect yourself, and sometimes you need to tolerate loneliness and poverty. So "people are as pure as chrysanthemums." Therefore, "people will love themselves if they love themselves, and others will help themselves if they help themselves."

If self-esteem is the root, then self-esteem and self-love are its heavy fruits; If self-esteem, self-reproach and self-love are the cornerstones of shaping personality, then self-reliance and self-improvement are the steps of upward development of personality: society is constantly improving, but no matter how warm, friendly and considerate people are, the support point of the soul always lies in themselves! A person who is always tired of things, fame and interests, so that he loses his self-esteem either distorts his personality or betrays the whole personality. Sadly, some people clearly understand this, but they can't help the colorful temptation.

From this, I can't help but think of Mr. Tao Xingzhi's words: "Learn to be a man." Personality is always displayed at critical moments, but it is formed in ordinary daily life. A person can be ordinary, but he can't be mediocre. You can be a mortal, but you should learn from great men in your thinking. The reason is really simple, just like "the higher the pole, the higher the jump". A person only needs to have courage and self-confidence and raise the horizontal bar in front of him by one section every morning, then your personality promotion is inevitable.

Second, cultivate a sense of humor.

Humor is a quality. There is a difference between a person with a sense of humor and a person who tells jokes. If you want to be a humorous person, I recommend you to read the following article. thank you

How to cultivate a sense of humor

Humor is a special emotional expression. It is a tool for people to adapt to the environment and one of the ways to relieve mental and psychological pressure when people face difficulties. Russian writer Chekhov said: People who don't know how to joke are hopeless. It can be seen that everyone in life should learn humor. A little more sense of humor, less panic, less paranoia and extreme, less life-and-death

Understand the inner meaning of humor, point out the shortcomings or advantages of others quickly and tactfully, and affirm or deny them with a smile. Humor is not glib, nor is it sarcasm or satire. As a celebrity said, impetuous, pretentious, stubborn, lacking in resources, dull and clumsy, it is difficult to be humorous. Only when you are calm, treat others equally, be aloof, be smart and thorough can you be humorous.

Broaden knowledge, humor is a manifestation of wisdom, and it must be based on rich knowledge. Only when a person has the ability to assess the situation and extensive knowledge can he be rich in conversation and interested in Miao Yan, thus making an appropriate metaphor. Therefore, to cultivate a sense of humor, we should read widely, enrich ourselves, constantly collect humorous radio waves from voluminous books, and extract humorous gems from the essence of interesting stories of celebrities.

Cultivate sentiment, face reality optimistically, and humor is a manifestation of tolerance. To be considerate of others and learn humor, we must learn to be generous, overcome haggle over every ounce, and be optimistic at the same time. Optimism and humor are close friends. If there were more fun and relaxation, more smiles and games, more optimism and humor in life, there would be no insurmountable difficulties, and there would be no people who would be sad all day.

Cultivating profound insight, improving the ability to observe things and cultivating the ability of wit and agility is an important aspect of improving humor. Only by grasping the essence of things quickly and using appropriate metaphors and humorous language can people feel relaxed. Of course, at the same time of humor, we should also pay attention to the importance of not being careless, treat different problems differently, and be extremely flexible in dealing with them, so that humor can provide real nourishment for human spiritual life.