Is it advisable for parents to be too indifferent to their children? Why?

In today's society, many parents pay too much attention to their children's academic performance and not too much attention to their other aspects of development, which is the so-called "cold" education. With the development of society, this phenomenon is becoming more and more serious. So how did this problem come about? Are parents right to do this? But in fact, this "cold" education mode will endanger children's physical and mental health, so what are the ways to solve this problem? Bian Xiao will show you around.

What is "cold" education?

China Since ancient times, many parents have paid special attention to their children's education. In the feudal period, benevolence, righteousness, courtesy, wisdom and faith were indispensable to a man of insight. In today's society, with the rapid development of science and technology and humanities at the turn of the century, more and more parents pay more and more attention to the education of their children. They don't let their children do housework and push them into the study after dinner; They give their children the best educational resources, choose schools, and ask all kinds of famous teachers to give their children guidance. They really love children too much, forcing them to study in a "cold" way.

Education lies in all aspects. If parents and teachers pay too much attention to students' achievements and neglect their own growth, it is a kind of "indifferent" education for children. The word "cold" not only reflects the indifference and utilitarian vision of most parents and teachers, but also reflects the coldness that students feel inside. At that age, they couldn't get the happiness and care that teachers and parents deserved. Perhaps, in the eyes of parents, it is good for children not to be fastidious about food and clothing, to help them study, arrange work and prepare for marriage. However, what they don't know is how cruel it is for their children to be trapped in a small study at an age when they should be naive, and how cruel it is to stifle nature. Parents rank their children according to their Olympic scores. So that they lose their innocence, become selfish and mature prematurely, and have not yet understood everything.

The harm of parents' "indifference" education

There is a joke circulating on the internet: other people's children are the best in the world. Parents think that always praising their children like this can make them work hard, but they don't know that this will only make them frustrated and feel that nothing is like others. Once you feel depressed, the motivation to move forward will soon disappear. Parents' intentional or unintentional actions are too indifferent to fragile and immature children. They don't hurt children's bodies in the form of sticks and curses. With the demise of feudal society, the "filial son born under the stick" has long been a thing of the past. However, it is unhealthy for them to show off some awards at the expense of hurting their children's hearts through the comparison between parents. Parents' coercion makes children unable to resist, and the final effect is "there are policies on the top and countermeasures on the bottom". Although parents bought more and better reference books, children just ignored them.

solution

Caring for children's all-round physical and mental development

First of all, as parents, we should pay more attention to the all-round development of children's body and mind, rather than just paying attention to how good their academic performance is. The healthy development of children is a systematic project, including both physical development and psychological development. Only the all-round development of children's body and mind is the real scientific development. Knowledge is only one aspect of children's physical and mental development. Parents must not just emphasize their children's acquisition of knowledge at the expense of their children's healthy development in other aspects. Parents should leave enough space for their children to move freely, socialize and have fun. Let them have their own free time and life, and make some friends instead of hiding in a small room, which is also of great benefit to their future interpersonal communication. In addition, intellectual factors are important, but non-intellectual factors often have a greater impact on human development.

Parents need the right attitude.

Parents must have a correct attitude when educating their children. Learning is important, but not every child can achieve satisfactory results in learning. Parents should comprehensively consider practical factors such as children's intelligence and personality, and seek truth from facts. They should not blindly desire their children to achieve excellent academic performance and take the first place in everything. It is out of the question. No one is perfect. Parents should refer to themselves when asking their children and think about whether they have done their best. If not, what is the reason to ask your children to do so? Therefore, parents should also set a good example for their children. Of course, in addition to learning, parents should also teach their children the truth of being a man and the ability to do things, which is more important.

Teach children the correct learning methods.

On the one hand, parents should create a good learning environment and good learning atmosphere for their children; On the other hand, parents should understand that learning does not depend on simple unit time consumption, and a large amount of time investment alone sometimes backfires, which not only makes learning inefficient, but sometimes even leads to children's weariness of learning and strong resistance. Only by teaching children the correct learning methods can they learn effectively.

Generally speaking, it is very wrong for parents to educate their children coldly. The harm caused by parents blindly carrying out cold education for their children is obvious. If they don't realize their mistakes and don't change this practice, it will be terrible for children, which will not only effectively improve their academic performance, but also be detrimental to their physical and mental development. Therefore, parents must put a correct attitude and educate their children under the requirement of paying attention to their all-round development.