How to make yourself interesting

How to become an interesting person?

1. Have a strong curiosity

Having a strong curiosity is an important sign of an interesting person. Many interesting people are knowledgeable about astronomy and geography. This can be seen from the person's hobbies and personal preferences. But this curiosity does not mean curiosity about gossip or other people’s privacy. Let’s talk about several dimensions of hobbies.

1. Breadth

This dimension is the number of different types of things. Simply put, if a person is interested in all areas, we can say that he has broad interests. For example, a person is interested in movies, music, travel, painting, food, wine, digital technology, cars... Then we can say that this person has a wide range of interests.

Breadth is divided into two scales:

The first is interest in different fields: such as the above-mentioned interest in movies, music, travel, painting, food, wine, digital technology, I am interested in different fields such as automobiles.

The second is the interest in different types in the same neighborhood: for example, music, the breadth of interest in different types of rock, classical, pop, and ethnic.

An interesting person should be a person with a wide range of interests. If he does not have a wide range of interests in different fields, he has a wide range of interests in different types of things in the same neighborhood.

2. Detailedness

This dimension refers to the degree of detail in understanding things in a field and a type of thing. To understand the nature of this thing, the specific characteristics of each independent thing, and all the related knowledge.

For example, for wine, you need to know white wine and red wine, their origin, year, how to make, how to buy, how to transport, how to preserve, how to taste, what wine glass should be used, how to hold it, etc. .

This dimension requires more energy, finance and time to understand.

An interesting person is someone who spends a lot of resources to understand and experience something.

3. High level

This is the highest level that an individual can experience or even achieve in a certain interest (field).

Like photography, have you used (experienced) 50mm F1.8, F1.4, F1.2, F0.95 which level of lens you have experienced.

It’s like running. Have you participated in 5km, 8km, 10km, 15km, half marathon, or full marathon? See if you can participate to experience the highest level of your physical fitness.

An interesting person will definitely reach a level of satisfaction in a field that interests him. This can be a hobby or your profession.

2. Be creative and creative

Just having interest is not enough. If you only have interest and just imitate other people's creations, you cannot be called an interesting person. of.

Remember an interesting person and an idea (technique) will never be used on a person a second time. Even an idea will not be used a second time.

1. Original creation or re-creation of other people’s ideas

Original creation has the highest value. If you can create something yourself and surprise everyone, then it is considered a Interesting stuff.

However, using other people’s creativity to draw inferences or organic permutations can also be said to be creative. For example, if someone else made a Batman out of Lego toys, then you can make a Batman out of plasticine and make Batman out of food, or you can make a Batman out of dominoes, so this is considered creative.

An interesting person must have his own creations.

2. There are surprises

In the creative process, those who can bring surprises to the other party, creations that are beyond the other party’s expectations and that make people’s eyes shine can be called For interesting.

And this surprise cannot only happen once, but surprises occur from time to time. Only in this way can we continue to have a sense of freshness.

An interesting person will definitely bring constant surprises to others.

3. It is what others need

If your creativity is not what others need, or even scares others, then creativity will be counterproductive. Creativity cannot do evil.

If the other person needs romance, be creative with romance; if the other person needs delicious food, be creative with food; if the other person needs travel, be creative with travel. In short, creativity must meet the needs of others.

An interesting person, his creativity must make people feel beautiful.

3. Be able to speak well

Being able to speak well is also a skill that an interesting person must master. If you cannot accurately and interestingly describe your broad and specialized interests to others, then others will have no way of experiencing anything interesting.

A relative of mine once said that a photo app that I didn’t like was powerful and very interesting, which inspired me to finally study that app again. There are also many travel stories from friends, which are very touching and interesting, making people eager to travel. And because I don’t have strong control over language, when I describe my interests, hobbies and past experiences, others find it boring, so I have a very deep understanding of this.

1. Be able to express your interests and hobbies well

“I like painting”

“Why do you like painting”

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“I don’t know, I just like it anyway”

I believe you all have an impression of the above conversation. It can be established by replacing painting with other hobbies. You will have many interests and hobbies. But you can't describe what your hobbies are. When someone wants to chat with you about your hobbies or find a topic, and you reply like this, it will make people feel very perfunctory, and maybe they will be left alone.

An interesting person can definitely describe his rich hobbies and things he likes to others, so that the other person can also realize that this thing is interesting. It can even inspire others and get others interested in your hobbies.

2. Be able to explain professional things clearly in non-professional language

If it is something professional, can you also explain it to others in a popular science way? Woolen cloth?

Some popular astronomy science and education films are very good, with no formulas or words. Just use pictures, videos and analogies to make a very profound and complicated thing clear.

3. Being able to talk about things in an interesting way

This is also a very skillful ability. To put it simply, he can tell stories.

If you are good at telling stories, then you have a great advantage; if you do not have the ability to tell stories, you need to have targeted connections.

There are many respondents on Zhihu who like to tell stories to answer questions. As the story rises and falls, it affects the readers' emotions, which can achieve good results.

Of course, in addition to storytelling, there are other techniques:

Use humor

Use exaggeration

Use analogies Method

In short, no matter what method you use, you must make the other person find this thing interesting, make the other person have emotional ups and downs, attract the other person's attention, and arouse the other person's interest in this thing, then it can be considered interesting. Yes.

4. You must have good social qualities and social skills

To make people interesting, you must not be annoying; otherwise, no matter how interesting you are, you yourself will not be annoying. Wait, then you're just a nuisance.

This paragraph simply talks about how to basically avoid being disliked.

1. The appearance is not offensive

Look at the face and figure. If it is passable and not offensive, it basically meets the standard. Of course, the clothing must also be neat, clean and generous. Can't be annoying.

2. Be confident but not arrogant

Confidence: If you don’t believe that your own stuff is interesting, how can you make others believe that this stuff is interesting?

Don’t be proud: If your own thing is the best, other people’s things are not good.

Then others will not be respected, feel attacked, and will have a rebellious mentality towards you. No matter how interesting something is, it will turn you off because of it.

3. Be polite

Be polite, educated, and treat others naturally and comfortably, and you will naturally not be disliked by others

4. Have a person Charm

If you can not only avoid being annoying, but also show unparalleled personal charm, then it will be a big plus for your interestingness.

5. Have execution ability

Execution ability is the last step in connecting the above four elements and is the embodiment of the above four interesting elements. If you think you have the above four elements but lack the final execution, then you cannot be considered a very interesting person.

1. Turn ideas into reality

Being able to turn your own ideas and creativity into reality is an ability and an interesting experience.

Some things require long-term research, long-term preparation, and long-term execution. If you can persevere and complete the execution, then you are an interesting person. For example, I saw a travel post about a 4,800-kilometer hike across the United States (the link is given in the example). This is a good example of turning an idea into reality and executing it. Demonstrates strong execution ability.

Of course, simple and easy execution is also very interesting. Especially if you have a romantic idea, it is very interesting to turn this idea into a reality and show it to your partner. The previous question on Zhihu "What techniques can make ordinary food look more romantic" is a good example (the link is given in the example)

So remember: execution is the normal guarantee of "interesting" output.

2. Dare to try