What is the feeling between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law?

I once saw a sentence that "the essence of the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is actually a triangular relationship." The connection between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is nothing more than a son, and they seem to be fighting for a man. This is also a famous proposition, "Your mother and I fell into the water at the same time, who would you be?" It has been a headache for countless men since ancient times.

In a big family, before a son marries a daughter-in-law, her mother-in-law is the mistress of the family, but as soon as the daughter-in-law appears, the daughter-in-law becomes the mistress of the family, and her mother-in-law will definitely compete with her daughter-in-law for the rights of the family. It is just that some mother-in-law can't distinguish the boundaries, can't understand their own position, constantly interfere in the marriage of their sons and daughters-in-law, and are dissatisfied with everything their daughters-in-law has done.

Another reason is that my mother-in-law has finally changed from a daughter-in-law to a mother-in-law after many years. Influenced by traditional ideas, she feels that her position should be higher than that of her daughter-in-law, and she has a feeling of being a master. It is also possible that the mother-in-law was not good to herself before, so she imposed such abuse on her daughter-in-law. Mother-in-law will attack her daughter-in-law in order to defend her position as the hostess, thinking that her daughter-in-law is an outsider at home.

In their own home, the daughter-in-law is the apple of their parents' eye. When you come to your husband's house after marriage, you will be ridiculed by your mother-in-law. After a long time, there will definitely be complaints. If her husband doesn't reconcile halfway, there will definitely be problems. The relationship between husband and wife is actually very important. The core of a family lies in the relationship between a son and a daughter-in-law, not a mother-in-law relationship.

According to our research, many mothers-in-law feel very uneasy about their son's attitude after marriage, fearing that his son will alienate himself because of marriage, and even scolding his son for "forgetting his mother when he has a daughter-in-law", while the newly married daughter-in-law will feel very uneasy because she can't quickly integrate into the new family, and she will also be afraid that she can't handle the relationship with her mother-in-law. At this time, if the mother-in-law interferes with the son-in-law too much, there will definitely be a relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.

As we mentioned above, the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is much more common in our daily life, but what makes the relationship worse is that whenever the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law go to war, the son caught in the middle, instead of helping to reconcile, instinctively wants to escape, which makes the relationship worse.

If you want to completely solve the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, you can learn the following methods:

1 Avoid quarreling

Quarrel is actually a very hurtful thing. When quarreling, both sides can't calm down, which will lead to saying some ugly words. The speaker didn't mean it, but the listener did. When he calms down, what he said during the quarrel will be like a thorn in both sides, so when he finds that the contradiction has reached the extreme and is about to quarrel, try to calm himself down and avoid quarreling.

The two sides actively manage the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law

As a daughter-in-law, you should honor your parents-in-law, and as a mother-in-law, you should care for your daughter-in-law. Both sides should really feel that the other side is their own family, care about each other in daily life, communicate well, care more about each other on weekdays and actively help each other when the other side is in trouble, so as to live in peace.

The son is a good intermediary.

As a middleman to maintain the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, the son needs to ease the relationship between the two sides. If there is a contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, the son can take the initiative to find the problem, mediate the two sides, and change and eliminate the prejudice between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.