After six years of love, I broke up just because I couldn't afford a house: Why is your love so fragile?

It is impossible to be in love for six years, but it is a sad story that my boyfriend broke up because he couldn't afford a house and became the most familiar stranger from now on.

Then people will blame the woman for being snobbish and realistic; Complaining that house prices are too high; Laughing at love is just a joke, which is simply vulnerable in the face of reality, but they never think about themselves in turn-six years is enough time for a person to complete the initial accumulation of wealth and work experience, enough for a person to get rid of naivety and maturity, but he not only has no accumulation of wealth, but even people who share weal and woe with him can't stay, which is a question worth pondering in itself-these six years, you

So, it's not because you can't afford a house that you broke your six-year relationship, but because of yourself; What broke you up was not because you didn't have a house, but the choice made by the other party after saving up enough disappointment; It's not the house that makes your love fragile, but your inaction.

0 1 time, where have you been?

I once saw a post on the Internet. A boy said that he has been with his girlfriend for five years and has been in love. But when it came to getting married, the girl suddenly proposed to buy a house in the local area. The boy couldn't come up with the down payment and had to give up.

Also, the story happened in the magic capital, and the down payment alone is not a small expense. But reading between the lines, this boy's education is not low. He has graduated for more than six years and his family conditions are not bad. It is reasonable to say that it is not a big problem to pay the down payment for a small house. How could he be separated because of the house?

According to the boys, they changed a lot of jobs after graduation. His girlfriend met him when he first resigned. She is a beautician. During his stay at home, his girlfriend supported their lives alone and never complained. He never imagined that his girlfriend who loved him so much would suddenly turn against him.

With a stroke of a pen, the boy summed up his girlfriend's heart and changed. The following comments are mostly one-sided, accusing girls of reality and material things. But how can a girl who is willing to work with you for seven years be a material person? Where have you been these years?

In the past five years, almost all girls have made progress, from an ordinary beautician to a store manager. Although my education is not high, I also obtained a bachelor's degree through online learning. In the past five years, in addition to a fixed salary, I have also saved a lot of money by selling products.

For five years, almost all boys have been looking for jobs and changing jobs until they broke up. Without savings, let alone personal promotion. With the increasing threshold of finding a job in recent years, he has fewer and fewer jobs to choose from.

So, when complaining that the other party broke up because they couldn't afford a house, ask yourself, where did your time go?

Can't settle down because of frequent job changes?

Why do you complain about the unfairness in the workplace because you are too arrogant to improve yourself?

You can't make ends meet because you can't manage money?

These problems are rooted in yourself. If you firmly grasp these six years, improve yourself and deepen your skills, even if you still can't afford a house, your girl may not leave you, because she knows and sees that you have been working hard.

Her departure only saved enough disappointment.

Lin Qingxuan wrote a sentence like this: "The oath of love is a dead leaf that occasionally floats on the running water. When it falls, it always flows away silently. "

When we are in love, we can't wait to cut our hearts into pieces and show them to each other, even at the expense of sketching out many beautiful blueprints for each other, just to win the hearts of the beautiful women in front of us. But when the other party asked to honor his promise, he was stupid. He often stared at the other party dumbfounded and stammered for a long time: "You have to see the gift, too." Is there nothing I can do? "

Is it really impossible? Or have all your vows drifted away quietly?

You promised to accompany her to her old age, promised to give her a good life, but when she asked you to fulfill your promise, it became material?

You made too many promises, so you were too young, but what about six years later? Is the promise of youth "the promise of innocence"?

You may not have meant it, but she did.

Women are the most emotional creatures. In her eyes, all your promises are expressions of love. She remembers, looks forward to and watches. As long as you struggle on the road to fulfilling your promise, she won't care about the result. What matters is the process of your realization. But if you just promise, but don't struggle, but deviate from your original promise more and more, then what she finally asks you is just a drop in the ocean among your many promises, such as a house.

Don't worry about contradicting me. Giving a home is a promise made by many boys to their girlfriends, but they just forget or don't want to admit it.

What scares the woman who has been with you for many years is not that you have no money, but that the future you promised is really far away; What makes the woman who has been with you for many years leave is not that you don't have a house, but that she thinks you have many opportunities to own a house, and you missed it, and she is very disappointed.

You have a good relationship, but it's just what you think.

I have always believed that most women value emotion over material things, and only when they are emotionally insecure will they turn to material things. I still insist on this view.

When many people mention emotional problems, they will simply say, "We obviously have a good relationship, but she just proposed to buy a house before marriage, so we can only part."

Can a boyfriend who has been together for six years afford a house? Will they have no points in their hearts? More is nothing more than trying to force each other to take responsibility for themselves. This also shows that your relationship is not really as good as you think, just as you think.

In this relationship, most women are insecure, so they are eager to use the house to prove your feelings for her.

Perhaps it is the lack of care in the usual relationship, perhaps the lack of communication, perhaps both sides have lost confidence in the maintenance of this relationship, and there are too many hidden dangers in this relationship. When it comes to marriage, when it comes to future life, the woman will inevitably have vulgar considerations-can you afford this family?

Therefore, when the woman suddenly changed her face and asked the man to buy a house to get married, the man thought that he could not do it and that the woman had changed. In fact, both of you have changed, one lacks self-confidence and the other lacks understanding, and this change has led you to move in different directions, and separation has become inevitable.

The breakup of a relationship has never been sudden for no reason, and all the departures have been planned for a long time. The house is just the last touchstone of your relationship.

Conclusion: "Marriage Psychology" said: "All happy marriages are based on self-concern, because any happily married couple will create a beautiful marriage only when two people with sound thoughts and independent personalities are combined."

Therefore, when the relationship breaks down for many years, you should first think of yourself and find out what you are missing and imperfect in this relationship, instead of complaining about the other person's material things or never being able to recover them. Only in this way can you have a happy future marriage.