If you love someone you can't own it. If you let go, will she really find her own happiness? I think if you love someone, you must own and tolerate them

I have had such a relationship that made me understand: there is such a person who is deeply concerned but has nothing to do with the family; there is such a love that is unforgettable but has nothing to do with marriage. First of all, I want to say that whether she can find her own happiness ultimately depends on herself. Your letting go just gives her a chance to choose. Of course, if you think that loving her, you must own her and tolerate her. This also makes her happy. a method. However, your consideration ignores the legal and moral constraints, and ignores the legal responsibility you must bear towards your wife and respect for human morality. Don’t you have any feelings for your wife, or has she done something that makes you unable to Have you endured anything? Your behavior fulfills your own feelings while hurting your wife. Furthermore, while you are still married, your behavior is unfair to her. The very idea that you want to have her. It's a kind of hurt, because you can't give her all of you, and you can't be an existence that completely belongs to her and allows her to rely on. Of course, taking a step back, if you really love her deeply, then you can also choose to end your marriage and be with her. Is this your plan? This is my answer to your first question. Your second question is to tell you whether she likes you through other people's understanding. From your conversation, I give you this understanding: It is certain that she has feelings for you to a certain extent, which can be understood from her conversation with you, but she has been following her own She is living her life at a pace, and now she is tired of her current life and work, so she is not willing to think too much about her emotional affairs, and you are a person who has the same past with her and can recall it, *** A man who can talk about the same topic and feelings, so she is willing and even likes to get along and chat with you. You are actually just expressing your depression through chatting. Money was mentioned in your conversation. You said you had one hundred thousand to give her, but she didn't want it. In these sentences, my understanding is that you can give her your money so that she can live a better life. You are already expressing your love for her with an understanding that has experienced reality and marriage. And her refusal also shows that she is still a girl groping in social reality, she has fantasies and longings, and she longs for beauty. You and her mentality can only be said to be the same on the surface but different on the inside. So I can only give you this answer to the second question: She just likes you, not in love with you. You are not her only choice. I just said that I had a relationship, and even now I can't control myself from crying when I think about it. But at that time, I had no choice but to let it go because he was a family man. For the sake of his family, and in order not to let him bear too much guilt about his children, I took the initiative to leave him. So I want to say, what does your feeling for her actually contain? You have to think clearly about why you are crying. Is it the paranoid persistence that you have never been able to get, the past love that is difficult to let go, or the love for her now? , when you think it through, if you can't let go of her and your feelings override your responsibility, then leave your wife and be with her, but please be kind to your wife. If you're willing to let go, she might actually be able to find her happiness. Finally, let me say this with personal feelings: You and your wife have been together for so long, which proves that you are a good match. But whether she can be with you day and night and take care of each other is unknown. As someone who has been there, you should know that whether two people can live together does not just mean falling in love. Life is far more complicated than love.