How to improve temper?

Question 1: What should I do if I have a big temper? A person's temper is related to his character, and his character is related to his virtue, which can't be faked. Virtue is cultivated bit by bit.

People with bad temper are generally impulsive people. In the face of many things, they often rely on their own perceptual knowledge to deal with problems, which is very bad. If you don't treat problems so impulsively and rationally, your temper will be much better.

People with bad temper tend to be talkative and aggressive when they treat others, which will not only leave a bad impression on others, but also encourage your bad temper while others tolerate you.

People with bad temper usually lack self-control, which is actually easy to exercise. When you are doing something that you find interesting, if you stop doing it, you have nothing to lose except unpleasant feelings, so force yourself to stop immediately.

Suggestion: Doing long-distance running every day is also a good way to exercise self-control ability, 2000 meters a day, so sticking to nailing every day will improve self-control ability, but fishing for three days and drying the net for two days will not improve it.

Question 2: What should I do if I have a big temper? How to adjust or how to adjust? Anger and anger are actually a hostile and angry state of mind.

. When people's subjective desire is contrary to the objective reality, this negative emotional reaction will occur.

Psychological research shows that bad temper and frequent anger not only strengthen the pathogenesis of heart disease, but also increase the possibility of suffering from other diseases. Therefore, in order to ensure their physical and mental health.

You must learn to control yourself and get rid of the bad habit of losing your temper.

Consciousness control When angry emotions are about to erupt, we should control ourselves with consciousness, remind ourselves to be rational, and hint to ourselves: don't be angry, it will hurt our health, and educated people can generally control it.

Admit yourself and dare to admit that you love to lose your temper in order to get help from others. If people around you constantly remind and supervise you, then your goal will be achieved.

Always put yourself in others' shoes and seek truth from facts. If you can stand in the other person's perspective, then, in many cases, you have no reason to take it out on others, and your anger will naturally disappear.

Be tolerant and generous, don't haggle over every ounce, don't retaliate, when you learn to be tolerant, the habit of losing your temper will disappear on its own.

Now in real life, some people often say: I used to get angry easily, but I didn't realize anything was worth getting angry until I got a heart attack. Please don't wait for a heart attack to stop being angry. If you want to overcome the bad habit of blonde temper, start today.

Question 3: What if you have a bad temper? First of all, we must understand that a person's temper is related to his personality, and his personality is related to his virtue. This cannot be faked, and virtue depends on his own cultivation.

Secondly, people with bad temper are generally impulsive people. In the face of many things, they often rely on their own perceptual knowledge to deal with problems, which is very bad. If you don't treat problems so impulsively and rationally, your temper will be much better.

For example, your wife or girlfriend lost 500 yuan. What will you do when you find out? Think about it. Touch your conscience and say what you would do if such a thing really happened. Your character will definitely say: Why are you so careless? 500 yuan was supposed to give it to you. Now you have lost something. What should you do? I think that's how most people with bad temper handle it! People with higher quality will handle it like this: they will calmly ask where and when they lost it, whether they went back to find it, whether they asked anyone, and so on. Then they will say that if you really can't get it back, forget it. If you lose it, you can earn it again, but you must be careful in the future! Remind the other party in a peaceful way, and the other party may accept it more easily.

In addition, people with bad temper will often talk and be aggressive when treating others, which will not only leave a bad impression on others, but also encourage your bad temper while others tolerate you.

For example, if someone asks you a question, which is quite simple for you, you will say: Why do you have to ask this question? Why do you have to ask a question that can be thought of with your knees? You're not retarded, are you? It seems like a joke, but it is full of arrogant offensive consciousness. People with high quality will talk about this problem in detail and then say that it is actually a simple problem. Do you understand after listening to me? This way of speaking gives others a follow-up and is easy to step down.

Finally, it is important that people with bad temper usually lack self-control. If this is done, it is possible to do three things in mind, otherwise. ...........

Self-control is actually a good exercise. When you are doing something that you find interesting, if you stop doing it and there is nothing to lose except unpleasant feelings, then force yourself to stop at once and not do it.

For example, when you watch TV, a movie is very interesting. You're watching. You really want to watch. Well, turn it off and do something else. Although you are still thinking in your heart, your subjective consciousness has begun to increase self-control. Gradually, you will find that your temper is not so bad, and people's virtue is also high. If you can do the above four points.

Finally, doing long-distance running every day is also a good way to exercise self-control ability, 2000 meters a day. Insist on it every day, and your self-control ability will certainly improve, but it is impossible to improve it after three days of fishing and two days of drying the net.

I hope my answer is helpful to you.

Question 4: What should I do if I feel irritable and have a big temper? Generally speaking, mood actually refers to a person's mood and emotional state. Emotion and emotion are produced by whether objective things meet people's needs, and they are the relationship between people's objective things and people's needs. For example, things that can meet people's needs or conform to people's wishes will cause positive experiences of joy, happiness and inferiority; If things can't meet people's needs or go against people's wishes, it will cause negative experiences such as anger, hatred and sadness. When the negative experience is particularly strong, it can be said that the mood is particularly bad. A bad mood can last for hours or days, which is very harmful to a person's physical and mental health. When you are in a bad mood, you can consider adopting the following methods to overcome it.

1. Exercise can make people feel happy, relaxed and lively, and it can cheer them up more than taking any good medicine. Studies have proved that emotions and emotions are the result of objective things affecting cerebral cortex activities. The external manifestations and internal changes of the body in emotional activities are related to the functions of the nervous system at all levels, and are the result of the coordinated activities of the cerebral cortex and subcortical center. Running, jogging, swimming, playing badminton, volleyball, basketball, football, cycling, mountain climbing and other sports. It can strengthen the heartbeat, promote the blood circulation and metabolism of the digestive system, make the brain get enough oxygen and nutrition, calm down the excitement and inhibition of the brain tape measure, and thus achieve the purpose of improving bad emotions. These exercises should last 3-5 days a week, with at least 30 minutes each time. Physical exercise not only affects physiological parameters, but also affects personality characteristics, especially plays a great role in emotional stability. Participating in sports activities can make people highly focused and is an effective way to control mental stress and psychological obstacles. They help to eliminate excessive tension, channel pent-up energy, ease or alleviate bad emotions and maintain mental health. Participating in sports competitions can provide a "drainage outlet" for bad emotions, so that the impulse generated by setbacks can be promoted to the driving force for progress. Sports have clear rules, so for those who are treated unfairly in social life and those who are eager for fair competition, sports is undoubtedly a good place to vent and realize their ideals. Some psychologists have affirmed the emotional excretion of exercise through a lot of research. These scholars believe that physical exercise is not only leisure or physical exercise, but also has the value of psychotherapy. It is like a purifying agent, which allows participants to vent and sublimate their pent-up emotions and energy through socially recognized channels and heal their injured hearts.

2. Listen to music and dance ballroom dancing. Psychologists' experiments prove that music can change the activity of brain waves. Many Chinese and foreign music have "* * *" in the nervous system, which balances the two processes of excitement and inhibition. And "adjustment". The specific method is: first of all, you should choose music that can meet your mood at that time. For example, when you are depressed, listen to music that makes you feel sad first. In this way, although it seems to increase depression, it is the first step to change your mood. Then play three or four carefully selected short songs and gradually enter the music that can make people happy. The social object of dancing, accompanied by melodious melody and harmonious dance music, is actually a kind of enjoyment of music, art, sports and beauty, which can make people feel comfortable, relaxed and happy, and relax nervous nerves, thus alleviating bad emotions.

3. Self-encouragement, language suggestion. When you are in a bad mood, you can comfort yourself with the philosophy of life or some wise thoughts and encourage yourself to fight against pain and adversity. In this way, he will feel very powerful and can cheer up in pain. In addition, you can also adjust and relax your psychological tension through the suggestive function of words, so that your bad emotions can be alleviated. For example, when you are angry, you can use words to imply "Don't be angry" and "Being angry will make things worse". When you are sad, remind yourself that "sadness is useless, useless." Let's face the reality and find a way! " . When there are big contradictions and troubles in your heart, you can encourage and comfort yourself with words like "Don't be afraid, don't worry, just calm down". As long as you relax and calm down, get rid of other thoughts and concentrate on yourself, this kind of self-suggestion often has a significant effect on improving your mood.

Use food. Eating carbohydrates alone has a calming effect because it can produce serotonin in the brain. Common carbohydrate foods include vegetables and fruits. Eating protein can keep you alert and brainpower. The best protein is shellfish, fish, chicken, beef and lean pork. About100g of these foods is enough ... >>

Question 5: What should I do if I have a bad temper and a big temper? Temper is one of the common psychological phenomena in daily life. Many young people are impatient and impulsive, especially when they are unhappy or don't like themselves. Sometimes they quarrel with others and say embarrassing things, or affect the unity between comrades or family harmony. People have good temper and bad temper. A good-natured person will be welcomed wherever he goes, and others like to cooperate with him and do things. People with bad temper often bring distress to themselves and others and make others find it difficult to get along with them. Some people have made a survey and found that most young men and women take asking each other to be good-tempered as one of the conditions when choosing a spouse. According to experience, we also know that if one or two people in a family or a small unit have a bad temper, it will often make the family or the collective disunited. Therefore, getting rid of bad temper is not only to eliminate personal distress, but also to promote family harmony and collective unity. A person's good temper has a lot to do with the environment in which he lives and works. Good temper, such as meekness, peace and patience, is often closely related to a harmonious and warm family environment and good upbringing; Bad temper, such as grumpy, stubborn, eccentric, willful, etc., is often related to being spoiled, spoiled or unable to get the warmth of the family, and parents are too strict. The smooth or bumpy road of personal life will also have a great influence on people's temper and personality. "A leopard cannot change his spots" means that people's temper and personality are stable, but it doesn't mean they are fixed. As we all know, some people have a bad temper when they are young and are as stubborn as an unruly cow; But after the tempering of life, especially the loss of bad temper, his temper gradually calmed down and he was less stubborn about things. So bad temper can be changed. Of course, some will not change, because he didn't ask to change his bad temper himself, or he didn't ask to change it seriously. So, how can we get rid of bad temper? First of all, the most important thing is to have a good understanding of the harm of bad temper. In social life, we always contact and associate with others, hoping to get their goodwill, friendship, appreciation and cooperation (of course, it is impossible for everyone to do so), otherwise, we will feel lonely, lifeless and unable to move. Human behavior is regulated and controlled by consciousness. Knowing the harm of bad temper, you can get rid of it from your heart. Secondly, we should strengthen ideological cultivation. Only by always thinking of others and respecting their interests and needs can we be full of warmth, consideration and love for others. Only by putting the collective interests first at all times can we not be impulsive and opinionated, and we can be calm and think twice before acting. Finally, we should have determination and perseverance to get rid of bad temper. If you can't remember it today, be careful. Two days later, we are still the same. With determination and perseverance, bad temper is bound to get rid of.

Question 6: The children around are a little grumpy. How to improve your temper is due to normal emotional response.

From a psychological point of view, a child's temper is a manifestation of psychological needs. With the development of physiology and psychology, babies gradually begin to touch more things. Whether their understanding of these things is correct or not, they can't rationally analyze and then decide to act like adults, but they all participate with their own emotions and interests, although these things are often unfavorable, unfavorable or harmful to him. So when the baby encounters setbacks or discomfort, it is natural to express it by losing his temper, such as throwing things or pulling his mother's hair. However, such behavior can only happen occasionally and cannot be used as a baby's habit.

2. Children aged 7 and before puberty have a big temper.

Babies around the age of two generally have a psychological growth process, which is self-centered. When something goes wrong, they lose their temper, throw toys, and wave their fists when they are in trouble. In fact, these are normal, because this is the child's first psychological resistance period, and it is a growth process that almost all babies will experience when they are about two years old. It's just that some babies are obvious and some are not.

As the baby grows up, the number of setbacks increases. By the time the baby is about five or six years old, the phenomenon of losing his temper at will gradually improve. As the saying goes, "seven or eight years old is a nuisance to dogs." When the baby is seven or eight years old, mom and dad will find this bad temper rising again. In fact, when a child is seven or eight years old, it is the most curious stage. He likes to open the alarm clock, almost paranoid to get to the bottom of it, just because of his strong inner thirst for knowledge. Children before puberty, girls are about 10~ 12 years old, boys are about 14~ 15 years old, and their mood fluctuates greatly, often showing irritability, depression and anxiety.

A loveless child has a big temper.

The baby's growing environment is also an important factor. Parents are the baby's first teacher. Mom and dad are short-tempered and irritable, and there are often wars at home. All these will hurt the baby's mind and make the baby feel distressed because there is no role model. In a subtle way, they will, like their parents, adopt simple and rude methods when encountering difficulties and dealing with problems.

Children who are emotionally hungry have weak communication skills with others. I clearly want to be friendly with children, but I don't know how to express it. In order to attract the attention of parents and other children, some children will deliberately do some abnormal behaviors, such as biting, beating, lying, crying and so on. An aggressive baby is not necessarily strong-willed, but because of his inner weakness, he uses force to protect himself.

How to deal with the baby's calf temper

After calming down, prescribe the right medicine.

In the face of the baby's calf temper, mom and dad should first try to understand them, then understand the child's thoughts and start to analyze why the baby loses his temper and prescribe the right medicine.

What children need most when they lose their temper is to get the understanding and tolerance of others. Mom and dad should first calm the child's mind, let him (her) calm down, listen to the child's thoughts, and find out the reason why he lost his temper. Find out the essence of things, then patiently teach him how to do it and analyze the mistakes. It is much better to reason after the baby's emotions are comforted than to preach when encountering problems.

Adopt appropriate educational methods

First, empathy education. Empathy education is to put yourself in others' shoes. In daily life, parents should set a good example for their children. For example, let the baby experience the feeling when the child gets the smallest apple. Empathy education can make babies more friendly and humble in communication with their peers.

Second, the positive reinforcement method. The positive reinforcement method holds that if reward reinforcement is given immediately after the behavior occurs, the behavior will be strengthened. When children care about others and make humble moves, parents should praise them in time and agree with their baby's performance. Take more praise to make him feel happy.

Third, regression method. Regression method is to eliminate some factors that strengthen bad behavior in order to reduce the occurrence of bad behavior. When mom and dad find that the baby has a bad temper, they should communicate with the kindergarten teachers more so as to find out the reasons for the baby's rebellious behavior and eliminate it as soon as possible. Timely criticize the baby's bad behavior and take measures to educate the baby to learn to deal with contradictions.

Let the baby learn self-control through cold treatment

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Question 7: I have a big temper. What should I do? Every time I want to lose my temper, I have to restrain myself and think about it.

Question 8: How to get rid of bad temper? In fact, people who love to be angry have both subjective and objective factors.

Subjective reasons mainly include: (1) method means that you are angry, as Chinese medicine often says; Second, you haven't learned enough knowledge (don't be angry);

In order to solve the subjective problem, I think the first thing is to eat more fruits and vegetables, the second thing is to listen to more music and get in touch with new things, that is, to make myself tired, but if I feel full, the last thing is to learn more knowledge. I suggest you study philosophy here. Really, if you learn philosophy thoroughly, I believe your personality and method of solving problems will definitely change.

Objectively speaking, you should have a correct attitude towards what happens objectively. Of course, the main thing is to look at the advantages of others and find out their own shortcomings. Especially after being angry, think about whether there are other solutions, because being angry or rude is definitely not the best way to solve the problem, only the worst way!

There is also a grateful heart, including relatives, children, parents, colleagues and friends around you. Whether they are "good" or "bad", they have actually helped you a lot. What you think is good can pass on experience, and what you think is bad can learn from it. It is because of these people that you know what is right and what is wrong. Do you say they have no influence on you?

Well, that's all. In fact, people's personality is hard to change, but some habits are easy to correct, just like you are angry. Wish you become a lady as soon as possible! You can love your family and friends more.

Question 9: I often wonder how to lose my temper. Being angry and losing your temper is actually a hostile and angry state of mind. When people's subjective desire is contrary to the objective reality, this negative emotional reaction will occur. Psychological research shows that bad temper and frequent anger not only strengthen the pathogenesis of heart disease, but also increase the possibility of suffering from other diseases. Therefore, in order to ensure your physical and mental health, you must learn to control yourself and overcome the bad habit of losing your temper.

Consciousness control

When anger is about to erupt, we should control ourselves with consciousness, remind ourselves to be rational, and hint to ourselves that "don't be angry, it will hurt our health, and people with self-restraint can generally control it."

Admit yourself

Dare to admit that you love to lose your temper in order to get help from others. If people around you constantly remind and supervise you, then your goal will be achieved.

Appropriate response

Any normal person will be angry when he is wronged, but no matter what happens, he should let the other party know what he borrowed from his words and deeds calmly and without prejudice, and should not react inappropriately quickly. Thus depriving the other party of the opportunity to admit their mistakes.

Put yourself in sb's shoes.

Everything should be honest and practical. If you can stand on the other side of the problem, then, many times, you have no reason to take it out on others, and your anger will naturally disappear.

easy

Don't haggle over every ounce, don't retaliate, when you learn to be tolerant, your tantrums will disappear on their own.

It's time to start.

In real life, some people often say: I used to get angry easily, but it was not until I got a heart attack that I realized that nothing was worth getting angry about. Please don't wait for a heart attack to stop being angry. If you want to overcome the bad habit of blonde temper, start today.

My temper is not very good, I think, first of all, we must learn to be tolerant.

Check first, do you have the following characteristics:

(1) When you get angry, you curse, smash things and even hit people.

(2) The emotional response is simple, lacking a sense of humor, not joking, keeping silent about the things that are satisfactory, and the things that are dissatisfied are often solved by quarreling and losing their temper.

(3) In the face of setbacks in life, there is only one way of psychological defense, and that is to vent.

I can't stand it at all.

He is quick-tempered and can do anything. He couldn't control himself at that time, and he especially regretted it afterwards.

(6) I can't listen to anyone's persuasion, especially when I am emotional.

These are typical characteristics of irritable people.

Anger can be controlled and temper can be changed. The key is to master the method.

(1) Situation transfer method: When anger suddenly comes out, people have five ways to deal with it. One is to suppress anger into your heart and sulk; The second is to lose your temper and punish yourself; The third is unconscious revenge and venting; The fourth is to lose your temper and vent your anger in a very strong form; The fifth is to divert attention to offset anger. Among them, transfer is the most active treatment. When you are angry, you will get more and more angry with people and things you don't like. At this time, you might as well use a "36-step plan" to quickly leave the situation that makes you angry. It's best to listen to music and take a walk with friends you can talk to, and then you will calm down slowly.

(2) Rational control method: When you are angry, you'd better let your own rationality take the lead. You can give yourself a hint and say to yourself: don't be angry. It's not worth getting angry about. Being angry is stupid and won't solve any problems. You can also give yourself an order when you are about to get angry: don't get angry! Hold on for a minute! Hold on for a minute! Good job! Hold on for another three minutes! Hold on for two minutes. I started to control myself. I might as well hold on for another minute. Three minutes have passed, why not insist? So, use reason to overcome emotions.

(3) Evaluation postponement method: Anger comes from the evaluation of "* * *", which may be a look of others, a sarcasm or even a misunderstanding of others. You were "furious" at that time, but if you comment after an hour, a week or even a month, you may think it's "not worth it".

(4) Sublimation of goals: Anger is a powerful psychological energy. If used improperly, it will hurt others, sublimate them and become a powerful driving force for success. We should cultivate lofty goals in life, change the habit of calculating gains and losses in trivial matters, and consider everything from the overall situation and the long term. Only by setting up lofty ideals in life can one tolerate others ... >>

Question 10: What should a woman do if she has a big temper? There is no way. A big temper means that people around you are letting you go. Get rid of them and you will know what accommodation is.

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