Some boys, obviously young, why do they look "greasy"?

What we call "greasy feeling" is actually a personal feeling with strong subjective consciousness.

Amazingly, this feeling often has something in common with many people. In other words, if you think a person is greasy, there will probably be many people who feel the same way.

However, if you ask: How on earth can you tell?

Maybe for a while, many people still can't say.

I have a college roommate who went on a blind date. When she came back, we asked her how she was doing in the group. She replied: No, I think he is too greasy.

Through her detailed description, I found that when she said greasy, she probably meant that boy, who didn't have that youthful temperament at this age. After a conversation, the topic was extremely depressing and heavy, always inseparable from money, and all kinds of details about her parents and her income were secretly inquired.

However, on the other hand, it is not calm enough. You ask generously, and she can understand all kinds of indirect temptations, thinking that the words are watertight. In fact, her own small calculations have long been exposed.

In her opinion, this is greasy.

This is a kind of maturity beyond age, and it can also be said to be smooth and secular.

But at the same time, I can't control myself and feel good about myself. In fact, it may be different if it falls into the eyes of others.

Moreover, "greasy feeling" is a large-span category.

Many middle-aged men seem to be inexplicably called "greasy" after reaching a certain age. These examples can refer to the entertainment circle.

The word "greasy" has been labeled by many netizens for many middle-aged male stars.

Including the TV series "Standing at Thirty", 37-year-old Liang Zhengxian was chased by Wang Manni, and many people complained that he was too greasy.

Besides his age, Liang Zhengxian's greasy clothes also have a "slightly vicissitudes of life" that is easily confused with greasy clothes. More importantly, some sweet words he said have a way of pursuing people, which is more exaggerated and brings the audience the most intuitive feeling.

However, why do some boys feel "greasy" when they are obviously young? What kind of personality boys are easy to make people feel greasy? I summarized it roughly.

The first one: I am mature and sophisticated beyond my age, and my fluency seems to be watertight, but because of my age, I always feel that I "put on a suit and pretend to be an adult".

This is the kind of boy my roommate met on a blind date.

There is no doubt that this type of boy has a deep mind and generally dresses as close to the word "mature" as possible.

Their way of speaking is indirect, they habitually say half and hide half, and they are also good at judging the situation and have their own judgments in their hearts.

I found a degree here. Some people may be praised as mature, while others are defined as "greasy".

In my opinion, the difference between the two lies in the way the other party speaks, whether it blindly touches your interests and makes you unconsciously resist.

Just like my roommate who went on a blind date, she had a good impression on boys at first. She thinks she is mature, steady and caring. When eating, she remembered to take care of her taste and asked her if she had any taboos before ordering.

Only later, the blind date boys blindly exposed their purpose, eager to get the answer. When we met for the first time, the topic of conversation crossed the line, and every sentence was measuring her condition, which made her psychologically excluded.

Boys emphasize their good conduct and say that he also values each other's conduct.

But it happened that he didn't hide it well and exposed himself at the same time, which was equivalent to self-denial. All kinds of performances, in the eyes of friends, are a kind of "greasy feeling" beyond age.

The second type: people who talk a lot and brag a lot, but can't do it, or even lie.

This type is most easily defined as greasy and is not limited by age. As long as you touch it, the label about greasy is easy to be attached.

Subconsciously, we appreciate people who are modest and trustworthy. These qualities are also excellent qualities to make a final conclusion.

This shows that everyone's attitude towards this matter is the same chemical reaction.

Some people talk completely out of touch with reality, boasting all kinds of things, just bragging about how powerful the people around them are, and making promises to others with their mouths open.

But I forgot what I said as soon as I turned around.

Obviously, skills are just a drop of water, but you can describe yourself as an ocean. But in fact, people around you can clearly understand the real situation.

After a long time, outsiders seem to agree, but they have a steelyard to measure them in their hearts, and maybe they will be seen as jokes.

The third type: write the calculation clearly on your face, be an out-and-out egoist, talk nonsense to your face and behind your back, and never talk to anyone.

Compared with the first kind, this kind of person can be said to be more extreme.

They are out-and-out egoists, please those who are good to themselves and despise those who are not as good as themselves. The so-called sycophants are bound to bully them.

Such people, no matter who they deal with, if they are friends, will definitely be on their guard and will not talk to anyone, because they have completely written their calculations on their faces.

No one is stupid and certainly doesn't want to suffer.

Most people of this type have a greasy and irretrievable age, which is a secular feeling clearly written on their faces.

In my opinion, the so-called greasy feeling actually follows the standard of "born from the heart".

What kind of person you are can often be seen from your appearance, especially as an adult.

Zhou said to:

"For a long time, a person's usual mentality and behavior are always accompanied by his own unconscious expression. After repeated countless times, these expressions will be engraved on his face and even leave special wrinkles. What is more difficult to hide is the eyes. A person with an empty heart can never pretend to be smart. We have all seen people like that, and their vulgarity is clear at a glance, as if it were written on their faces. "

Schopenhauer once said: A person's appearance is a painting that shows his heart, and his appearance expresses and reveals his whole personality.

So greasy feeling seems to be an external performance, but it is actually a personal value conveyed by this person's words and deeds through the details of life, giving people an intuitive feeling.

Compared with these, although external dressing also accounts for a certain proportion, the weight is really small, and the most important thing is to shape self-conduct.