Some people live for face, while others live for lining.

People want face, trees want skin, and face seems to be an eternal topic.

If you buy a house, I have to buy it; Your child went to a key school, and my child can't show weakness; You can make a lot of money, and I can pretend to make a lot of money. ......

In short, comparison is everywhere, and no one is to be outdone.

Later, I gradually discovered that the truly outstanding people are all quiet, and the bluffing people are often just to cover up their inner fragility.

Some people live a face, while others live a lining.

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The way you tried to hide it is really distressing.

There is a neighbor whose father is unemployed and whose mother is an ordinary factory worker. Mom works hard every day for this family, scrimping and saving, just to give the only baby in the family a better life.

It is said that the children of poor families have been in charge for a long time, and she may be afraid that life will be difficult and that she will be looked down upon. People always pretend to have superior conditions.

Wear brand-name clothes and use the latest mobile phone, no matter how hard your mother works.

Later, neighbors grew up and carried this vanity mentality to the end. Obviously it is the college entrance examination, but I lied to everyone about getting into the undergraduate course.

After work, I will still ask my family for living expenses, but I pretend to make money every day, and my circle of friends is full of sunshine.

Sometimes I really don't understand whether she wants to deceive others or herself.

My neighbor got pregnant soon after she joined the work, so she had no choice but to resign and have a baby at home. The man's family situation is not good either, and there is little support at home when they get married.

Although the man earns more than 10,000 yuan a month, it is simply a drop in the bucket for raising a family.

However, regardless of the actual situation of the two people, the neighbors bought an RV with various loans because of their face.

Because of this, their family's life is even more difficult, and they don't even have money for the wedding. After the baby was born, they were not only unable to support it, but also faced huge debts. The young couple quarreled constantly because of the pressure.

I often cry to borrow money from me, and sometimes I will persuade her.

Try to live a normal life, and you will be much more relaxed.

But for the sake of so-called face, she always pretends It's really distressing to watch her trying to hide her appearance.

It is true that she did live a face in the circle of friends, but in reality she lost her lining.

You have a good life, and you do have a lot of face, but in the end, you should try your best to live with your heart, and others will not think you have no face;

On the contrary, you obviously don't have that great ability, but you have to pretend to be all over your face. In the end, you will not only fail to pursue the face you want, but also become a joke in the eyes of others.

Sometimes people live tired, often because they can't let go of their face. I don't know the so-called face I pursue, but it may ruin all my face in the end.

2

Too much love for face is to cover up the inner fragility.

There was once a colleague who packaged himself beautifully every day and always seemed superior in everything.

Once, she bought a Pandora bracelet to show off to her colleagues. One of them didn't recognize it, so she immediately said:

Oh, how come you don't even know this? It's like you've never seen the world.

On another occasion, a colleague had a dinner party, and a colleague just casually asked if the hairy belly was cooked. She immediately said contemptuously:

In such a hurry, why haven't you eaten hot pot?

There are many such things. She always does. She especially likes to belittle others to raise herself and show her special side.

However, people not only don't think she has such a face, but gradually get away from her because of her rudeness.

Later, everyone learned that this colleague's father died early, and he was very tired living with his mother. Later, his boyfriend failed to marry her because of his ordinary family.

Since then, she has developed a personality that her face is bigger than the sky, and she takes pleasure in belittling others to win face.

In fact, it is obvious that her saving face is to cover up her vulnerability. The more she lacks, the more she likes to show off, afraid of being laughed at, despised and pointed at. Eager to be admired, eager to be recognized, eager to be respected.

It's just that she ignored it, was blinded by vanity, refused to recognize the reality, deceived herself, and would suffer sooner or later; If you live in the eyes of others, you can't put down your airs and live with a sense of identity. In the end, you will only embarrass yourself.

Face is always given by yourself, and others can't. Moreover, the pleasure of loving face and belittling others is only temporary, and it is the right way to win face by constantly cultivating your own lining.

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A truly capable person never cares about face.

In the final analysis, face is a weapon used by the weak to hide themselves. The real strong never care about face.

"Historical Records-Biography of Zhunyin Hou" records: Young Tu in Huaiyin insulted the book, saying: If he grows up, he should be good at carrying swords and fear his ears.

Public humiliation: faith can die, stab me! I can't die! Get out of my pants!

So I became familiar with the letter and squatted out of my crotch. Everyone in the city laughed at this letter and thought it was timid!

At that time, in the Qin Dynasty, Hu Hai was in power, Zhao Gao was in power, and officials were corrupt, showing signs of corruption.

Because there is no just law, bullies have government support and are lawless.

The bullies thought that Han Xin dared not stab them with his sword, so they taunted them.

Look at you, Han. You are a big shot, always wandering around with a broken sword. If you are not afraid of death today, stab me with your sword; If you dare not stab me, you must climb over my crotch!

Han Xin couldn't help looking around. He really climbed down from the bully's leg, and the whole street laughed at him.

To outsiders, it's a great shame for Han Xin to put up with "the humiliation of his legs" and lose all the men's faces.

However, he also escaped the disaster, and then stepped into the limelight step by step and stepped onto the peak of his life.

Have to say, Han Xin's face is lost, and the green hills are there. He is not afraid of not burning wood. Only by letting go of your temporary face can you earn more face and find a lining for yourself.

However, in reality, there are many people whose faces are bigger than the sky. They live for face all their lives, and people are afraid of tragedy, so it is difficult to achieve much.

Li Ka-shing once said that for the encouragement of * * *,

When you put down your face to make money, it shows that you are sensible; When you earn back face with money, it means you have succeeded; When you can earn money by saving face, it means that you are already alone.

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Linzi is more important than face.

So people don't need face?

Not exactly. Just to save face, you should know enough is enough, not play dead in the face.

Instead of chasing external face, it is better to cultivate your own lining with your heart. If Lizi has money, the level will be high, and the external evaluation will not easily affect you. Over time, I earned more face anyway.

Some people in life live a face, just like their neighbors and colleagues, living in the eyes of others all day and losing themselves;

In life, some people live just to be wives, such as Han Xin. There are many successful people in the world. Their mode and level determine the way they look at the world, live what they want and earn enough face.

Just like this sentence in "The Grand Master":

People live in this world, some live as faces, some live as linings, and only linings can win real faces.

May you and I both look down on other people's opinions and live our own lives.