When my mother chats with her friends, she always likes to talk about my shortcomings. I hate it. What should I do?

Same world, same kind of mother. It’s not just you, in fact many people have experienced this kind of thing, that is, our parents always tell others about our embarrassing things or shortcomings as a joke.

My mother used to really like to do this, that is, chatting with her colleagues in her spare time. As long as I was around, she would talk about me, and then start talking about my previous embarrassing things or shortcomings.

Although I didn’t like what she said before college, I still didn’t refute her. After she did this again after college, I didn't say anything at the time, but after I got home, I told her about this issue seriously.

I said I hope I won’t make fun of others about my embarrassing incident, especially when I’m present, because I’m very embarrassed. Tell her that it feels bad to be treated as a joke all the time. Many things happened when I was a child. I have no memory of those things at all. Don't tell others about everything. Even if you want to talk about me, you should praise me. You can point out what I didn't do well at home, but you can't talk about it with others.

Of course, the tone is not so stiff, but the meaning is similar, that is, you can't say anything bad about me outside.

My mother is the kind of person who respects children very much. Besides, I was in college at that time. She never thinks that she is right in everything just because she is a parent. Instead, she respects my opinions. She joked with others that I just thought it was fun.

My mother has not been like this since we talked about it.

If you don't like it, talk to your mother about it seriously. Don't quarrel. Arguing won't solve the problem. Let her understand why you hate her doing this.

Compare your feelings and she will understand you. After all, she loves you.