Why do Sichuan women marry in other places? The north is really good.

In recent years, a large number of Sichuan women have married to Sichuan, our land of abundance, which has caused some very bad influences. As far as things are concerned, I have been to some places, and it really looks poorer than Sichuan, but the locals think that Sichuan is not as good as them because many Sichuan women have married them. However, I want to say that poverty is definitely not the fundamental reason why Sichuan women marry abroad, because Sichuan is not rich, but it is far from the poorest place in the country. What's more, Sichuan is rich in products and beautiful scenery. It stands to reason that her children would never be so abandoned and rejected. Moreover, in some places in the north, even water is hard to drink, but why don't women there get married on a large scale? Why do so many women marry in Sichuan where living conditions are much better? By the way, when Sichuan women began to get married on a large scale in the early 1980s, Sichuan's GDP ranked first in the country! Ironically, most women in Sichuan are married to Hebei, Anhui, Henan, Shanxi and Shaanxi. The living standard of these places is not better than that of Sichuan, and the living environment is not as good as that of Sichuan, but it can lead a large number of Sichuan women to marry them. This is the great sorrow of Sichuan and these women! In my opinion, there are complicated historical, humanistic and practical reasons for women's remarriage in Sichuan. First of all, most Sichuanese today are descendants of Huguang immigrants in the early Qing Dynasty, and their personalities are also deeply influenced by immigrant culture, such as not being exclusive and yearning for distant places. Perhaps Sichuan people have a feeling of denying that their hometown is their hometown, and they always imagine the other provinces and the outside world too beautifully. Therefore, Sichuanese are one of the few people in China who have the idea of settling in their native land. Going out to start a business is the dream of many Sichuanese. Secondly, since ancient times, Sichuan has been the place with the largest number of people going out to be officials, doing business, traveling and studying in Southwest China. "Someone outside the home" is often something that Sichuanese feel very proud of and worth showing off. In the subconscious of Sichuanese, everyone may wish to have relatives outside. First, there is a strange phenomenon that I have never understood, that is, many Sichuanese always think that Sichuan is poor and other places are better than Sichuan. In other parts of China, people almost think they are the best in the country, including many underdeveloped areas. It's just that many Sichuanese think Sichuan is the worst, and it's often farmers who have never been far away. Most married women in Sichuan come from such families. Among married women in Sichuan, women from Chengdu Plain are the least. Apart from economic reasons, people in Chengdu Plain have a stronger sense of superiority than people in other parts of Sichuan. Many people are proud of the land of abundance and are unwilling to pursue the imaginary distant paradise. Second, economic and labor reasons are also very important. Most married women in Sichuan come from poor farmers, and most of them come from mountainous areas. Mechanization has not been realized in many places, and farmers work very hard. However, Sichuan peasant women often have to work in the fields like men. Agricultural mechanization in the northern plain requires rest in winter, and farm work is easier than in most parts of Sichuan. This is one of the important motivations for Sichuan women to marry abroad. Third, it is trafficking and matchmaking similar to trafficking. Among the abducted women rescued by the public security departments over the years, Sichuan women account for a considerable proportion. Trafficking and clever deception by traffickers are very important reasons why women in Sichuan marry abroad. People can't help asking, why are so many women trafficked in Sichuan? This is because many places in Sichuan are hilly and mountainous areas, and the traffic is inconvenient, which is conducive to traffickers committing crimes. Plain areas are relatively better. Raising girls at home in Sichuan is different from other places. Many girls in Sichuan live and grow as freely as boys, and it is common for farm girls to run around from childhood. In other places, especially girls in the north, the family is very strict, and their parents care about their actions. Once I helped a friend move in a city in the north. When the moving company transported the furniture downstairs, my friend's sister watched and the neighbors came to see it. My friend quickly called my sister upstairs and said, "With so many people watching, don't you know to hide?" This friend comes from rural Hebei, and her family's protection of girls can be seen. In such an environment, the possibility of girls being trafficked is naturally very small. Fourth, men from poor families in other places like to marry Sichuan women, which is one of the reasons why Sichuan women marry abroad. Sichuan is probably the least important place in the country to pay attention to bride price! Sichuan families generally don't regard their daughters as foreign goods, and they don't ask the man for a lot of bride price. In other parts of China, the backward custom of asking for bride price is still everywhere. Parents in many places have to save money for their sons' wedding gifts! For some men with poor families, marrying a wife has become a big problem. Because men in some places like to marry Sichuan women, because they can't spend any money. After the Sichuan woman got married, many local people had a ridiculous idea: his family married a Sichuan daughter-in-law without spending a penny, which shows how poor Sichuan is! Are Sichuan women happy after marriage? Sichuan women who are full of longing for marriage will soon find out how big the gap between reality and dreams is! It is undeniable that some women in Sichuan have a really good life after marriage, but I think this is definitely not the mainstream, not the majority. Because people in many places marry Sichuan women because they are poor and can't afford the bride price. Kind Sichuan families, regardless of money, easily married their daughters. When these innocent women arrive in the local area, they will find that the world is not what they imagined at all. I lived in rural Sichuan in my childhood. The rural conditions of my hometown are in the forefront of Sichuan, and my hometown is in the plain area near the city. The daughter of a rich neighbor actually married in the countryside of northern Anhui. Later, her parents went to visit relatives, and when they came back, they sighed and said a ridiculous thing: there was no toilet in the local countryside, and men and women urinated everywhere. After her parents went, she insisted that her daughter dig a hole! As for the local economy, her parents didn't talk about it in depth, but as far as I know, northern Anhui is a place where beggars run rampant, and many local villages have the custom of begging collectively during the slack season. This woman's home, a neighbor of my hometown when I was a child, is rich in the village. In the 1980s, a new building was built in her house, and I don't know why she married far away. Later, I don't know what happened. I heard that the woman's whereabouts are unknown and she has completely lost contact with her family. The northern countryside is not as rich as people think. In some places, in order to cheat marriage and marry foreign daughters-in-law, many families in Qi Xin have built beautiful buildings together. When it's a man's turn to date, let him use this building to coax foreign women for a while. This clumsy scam has deceived many women! Sichuan's superior ecological environment can only be deeply understood if you leave Sichuan. In the northern area where many Sichuan women get married, drought and water shortage, wind and sand are pervasive, and even eating vegetables has become a problem. I once met a Sichuan woman who married Hebei on the train and asked her whether Sichuan is better or Hebei is better. She said, of course, Sichuan is better. As long as you plant a vegetable in Sichuan and leave it alone, it can grow on its own. Hebei can't do it. Water and vegetables are scarce, and pickles are fried all year round. Sometimes I worry that I can't pump water and I don't even have insurance for drinking water. She returned to Hebei from Sichuan this time and brought back several sacks of Sichuan doll dishes. On the train, I also met a couple from rural Hebei, and their wives were from Sichuan. Both husband and wife took their daughters back to Sichuan to visit relatives. I heard my father ask his daughter, "Is Sichuan better or Hebei better?" The daughter said, "Sichuan is good, and there are mountains in Sichuan." Father said: "Hebei plain is also good, one is in Ma Pingchuan." The daughter added, "There are rivers in Sichuan." Father smiled awkwardly and said, "There is a river in Hebei, but you didn't see it." In addition to overcoming the big problem of diet, Sichuan women married to other provinces are also facing a severe test, that is, the widespread male chauvinism in other places. In Sichuan family, the husband is busy cooking, while the wife is playing mahjong with her neighbors. This phenomenon is normal, but it is difficult to understand if it is placed in other provinces. Men from other provinces seldom do housework at home, and their wives wait on men. On the contrary, many families from other provinces have guests at home and are not allowed to serve women (especially in rural areas). Only when men have finished eating can women eat some leftover soup and water. This phenomenon is hard to understand in Sichuan. No matter how big the guests are, Sichuan women will swagger to the table for dinner. I also met a woman who married from Leshan to Hebei on the train. According to her, their economy is not bad and their life is good, but her husband is too arrogant and often beats her. Every time she cooks, she wants her husband to help clean up the dishes, but he thinks it's a woman's business. So they often quarrel. Later, she couldn't stand her husband's fist and ran back to Sichuan. When she left home, she only took a little money with her (it can be seen that she has no economic status at home, and almost all Sichuan families are women in charge of money), and she has no money to eat in the car. I thanked the Sichuan villagers in the carriage for inviting her to dinner, and some even gave her a trip. She got off at Emei Station and went back to her hometown by bus. It was a summer night, and I don't know what path her thin and lonely figure will face in the future. This woman's experience is typical, and the situation she faces is also typical. It's actually worse than her. For example, for fear of a woman running away, many families are close to Sichuan women, which not only prevents her from having money, but also restricts her freedom of movement, and she is followed everywhere. Some Sichuan women find that the local area is poorer than their hometown after getting married. They regretted it and wanted to find a chance to escape. If they are caught back, they will either have their fingers chopped off or their legs broken. Another unspeakable sadness of married women in Sichuan is that their husbands are often old and ugly, they can't get a daughter-in-law in the local area, and they have to cheat foreigners. Some people even have physical and mental disabilities. (An old man from Sichuan, man show)