How did the cleverness of China people ruin the children when eating buffet?

Now, for many people, "taking advantage" and "taking advantage" have become a kind of cleverness that represents the Chinese style. In fact, everyone can see some "impolite behaviors" that most people are robbing in their daily lives. However, these things are not only done by adults, but also imitated by children.

The whole family went to a buffet to get back to Ben and make the baby vomit.

I heard a story shared by others, saying that he saw a very interesting phenomenon at a table next to him when he went to eat buffet. There are three people at the next table who come to eat. When he first came, he asked the waiter to take the food from the next table for a round. The child already looked at the feeling of losing his appetite, but the parents were still eating and asked the child to continue eating.

When I got to the back, the child refused to say that he couldn't eat any more, but at this time, the mother spoke: The food here is so expensive, you don't say that you like ice cream, so eat more today, or don't yell for me to buy it for you next time.

So I forced my children to continue eating two ice creams and some expensive seafood. Finally, when they finally looked satisfied and left, the children vomited directly at the door and kept shouting that their stomachs were uncomfortable.

Seeing this, I believe many people will use this measure of equal interests to carry out a "moral kidnapping" of their children. This is what China people call cleverness. Parents always think that they can get their money back by eating more in the buffet, but they don't know, "You think you have taken advantage, and the boss never suffers."

This sentence is equivalent to many social phenomena. For example, in the free tasting area of the market, many grandparents like to take their children to eat, drink and talk with them. They can taste delicious food here and then go back.

These behaviors not only did not make them occupy a substantial advantage, but also made this distorted value directly have a bad influence on children.

Parents should know that petty advantages are not worth taking, which will make children set a wrong example. Don't let this Chinese cleverness hurt children.

Besides the inadvisability of Chinese intelligent education, what educational misunderstandings should parents pay attention to avoid?

1: It can stimulate children's efforts.

In life, parents chat after dinner, and their favorite sentence is "other people's children." One of China's parents' favorite things to do is to compare their children with other people's children.

Parents think that contrast is an incentive, but it is a blow to children. Parents always compare others with themselves in everything. Children will feel insecure and feel inferior. If children are in a rebellious period, they will hate their parents' comparison behavior very much.

Similarly, if a child says to his parents, "Why don't you look at other people's parents?" How do parents feel?

2. Everything is good for children, and you can sacrifice your happiness for children.

In the past few years, we have often seen a lot of news. Some interviewed parents have actually divorced, but in order not to affect their children's college entrance examination, this matter has been kept secret. In addition, in order not to affect the children, even if the marriage is only an empty shell, the relationship between husband and wife can no longer be maintained. For the sake of the children, we must support it.

"For children, no divorce", "For children, no publicity" and "For children ..."

If you really want to be good to your children, the most important thing is to live your own life. If parents can't handle their own lives well, how can they be good to their children? Don't let the sake of children become your excuse, which will make children feel an unprecedented burden and affect their quality of life.

If parents' marriage really can't go on, and they are afraid of affecting their children, then communication is a necessary means to solve the problem. After all, hiding it all the time is not a long-term solution.

3. Children have no sense of shame and self-esteem.

I believe many parents will do these things: when everyone gets together, push their children out to perform a program or show themselves; Beating and scolding children in public, etc.

When someone comes out to dissuade them, parents always say: at a young age, it is not shameful not to know what to lose. I don't know if this will bring psychological shadow to children. Many children's gloomy characters when they grow up are probably influenced by this scene when they were young.

Parents should not think that their children have no sense of self-esteem and shame when they are young, thus forcing them to do things they don't want to do. They are also used to putting their children's mistakes in front of everyone and telling them as jokes after dinner for everyone's fun.