My mother-in-law is too selfish. In a city, she didn't help with the children, didn't give money, and snickered when she saw my wife and I quarreled. What kind of mentality is this?

You can put yourself in others' shoes.

Why do you think your mother-in-law must help you with your children? It's wrong not to help you?

Mother-in-law finally brought up her daughter, so it's understandable that she wants to be at leisure when she is old. Besides, even if my father-in-law doesn't need her mother-in-law's help at the construction site, what should your mother-in-law do if she just wants to accompany her husband? That's understandable. Moreover, from the traditional concept of China, it seems that bringing grandchildren is a matter for the man's family.

I don't think I can blame my mother-in-law, and then her mother-in-law took it out on her wife, which eventually led to cracks in her marriage. Besides, you have a problem with your mother-in-law, so your tone of voice may be a little impulsive, and it is understandable that your daughter protects her mother.

Then the problem goes back to the original point, that is, no one cares about the children.

This problem cannot be solved by divorce. After the divorce, will someone take care of the children?

Divorce is only the most impulsive and negative way, which does not help solve the problem at all. Are you really considering a divorce? So who will get the children after divorce? Usually the woman's, right? Then any child may be tragic and may change his surname. Then there are many problems. When he grows up, his marriage is more easily influenced by his parents. This road is no good.

If something goes wrong, you can't get into it. You must find a way. You are impetuous now.

Children are born by themselves and should be raised by themselves. No one can blame them. Old people have no obligation to help their children take care of their children. They are willing to help take care of them, which is lucky and grateful. It is reasonable not to be reasonable, and there should be no resentment at all.

The current situation is that your parents are in poor health and their home is far away, so they are not suitable for taking care of their children. Mother-in-law doesn't want to bring children, and father-in-law is in the field; You and your wife have no time to take care of the children at work. If the first two conditions are regarded as immutable, what about the third condition? I know a person who takes turns to take care of the children, one on the day shift and the other on the night shift. Some people quit to take care of their children. Or you can find other ways, such as sending them to a nursery or hiring a nanny ... Nowadays, young couples have no time to take care of their children, which correspondingly promotes the development of the childcare industry. Actually, you can get to know it. It's very developed. ...

Therefore, in the matter of taking care of children, we should have a new concept and don't stick to the idea of asking parents to help take care of children. Parents are old, it is better to let them enjoy their old age. How can we disturb them? The best we can do is hug Doby on holidays.

Children are the crystallization of love and marriage. Don't put the cart before the horse just because you have children, because children affect your marriage.

Many people think that sons are their own good and wives are others' good. Why? Because the son is his own, there is no way to change it. You can't find another child in the street who says it's his own, and the blood is there. Even if our son is not good, we can only try our best to change our cognition in our hearts and adapt ourselves to reality. Nice son. But the wife is not necessarily. Divorce is easier now than before. We don't have to change our point of view and think that she is good, then the advantages of others will be more obvious and the shortcomings of wives will be more dazzling.

So now we must first find a way to solve the problem of bringing children, and then repair the marriage relationship. You and your wife have no conflict of principle, and there is another child there. Don't let the crack expand, to make up. One day, couples are grateful for a hundred days. In fact, the wife is her own hobby, and the son or wife is pregnant in October.

Haha, a lot of nagging. Actually, I just don't think it's easy for two people to be together, and it's even harder to start a family and have a baby. In fact, you are already very happy, so many leftover men and women want to get married and still can't find an object. What if the individual is excellent? Marriage is unhappy and life is incomplete.

Problems in marriage are inevitable. If one road doesn't work, just open your eyes and find more solutions, and two people will solve it together.